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[kateadelle]

Was feeling so much better last week and then the m/s is back with a vengeance the last two days. Blech.

Made the mistake of wandering into Babies-R-Us over the weekend while killing time  between an appointment and a lunch date with my best friend. Whoa. I think I actually had a panic attack when I saw all of the stuff in there - half of which was completely unrecognizable to me. I had to call my sister (who has 2 kids) to talk me down and assure me that I did not in fact need all of that crap and that much of the stuff I did need could be purchased used. Thank god for the experienced mamas in my life!

11 weeks today!

[Jackies]

I wouldn't go so far as to say it's not safe, but maybe pay more attention to the ventilation. I guess the heat will make the chlorine evaporate into the air more, and if there's not good ventilation you would breathe more of it in. The consensus is the benefits outweigh any risk, but I'm sure many people are like me and want to go beyond what is normally considered safe since other people's definition of safe is not the same as mine (like triclosan in a public bathroom soap).

Saltwater is much better, but if you're like me and use a public pool that isn't up to you. My MIL has a saltwater pool she loves, but she's across the country.

Here are some pages I came across.

http://www.babycenter.com/406_is-it-safe-to-swim-in-a-chlorinated-pool-during-pregnancy_1246880.bc

http://www.babble.com/pregnancy/my-pregnancy/swimming-while-pregnant-chlorine-safe-during-pregnancy/

ETA: I keep pressing reply instead of quote. I'll get the hang of it eventually :)

Edited by Jackies - 5/28/12 at 10:28am

[Jackies]

Originally Posted by kateadelle 

Made the mistake of wandering into Babies-R-Us over the weekend while killing time  between an appointment and a lunch date with my best friend. Whoa. I think I actually had a panic attack when I saw all of the stuff in there - half of which was completely unrecognizable to me. I had to call my sister (who has 2 kids) to talk me down and assure me that I did not in fact need all of that crap and that much of the stuff I did need could be purchased used. Thank god for the experienced mamas in my life!

That is a wonderful secret that stores don't want you to know. I never had a crib, changing table, diaper genie, or playpen for DD. The best part is your life is actually easier without all that crap.

I have a friend that lives in a different country most of the time. Her baby shower was in the U.S., so she could only take what she could lug onto a plane with her. She still said her partner would think it was too much stuff.

[kel]

Yeah, you really need hardly anything for a new baby - diapers, clothes, a sling of some sort and not much more.  Our one big purchase is always the car seat - which should be new - but anything other than that, you can wait and acquire it when you find that you need it - (often you'll find that you don't.)

travelmumma - I've been crying a lot lately.  I think I've cried every day for the past week - like sobbing crying.  My normal stresses seem so much bigger now and I'm very very weepy.  It's exhausting. 

I've also been eating too much junk to cheer myself up - today I'm going to take good care of baby and body - eat really well and go for a nice walk.  xox

[darkblue0729]

Originally Posted by kateadelle 

Was feeling so much better last week and then the m/s is back with a vengeance the last two days. Blech.

Made the mistake of wandering into Babies-R-Us over the weekend while killing time  between an appointment and a lunch date with my best friend. Whoa. I think I actually had a panic attack when I saw all of the stuff in there - half of which was completely unrecognizable to me. I had to call my sister (who has 2 kids) to talk me down and assure me that I did not in fact need all of that crap and that much of the stuff I did need could be purchased used. Thank god for the experienced mamas in my life!

11 weeks today!

I promise that all you NEED is working boobs, the ability to cuddle, and some nappies (cloth or sposies). Our babes cosleep in our bed for a good while, we never had a changing table with either of our daughters, we finally thought it would be funny to finally get one with DS, so We found this antique dresser we loved, refinished it, and used it with one of Ikea's weird inflatable pads on top....Babies R Us is like the bane of my existence, lol, trying to squeeze money out of new parents for useless items, grrrr. You will be fine mama!! You come equipped with all your baby needs!

[tropicana74]

We got rid of all our baby stuff last year when we moved because we were done having babies. DS was still in a crib at the time so we do still have that. So  now that I am pregnant and thinking about what I need to get for baby I realize that my list is very short. After having enough babies you realize what is really necessary and what isn't. My list of things to buy looks like:
car seat

warm sleepers

onesies

diapers

A couple blankets (especially because it will be winter)

I do still have a small breast pump too which is important for me in those first couple months because I make a ridiculous amount of milk and usually need to pump the excess to stay comfortable.

My MIL says she is throwing a baby shower for me. I think this is a huge waste. Unless they just want to bring diapers I don't really see the point. (I think this may be more about her being this phenomenal party planner and she loves an excuse to plan an event)!

Speaking of showers, I asked her if she thought it was kind of in bad taste to have a shower for your 4th baby. She laughed and said that in the town that I live in (the one I have lived in for a year and can't wait to get out of) there is no such thing as bad taste since the culture here is very "non PC".

What are your thoughts on it? I feel uncomfortable about it.
 

[Mamabeakley]

Well, I dislike baby showers on principle since I think in our culture they are all about the baby and what we should be doing is celebrating the mama.  But especially if you don't have baby stuff anymore, I don't see anything distasteful or inappropriate about a shower for a 4th baby.  I'm having my 4th, too, and I'll have to think about what I want.  The only thing we actually need is a carseat, because the infant seat we have has expired (bought it for DS2, who just turned 6).  But my kids would probably like for there to be a party.

[zebrachick83]

Hey ladies! We have a small baby list this time too. We still have both of our last boys' cribs and a changing table, so we're good there. But I will need a carseat and a stroller, though. We have a double stroller but we hardly use it now. (I should probably put it on Craig's List.) Outside of that, we'll only be buying onesies, socks, and maybe a sleeper or two. I'm hoping to make most of the other new baby stuff. *emphasis on "hoping"*...lol

[nosreves]

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Edited by nosreves - 7/13/12 at 4:10am

[kel]

I'm not a huge baby shower person either, but I think the idea behind them is sweet.  I wouldn't worry about what's in bad taste either - I don't think that should be a concern.  Most baby showers involve wish lists and if all you need is diapers (but you can probably think of a few other things - be creative - they could be parenting books, or gift certificates, or a massage...)  then just list diapers!  Also, you usually get to choose who you want to be there - so I think you should have fun with it. 

[sunseeker]

tropicana74 - we also just gave away or sold most of our baby stuff, only a couple months ago! I actually recall saying to my husband, as we sold our newborn diaper stash, "well, now we're guaranteed to get pregnant again, just because we've gotten rid of all our stuff". And here we are. We have lived in Minnesota nearly our whole lives, and just bought a snowblower for the first time, and of course, we got no snow this year. And now we got rid of all our baby stuff, and of course, we're pregnant :)

I probably won't have a baby shower, but sure wouldn't mind if my family had a little dinner party for me :) I will need a car seat, cloth diapers, new sling, baby clothes! And a double stroller - I can't believe I will need one, I never thought I would, and they are SO expensive. I still have a Beco Gemini carrier that I like, and some larger size cloth diapers, bassinet, and a few other items.

I have enjoyed baby showers in the past, when they are classy and don't have any humiliating games involved. 

[phatchristy]

Originally Posted by Jackies 

That is a wonderful secret that stores don't want you to know. I never had a crib, changing table, diaper genie, or playpen for DD. The best part is your life is actually easier without all that crap.

I remember the same thing...in my case my brother was building a house and decided to let me 'use' his baby stuff for our first because he needed a place to store it.  Well, out of all of that stuff I wound up using the changing table.  And, that was because at the time we had little furniture.  For the second I had one of those nice curved changing pads on top of a new dresser we had.  I think for the third if I pretty much changed the baby wherever with one of those 'travel type' changing pads.  Saw one that a friend had and thought it was super convenient.  

And, assuming you're nursing, it's amazing how much more transportable the babies are!  I would see all these moms with a stroller filled with stuff and diaper bags so stuffed they couldn't close them.  I could go out with baby and some dipes/wipes basically.  

My husband bought SO MUCH FOOD over the weekend.  Oh my, he went out and bought a ton for us.  Some ready made, and a ton of yogurt, strawberries, blueberries, peaches and watermelon.  I ate so much stuff this past weekend I almost feel guilty.  Though eating so much seems to keep me less nauseaous.  So good I guess...

BUT, the kids wanted to have rice krispy treats (don't think I've made them in 5 years or so).  Made a pan yesterday and they're almost gone already.  Well, there are 6 people in the house...but those things are seriously dangerous!!!

[darkblue0729]

nosreves-for what it's worth, I won't be having a baby shower...I had my first one with my third child and it was mostly uncomfortable, lol, a few older ladies in our neighborhood decided to throw me one and it was veeeeery stuffy...I'm a crunchy hippy chick and um, well, sitting for two hours in someone's parlor looking at a chocolate fountain you're afraid to use? Eh, not really my style. My friends are awesome and usually gift us with awesome stuff, they just are a bit too disorganized to pull off a coordinated event-and I love them for that!

Yesterday was my daughter's favorite stuffed rabbit's birthday, and he's vegan so we had homemade vegan chocolate cake and homemade vegan ice cream. We all wore bunny masks and gave Bunbun a super big bundle of carrots with a sparkly ribbon, lol.

Today I weeded my garden early in the morning, and woah, when the heck did bending over suck so much? And I almost hate to complain because I know it is only going to get worse. It's not even noon here yet and I need mashed potatoes. Like right now. Again.

Hope all is well with you mamas!

[kateadelle]

One of my two best friends is also pregnant with her first baby (due 5 weeks before me) so I will be in the interesting position of throwing a baby shower for someone else. I am hoping it will be fun and not lame. I am going for really non-traditional and meaningful for her. She has requested a uterus shaped pinata (I don't know how I feel about having people hitting anything uterus-shaped with a stick, but she seems ok with it). If we do it while it is still warm out I was thinking a pool party would be fun. Personally, I would kind of like it if my "shower" involved all of my friends going bowling or something like that - as long as there is cake I will be happy. I really want that damn cake.

[segolilymama]

This is baby #4 for me, and I am actually hoping for a shower - like several of you, I have no baby stuff left. I have a few small sized diapers left, and a couple of things my partner & I bought for each other when we were trying to get pregnant. A friend gave me 4 bags of clothes she was giving away, and there is literally nothing in them for babies under 6 months, lol...

I agree with the 'needs' lists. I had a crib with DS1, 13 years ago; I found it was a wonderful place to store the clean laundry that I didn't have time to fold. I do have my slings, and the blankets that were made by myself & other family members. I need baby clothes (shower idea: get onsies in various sizes, and have guests decorate them with fabric paints and/or sharpie markers), some more diapers, but mostly I want the shower to be more of a Blessingway than anything. Oh and a car seat would be a wonderful gift :)  I gave my Britax away to my god-daughter, and she's still using it, I would never ask for it back!
 

[segolilymama]

This is baby #4 for me, and I am actually hoping for a shower - like several of you, I have no baby stuff left. I have a few small sized diapers left, and a couple of things my partner & I bought for each other when we were trying to get pregnant. A friend gave me 4 bags of clothes she was giving away, and there is literally nothing in them for babies under 6 months, lol...

I agree with the 'needs' lists. I had a crib with DS1, 13 years ago; I found it was a wonderful place to store the clean laundry that I didn't have time to fold. I do have my slings, and the blankets that were made by myself & other family members. I need baby clothes (shower idea: get onsies in various sizes, and have guests decorate them with fabric paints and/or sharpie markers), some more diapers, but mostly I want the shower to be more of a Blessingway than anything. Oh and a car seat would be a wonderful gift :)  I gave my Britax away to my god-daughter, and she's still using it, I would never ask for it back!
 

[nhklh]

I'm feeling sick and mopey and weepy, and just want to whine about it all day long.  Which of course won't make me feel any better, but still!  I keep reminding myself how much worse it was last time.

Babyshowers aren't very common here, and I don't think it'd be my sort of thing anyway.  I'll probably have a blessingway though.

[esp831]

Hi All, we've been out of town and I've missed my DDC time.  I forgot to answer in the last weekly thread about Vitamin D.  My OB checked and my levels were low, as predicted in Seattle, so with all of your good advice I've been supplementing 5000 IU/day.

DarkBlue-Bunbun's birthday party sounds amazing!  I hope something like that happens around here soon.  And now mashed potatoes sound SO good.  

I'm now 12w3d and feeling a ton better.  Not completely out of the woods yet, but the nausea is sooooo much better and I can get through some days without a nap.  There is hope ladies!  The horrible first trimester does indeed end.  I was super frustrated when I had a couple of nasty days last week, but all is well now.  I'm hopeful that soon the sour milk taste will be gone from my life for good.

The baby shower situation is tricky.  We still have quite a bit leftover from DD2, and most of it's pretty gender neutral, except for the clothes.  Our list is pretty small.  I don't really want a shower because our last one was a huge huge huge deal with games and public present opening and everyone besides me got to drink :(  If someone offered a small ladies lunch at a french restaurant, I certainly wouldn't poo poo that idea.  I don't think its considered in poor taste to have showers for 3rd or 4th kids these days.  I know many folks who have done it in very tasteful ways where it really does seem like a celebration of mama and baby, not just a "stuff getting" extravaganza.

Manicotti for dinner, can't wait!

[travelmumma]

Agreeing with all those who are eating up a storm!!! Unless I eat a ridiculous amount every hour I am sick!

Agreeing that baby showers aren't really that important to me! But a MAMMA shower- bring it on!! Now to find some people I like who aren't going to give me disposables!

We aren't buying a whole lot, and this is baby number one. I have had lots of babystiing/nieces/nephews/cousins in the past tho, o I saw how much you really don't use.

We got given my brothers crib

FIL will be giving us a car sea

MIL wil be buying us a pram

Thats about it! 

[Mamabeakley]

Got to hear a heartbeat today!  DH & I interviewed one of the two midwives we are probably considering.  At the very end I asked if she would mind listening, and it took a while but she found it!  Definitely made my day.  

DD (age 2.75) has a fever for no apparent reason (except that she's still working on her last set of molars), AND my doula client is probably going into labor tonight.  This should be interesting.  DD is still nursing mostly because she objects to the idea of being a 'big girl' and 'weaning', which her oh so helpful big brothers told her she would have to do now that I was having another baby.  But there's really very little milk in there and mostly she sucks for a few minutes and then tells me she's thirsty.  DH is a perfectly capable caregiver.  So I hope it will go fine.

I'm only 11 weeks tomorrow and I'm definitely having 'good days' now.  Not ALL of them, but some of them.  This gives me hope that I will actually feel good later on this pregnancy - I never really felt all the way good in DD's pregnancy and I was worried it was just that I was getting older and this one would be that way, too.