Ug! :( It took three years for me to get pregnant with baby #3, and the whole time, I talked about how I wanted a home birth. I have secured a home birth midwife, and am happily making plans.
Tonight, I showed him the fishy pool that is so popular for home births. He got this weird look on his face, and said that he's not really sure about this whole "home birth thing." ::blink blink:: But I've been talking about it for over three years. And he said he was okay with it after seeing the Business of Being Born and another documentary on home birth multiple times each, and talking to other friends who had home births.
But now... at almost half way through my pregnancy... he's not sure??? He said he will go along with whatever I want, which isn't exactly a ringing endorsement. How do I get across to him that his negative vibes will directly affect the labor and delivery process?
There is still time for him to come around and get on board, but I am so apprehensive now. I have no plans to change to a hospital birth, but dang. I feel like I can't count on him to come through for me right now.
Have any of you gone through this? I'd love to hear words of wisdom, or suggestions for how to help him become more comfortable with this idea.
I feel like someone just pulled a rug out from under me. :(