Someone referred to me, recently, as a "cesarean mama."
It wasn't meant derisively. It was just matter of fact. Sensitive, even. As in "c-section mamas deserve recognition too." Which is a very nice thought, and one I agree with. But the wording got me thinking.
I think there are times when it's useful to talk about cesarean mamas as different from moms who've had vaginal births. For instance, if you're talking about what we need post-partum, yes. There is a big difference. Our bodies are healing from different experiences.
But beyond that, I honestly start resenting it a little.
Do we really have to keep talking about moms, cesarean moms, and other kinds of moms? Surrogate moms, adoption moms, who gives a ****? These categories seem like in most situations, they're just not helpful or useful.
Because if I'm a "cesarean mama" then what's that mean? I'm distinct from other mamas because of the way my son got here? Should I start calling women who've had "normal" (and don't get me started on deciding that one kind of birth is normal, and therefore by definition everything else calls in the silent label of abnormal) births "vagina moms?"
So I don't know. Maybe this is just my hang up. But I feel like maybe the next time someone refers to me as a cesarean mama, I'm going to say, thanks! And let me just say that on behalf of all cesarean mamas, we also have mad love for you vagina moms.