My DH is from a culture where most moms with small children have a live in nanny/cook/maid who is very inexpensive so the mom can work.
I have always wanted to be a SAHM, and have always been up front with him about. He just doesn't understand - he doesn't understand why I would want to SAH and why it would be important for our kids to be with a parent.
It's hard for me that he doesn't get it because it's somethng that is so important to me. I have a advanced education (masters) and was very successful, but now I just want to be with my kids - at least for hte first 3-5 years. Since DD was born 3 1/2 years ago, I've had to work part time but have been lucky that it's been a very flexible job and she's only had to be with a babysitter for 12 hours or less a week.
We are moving to a culture where we will have full time help, and I'll likely work part time (less than 20 hrs per week) - but DH doesn't understand why I would still want to be with the kids so much when we will hire someone to do most of hte cooking and cleaning.
Do you know of any short articles that talk about the benefits of young children being with their mothers, or about mothers who were successful career women who decided to be at home?