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post #61 of 84

I posted this link in another thread, too, but with all the talk about loss - I thought I'd post it again.  It isn't a downer at all - so do read it.  It's just a very touching response that a father has written about a miscarriage his wife is going through, with some beautiful thoughts on life and birth.  xox

 

http://pacingthepanicroom.blogspot.com/2012/04/missed.html

post #62 of 84

I think a swap sounds super fun. Surprises are one of the best parts of life.

 

Anyone have any tips on fighting the tiredness other than take more naps? I'm dragging myself around big time.

post #63 of 84
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I am in love with the idea of a Skype mama shower...in my last DDC we had a sign up for a birth bead club, maybe this time around we could do a sign up for sending one small inexpensive treat to another mama, we could come up with a cost limit and run it almost like a secret Santa once we start hitting our third trimesters...then maybe we could have a Skype opening, lol :)

 

 I'm going to pick up some raw milk from our friend's farm today -they raise miniature jerseys...oh my goodness they are so stinkin' cute!!

And is it just me or is anyone else really feeling emotional about all the mamas who have had losses? My heart feels so heavy for each of them.

LOVE the idea of a "secret" shower gifting!


Speaking of  raw milk, who all is drinking it? We have a local dairy that we have been buying from for some time now. Milk has not been settling well with me this pregnancy so I hadn't been drinking much of it anyway.Before we started drinking it I had read all the risks/benefits and had decided it was worth it. I just read a post from another mom here on Mothering whose whole family got sick from a farm her in my state....she, her DH and 2 kids all had bloody diarrhea for 3 weeks. They made a complete recovery but it just made me feel a little unsure about drinking it while pregnant. I have been buying myself a jug of their low heat pasturized for when I do drink it....I love raw...just a little worried about the risk??

 

I am heart-broken about all the losses here too. It seems like such a large percentage for our little group. greensad.gif It makes me wish I could move up my appointment to hear my LO's heart beat.

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tropicana- It may be that you had an anterior placenta? At my last mw visit, I was complaining that I just feel so much bigger and higher up this time around and she though that maybe the placenta was just right in the front. We also heard a third heart beat that was slower than baby's, but a bit faster than mine, which she also thought was the placenta's. SO COOL! I had no idea that we could pick that up. I love placentas. ha!

That makes sense. I hadn't thought of that. I guess I will find out next week if that's the case.

post #64 of 84

haha so Glad our international shower idea has taken off!

 

I was thinking yesterday that if no one is willing to throw me a blessing way/mother blessing then I will take one day out and do it myself. I will wear my favourite clothes, eat my favourite foods, visit close friends and make something I can have around me at the birth.

 

Everytime a mumma on here loses a bub, I cry to DH.... its just devastating.... In fact last night the news got me crying... A couple from close by lost their triplets in a fire.. Can Not Imagine. So heartbreaking.

 

AFM- Have had some emotionally rough last few days. In fact they have been so scary I am a bit worried for Bubs health... Can adreline do bad things in womb?

Either way I am taking a few days out to "recover".. sleep in, read, nap etc... Just emotionally exhausted right now!

 

Purposeful- YES! to starting a thread about cravings and recipes!

post #65 of 84

Oh also- is everyone else amazed at how big our babies are in utero now???

A few weeks ago I had a little lentil curled up in me- This week there is a "large lime" wiggling about, kicking and yawning!

 

Happy 11th week Dark Blue- I think you click over on fridays with me too???

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Originally Posted by travelmumma View Post

haha so Glad our international shower idea has taken off!

 

I was thinking yesterday that if no one is willing to throw me a blessing way/mother blessing then I will take one day out and do it myself. I will wear my favourite clothes, eat my favourite foods, visit close friends and make something I can have around me at the birth.

 

Everytime a mumma on here loses a bub, I cry to DH.... its just devastating.... In fact last night the news got me crying... A couple from close by lost their triplets in a fire.. Can Not Imagine. So heartbreaking.

 

AFM- Have had some emotionally rough last few days. In fact they have been so scary I am a bit worried for Bubs health... Can adreline do bad things in womb?

Either way I am taking a few days out to "recover".. sleep in, read, nap etc... Just emotionally exhausted right now!

 

Purposeful- YES! to starting a thread about cravings and recipes!

Me too :( The family were originally from here. So sad. 

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Edited by nhklh - 11/16/13 at 1:17am
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Love the swap idea! I am so in, what fun. :) 

 

Re: losses, my heart just drops every time I see a new loss thread in our group. Even though I don't know these ladies well, I can't imagine their sadness and the loss. I've had a number of friends go through losses and it's definitely made me feel so cautious with this pregnancy (especially because it took such a long time for it to happen for us). Hearing the heartbeat was such a huge reassurance for us, but I know that definitely doesn't mean we're home free. Even today, I've felt like my bump hasn't grown as much in the past few days, and it makes me nervous. I really can't wait until we can start feeling the movement and have that constat reassurance that there's someone in there. 

 

I love the concept of Blessingways! I think it's so important to really celebrate the mama as much as the baby. I did see a post on MDC a while back that it can actually a pretty controversial term (to those who are Native American): http://www.mothering.com/community/t/778097/please-rethink-using-the-term-blessingway-to-describe-your-baby-shower-new-info/ 

Not really sure how I feel about it, but either way I'm sure you could do the concept with a slightly altered name if you felt like you didn't want to step on any toes.

 

travelmumma, the lime thing is so mind blowing!! I'll hit 11 weeks on Tuesday, but my "What to Expect" app (hate the book, love the easy date/size tracker on the app) tells me that I'm at lime! All these other fruits have seemed so tiny, but a lime! It's so tangible, and when I make that size with my hands and hold it up to my belly, I get chills thinking that there's a little someone that size inside me.

 

tropicana, I used to drink raw goat milk but our provider stopped selling it and I never looked for another source. I was secretly a little relieved, just because I didn't know what I would do if I got pregnant. I know that it is natural and real and if you have a good farmer, it's safer to drink than the processed stuff. But there's always that part of you that worries, and I'm a bit glad I didn't have to make the decision. I had a friend who still got their raw milk and just did their own low-heat pasteurization, which sound similar to what you're doing. I really wish there was an organic, low -pasteurized option, but the only organic milk I can ever find is UHT pasteurized, which to me is worse than drinking the regular milk. There's a regional farm that isn't organic but is much more responsible with their animals, and I know where it comes from, so that's what I usually buy (even though it's had regular pasteurization).

 

kel, thanks for sharing that post. I've read that blog in the past (and am in love with his pregnancy photos series pics), but hadn't seen it recently. Such a beautiful (though sad) post.

 

nhklh, I am so with you on the burping. Especially in the morning after I take my vitamins, I feel like such a twelve year old.

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Edited by nosreves - 7/13/12 at 4:07am
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The non-controversial term for 'blessingway' is 'mother-blessing'.  I'd advocate using it.  There's no reason to use a word that bothers some people when there's a perfectly good one that bothers no one.  It's also more accurate, since a Native American blessingway would include some very specific, possibly even different according to which tribe you're talking about, elements that most mother-blessings wouldn't.  The idea of celebrating the mother with ritual, song, physical pampering, etc. is one we can all adapt and claim as our own without trying to do it 'like' a Native American blessingway (unless we ARE Native American, and doing it within a cultural context, of course.)

post #71 of 84
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i just wanted to chime in on the raw milk.  here in france, it's ubiquitous.  nearly all of the cheeses are made with raw milk, and there are even machines at some stores that dispense fresh raw milk from local dairy farmers for a euro a liter.   however, pregnant women are strongly warned against drinking it or eating any of the raw milk cheeses....and this is a culture where pregnant women still drink their strong coffee and don't shy away from wine.  in my experience, europeans tend to be a lot less alarmist about food and drink choices in pregnancy, so i take this warning seriously.  i guess i won't be eating any of the really good camembert or cantal until after the wee ones make their appearance.    the low-heat pasteurized form sounds like a good choice, though.  my host mom in germany used to do this herself with the raw milk we bought from our neighbor, and i know she kept drinking it when she was pregnant.     

Thank you for that perspective (I always love hearing how things work in other cultures smile.gif). 

I drank the raw through about week 11 of this pregnancy but I just felt like the longer I drank it the more of a risk I ran...not sure why but something in my gut said it was time to stop. Premonition? I don't know. Usually I don't go by what "they" say is safe but my gut is agreeing with them this time.

post #72 of 84

I am finding this to be an interesting discussion with all the different perspectives on showers. I personally would probably feel uncomfortable with a "mother blessing". Too much attention on me! For as uncomfortable as I am with the shower thing I think I am happy to have the attention on baby and not me! Actually, the more I think about it maybe I will ask my MIL to do it after the baby comes (although on second thought it will be cold/flu season and I am not sure I would want her being handed around at a few weeks old). shake.gif

post #73 of 84
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Travelmumma-Happy 11 weeks to you too mama! joy.gif

 

The recipe swap sounds great Purposefuldoula!

 

As for the raw milk, I suppose i should have clarified-it's not for me, it's for my babies :) I do drink raw milk ordinarily but not where pregnant. I have this crazy persistent fear of listeria that prevents me from partaking, and I sure do miss it, but I don't feel like it is worth the risk. I feel like overall I am not big on freaking out, and I really believe in the benefits of raw milk during any other season of my life-just not pregnancy.

 

I will gladly send one of the international gifts as well. Squee!! I am soo excited. Maybe we should start a separate sign up thread?

 

Our cherry tree is sooooo close to being ripe I can barely stand it...I am going half-mad thinking about all the yummy things I am going to make eat.gif

I hope you all are having amazing days, I am going to go dig into some blueberry and lemon cream danishes I made last night...Mmmmmm.

post #74 of 84
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I wonder if it's bloating/gas?  I had that feeling a few days ago and it lasted a couple of days where everyone commented that I looked more pregnant but I thought something was funny because it seemed very high too.  I finally realized after it went away that it was just MAJOR gas.  eyesroll.gif  I guess everything was shifting up and that created some kinks.  I had been drinking quite a bit of lemon seltzer water, and once I quit, my discomfort went away.  I don't remember it with either of my previous pregnancies.  I mean, I had bloating, but nothing like that.

Yep, I think you were right. The last couple of days I have mixed in psyllium husk with juice to drink and today I had a cup of coffee. TMI, but let's just say that I feel so much less bloated and my stomach seems like it is 1/2 the size it was! Thank god because I was starting to think I was going to end up like a blimp by December! I don't seem to be having near as much trouble with breathing today!

 

My digestive system is a wreck. irked.gif

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Edited by nosreves - 7/13/12 at 4:07am
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Has anyone heard from mamaharrison? She is usually a pretty regular poster and I haven't seen her post for a few days.

 

Mamaharrison, are you around??

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I had a 12-wk ultrasound done today and the baby was so active!  Baby was bending its knees and then propelling off the walls of my uterus like a trampoline over and over again!  Also was sucking its thumb the entire time.  I saw the spine, the ribs, legs, hands, feet, profile, heartbeat - amazing how much different it was from my 8-wk ultrasound, which was just a little blob.  So happy to be in the second trimester and to know baby is doing fine!

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Kaliki - That's so great! I'm so glad your baby is doing well and you got to see such wonderful movement.  What a blessing!

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Sorry I kind of vanished:) Everything is fine as far as we know. I'm ten weeks now and things are easing up, thankfully. Of course now that I'm not sick as much I'm worried there's something wrong. Sigh. Had a lot of friends lose their babies this week so feeling kind of scared and sad. I have an appointment to an ultrasound and nuchal count on Monday. I never thought I'd so look forward to an ultrasound. 

 

Pool stuff: We're really lucky to have a salt water outdoor and indoor pool at the Y here. I FINALLY got my maternity soon. Got mine at Target. Nothing fancy but it will work. My normal suit is so uncomfortable now (it has the tummy flattener stuff not fun when pregnant). 

 

No shower here as far as I know. I didn't have one with my fourth so don't really expect one with my fifth. I secretly would LOVE to have a blessing way though. It would be nice to feel like people want to celebrate my birth with me you know? With my fourth no one even came to visit me. It was pretty rough. 

 

And I meet the first midwife at the practice I'm going to! She was wonderful. Very respectful. 

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Glad your back Ginger! You will have to let us know how ultrasound goes :)

 

Anyone else having trouble sleeping? Its a mixture of not getting comfy and insomnia :( boo

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