That was my daughter...really. I think there are some things you can start if you want to push the weaning. I really could not imagine mine ever stop nursing. Here's what I did:
Kids love to be 'big'. They love to feel like they are so 'big' and growing up. So I played that up with potty training and with weaning. My dd has friends that are 4, 5, 6, and 7. So I began to prepare her that one day she would not nurse any more just like so and so. I told her as you grow you stop doing certain things like throwing your food on the floor and like nursing. It's part of growing up. I believe in preparing my child for life and life's difficulties. At three they can get it. Life changes as you grow. Point out that babies cannot do many fun things that you do, like swing, go down slides, ride bikes because they have to grow up some. If your child knows a baby you can use that to make it more real to her.
Weaning at one yr old and three are totally different. AT three they can begin to see all they have done and accomplished. You can use her intellect to her her understand what is happening to her.
Also, I believe in doing things that are good for the whole family. Nursing 5 times a night is physically and emotionally draining you and that is not good for the whole family. I tell my dd sometimes we do things for you and sometimes we do things for daddy and sometimes we do things for dd2, etc. This time we need to do this for mommy. She may protest, but I think it is good for them not to be the center of the universe all.the.time.
The other things i did was distract during the day. I weaned her in the day time before the night time. I used distraction and delay. If distraction didn't work, I would say ok lets nurse after we go do ______________.
I stayed flexible. If she really needed it I let her have it. I could not do the cold turkey thing. IT just isn't my style. But gradual and explaining and encouraging growth is the way i took.
You can begin to point out all the ways that you comfort and love her. Not all at once, but gradually as you are snuggling point out how wonderful it is and that is one way mommy loves on her.