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[heyitskalista]

We went for an ultrasound this morning and there was no heart beat.  Babe was measuring 4 weeks behind.

I can't wrap my mind around it.  I've been sick this whole time.  There has been no cramping, no bleeding.  But somehow, I know its true.  I think I kind of always knew.  I've never worried about a pregnancy like I have this one. 

I feel so knocked down and depressed.  I've never experienced this before and I had no idea how much it hurts...right down to the core.  I don't know how to tell people.  I just want it all to be over. 

I have no idea what happens next since it seems that my body isn't doing things on its own.  I'm scared.

I'm sorry to be such a downer.  I have no one really to talk about this with.  I don't know anyone who's experienced something like this. 

I wish you all a happy and healthy 9 months.  I've so enjoyed getting to know you all and I'm sure I will continue to stalk you, if you don't mind!

Lots of love, mamas.

[mamadiamond]

i'm so sorry for your loss. i lost a baby in january and had no idea it would be as (emotionally) painful as it was. but it gets better. hugs to you. i hope your body and heart heal quickly.

[tropicana74]

Oh, I am so sorry. I have no words to tell you how sorry I am. Big hugs. :-(

[junebug1]

i am so sorry for your loss.  my first pregnancy ended the same way, i know how absolutely devastating it is... 

sending you strength and thinking of you and your lost bean   

[mamatosaskia]

I am so sorry. Nothing else to offer, except be gentle with yourself.

xxoo

[darkblue0729]

Mama, I am so incredibly sorry. I am sending you peace, strength, healing, and love. Please know you are in my thoughts.

[nosreves]

i am so very sorry for your loss.     

[Jackies]

So sorry to hear. We're here to chat.

[kateadelle]

So sorry for this.

[sunseeker]

So so sorry. Take deep breaths, take good care of yourself, and let others take care of you.

[Millie Ivy]

I'm so, so sorry mama. I lost our last babe in a similar way. I didn't find out til i was 14 weeks and did start bleeding, but there was never a heartbeat. There are no words to make you better, I know. If you need to talk we are here, and just be very very nice to yourself right now while you mourn and heal.

One thing, I don't care how far along you are when you lose a baby, you have lost a child. It's appropriate to mourn the loss, and I urge you to give yourself time to do so.

hugs hugs hugs

[purposefuldoula]

Hugs mama. Sad for you :(

[travelmumma]

I am so very sorry.

Please take care of yourself and know that we are here for you no matter what xxxxxxxxxxxx

[nhklh]

I'm so sorry.

[tetiana]

I am so very sorry to hear that, i have been in your shoes twice last year. Had two miscarriages both at 7.5 weeks. It's the hardest thing to endure, and just like you I had no one to talk to about this who could relate. The feeling of loss is hard to describe in words. We are here for you! Stay strong, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[phatchristy]

I'm so very sorry to hear the devastating news...please take care of yourself and let yourself grieve.  Sending you healing thoughts and prayers.  HUGS

[zebrachick83]

I'm so sorry, mama. You're not being a downer. We're all here for you. 

[Mamabeakley]

I'm sorry.  May you and your family find wholeness and healing, however long it takes.

[kel]

I'm so sorry.

I had the same thing happen between my 2nd and 3rd children.  It wasn't until we went to listen for a heartbeat at around 10+ weeks and didn't find one that I was given an ultrasound.  They found that all growth had stopped around 6 1/2 weeks.  My body just hadn't figured it out yet and kept on acting pregnant.  It took about 2 more weeks for me to have a natural miscarriage.  So it does happen.  I'm very sorry.  xoxoxox

[lulubikes]

Oh hugs to you mama, that is so hard. My first pregnancy ended similarly. Except I had the ultrasound because I was spotting at 10 weeks and the baby was measuring 7 1/2 weeks.

If you have access to an accupuncturist - I highly recommend getting some accupuncture. It can help get your body moving in that direction and also help emotionally. I also took cotton root bark tincture, but I'm not sure I'd do that without working with a midwife or someone else who is experienced with herbs.

I have posted my miscarriage experience previously on this site. If you're interested, look through my posts.

Also, this website has some places to connect with other mamas who have lost babies: http://www.babylosscomfort.com/index.php