I am looking for positive birth stories after 2 or more difficult, traumatic births. I am due in July with my third baby. My first two birth experiences were rather terrible, which has been a huge disappointment to me because I’ve been a doula since before they were born. I was not a victim of hospital procedures, or interventionist obstetricians. I was highly informed and working with the best of midwives and planning home births both times. I ate very well, I did yoga and got tons of exercise, I saw a chiro, and followed all the instructions on spinningbabies about optimal fetal positioning. Unfortunately, both my boys were asynclitic. Each time started with +/- a week of prodromal labor, followed by all of a sudden active intense labor (non-stop contrax with triple peaks, no more than a 30 second break, vomiting, shaking) lasting 8-10 hours before my transfer to the hospital for drugs. Each time, I was 5-6cm during the whole duration of my hell. Of course my midwives tried everything from positioning to water to homeopathy. They were just so stuck. During the first birth I stayed at 6 for 20 hours before agreeing to Pitocin. During the second birth, my uterus nearly ruptured during transition, because there were literally no breaks in contrax. They said my uterus was behaving like I was having a terrible reaction to a too high dose of Pitocin, but I wasn’t on it. Luckily both of them ended up being manually turned at the last minute and I was able to push them out, so I avoided a c/s. But overall it was not a good experience. It was so disheartening to have to use an epidural after being a doula at so many beautiful, amazing home and water births.
Anyway, it’s been nearly 4 years since my last child was born, and I’ve made peace with how those births went. I’m also resigned to the fact that, because I’ve already tried everything under the sun to have normally positioned babies, I have very little control over this. I’m trying to be optimistic, but also realistic this time.
I would love to hear some stories from those of you who had a great third birth after two malpositioned babies. Thanks in advance!