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[LibbyLou]

Hi Mommas,

I'm freaking out a bit today and just need a place to vent.  We found out yesterday that DH will be deploying for a year this summer.  We don't have all the details yet, so we haven't told anyone in real life.  I can handle being pregnant with him gone and even the birth without him, but the thought of those first few months alone with a toddler and a new born has me worried.  The likelihood of him deploying with his current job was so small, that this has really caught me off guard.  Tomorrow I'll put on a brave face and start planning, but for today I'm angry and upset and just need to fall apart a little.

[springmum]

I'm so sorry! That does sound incredibly tough - definitely let out all the frustration. Wishing your DH a safe return too.

I'm not sure if you are part of a church, maybe there is a community group, mother's group in your area? Maybe you can start connecting with some people in your area to get an idea of who might be available for support. Also, you could look up post-partum doula's (we're getting one) or other temporary care givers? 

Just throwing out ideas for you, although I'm sure it's too soon to think about it.

[bostonmummy]

Thinking of you, LibbyLou. I can imagine how overwhelming it must feel. Remember the tremendous strength you have inside of you that will get you through the challenges ahead. And Springmum is right — it's a great idea to think about how you can shore up your network of friends and family for those early months after the baby is born. In the meantime, wishing you kindness and comfort.