I am in awe of women who can UC....i have had 2 HB and 1 BC birth and i have been an off the wall loon all three times. With my second, as the head was crowning, my MW suggested i put my hand down to feel it and i asked her 'what is this thing?" with my last HB i told everyone to go home "because this just isnt working and we can try it again tomorrow"
I am just in another universe when i deliver and i know i wouldnt have the presence of mind to be able to catch a baby, react to an emergency, even just make simple changes in position - i REALLY need a support staff!
I almost want to ask what sort of woman - unfriendly state you are in....there are NO DE midwives? they can be a little tricky to find sometimes. The idea of going to your sisters house and delivering there sounds lovely to me - assuming you and your sister get along , you can move in a few days before the big event (hopefully) and stay for a few days afterwards.
Good Luck to you whatever you choose
Haha! Yeah, I'm not really in any position to deal with emergencies on my own when I give birth. Both times I've told everyone I changed my mind about having a baby after all. The first time I said to the midwife, "Okay, I know you can't really do this, but can you just reach up in there and PULL her OUT?!?!" The second time I was screaming like a banshee through almost every contraction (it was a horrible precipitous birth). I just don't want to be alone or with no one but my husband. No way, no how. I can barely be responsible for keeping sane when I'm in labor, how can I be responsible for keeping us both safe?