I need the wisdom of the tribe here. I'm agonizing over the crossroads of switching from a small home daycare that is developing a preschool curriculum to an established preschool with a good reputation.
Where we are: There are pros like small group, quiet homey environment, care provider that is creative out of the box thinker and teaches this way. Subjects are not the norm of ABC's, 123's. This is good for DS as he does not need these basics.
There are cons like DS and care provider do not gel well. Care provider is rather authoritarian. DS does what he is told, but will not do more. Examples: he doesn't show her what he knows,and won't potty for her. He has fun at daycare, and goes willingly, but I have a feeling he doesn't completely trust her or feel comfortable with her. Also, there is just 1 other child his age. The rest are much younger toddlers.
Where we may go: The preschool has an excellent reputation and claim to teach each child at their level. They do stress lots of basics ABC's, 123's that DS has know for some time now. The group of kids would be twice as large, but they would all be DS's age. They would not cater to his picky eating habits, but I could pack a lunch.
What do you think? Stay where he seems comfortable, or move on? Rumor has it that once families leave the home daycare, the provider has not allowed them to return due to - spite maybe?