We're fairly new to this EC business. Started about 4 months ago, very part-time, and DS is 18mo now.
Our approach has been to just have him naked any time we're home and he's awake, and cue him to pee roughly every half-hour to hour. He just gets diapers when we're out of the house and when he's asleep. So far he hasn't initiated going to the bathroom if he has to potty, but he's really good about shaking his head "no" if I ask him and he doesn't need to yet. If he does need to, he'll look towards the bathroom or just not shake his head. We have maybe one or two misses a day, always when he's playing and doesn't want to be interrupted...he shakes his head "no" when I *know* he has to go.
When we're outside, I just let him go - I don't take him inside to potty. Is that going to be confusing for him; should I be taking him inside (we pee him over the sink; he refuses the little potty)? I'm just worried that whenever we get to undies he's going to think he can just go whenever we're playing in the yard.
Speaking of undies - he definitely associates being naked with using the potty, and having anything covering his bum means he can just go. That's pretty common in conventional potty training, right? Anyway, I tried some trainers on him yesterday and he peed right away, both times I used them, and then for the rest of the day he peed in little dribbles in the floor rather than waiting to use the potty. So...do you think I should wait on undies until he can prompt me on when he needs to potty?
I think the sporadic diaper use is confusing for him, but I don't know how to get around it. He nurses through naps and through the night, and definitely needs to be diapered. We're not quite ready to use potties while we're out...and then we still have the problem of him assuming it's "safe" to pee when he's wearing undies. Oh, also, he only poops in diapers. He poops always either right after we diaper him for nighttime, or immediately upon waking in the morning.
I mean...he's 18 months now, and we started so late...should I be considering this more PL rather than EC? I have no goals in mind, really...the only reason I'm somewhat eager to get him out of diapers is that we've had some rash struggles. We do the UP thing and I'm not going to praise him for using the potty, and that seems to be involved with just about every PL "program" I've seen.
Any advice is appreciated!