My name is Maureen, and once upon a time I joined Mothering because I was a huge fan of attachment parenting (cloth diapered, nursed into toddlerhood, co-slept, etc), but as my girls grew older (now 8 and 13) I fell away from the community. As I was online today trying to do a little research, I came across this forum, and realized how much I needed it.
I recently learned that my husband of 15 yrs has been involved in an affair with an ex high school girlfriend (whom he reconnected with via Facebook) for the past two YEARS. Unfortunately I learned this unexpected news not through him, but from the husband of his mistress, who called me after she admitted the infidelity to him. Because he travels a lot for his job, it gave him a wonderful opportunity to deceive me - and because I had no reason not to trust him - he led a double life, and would have continued to do had his secret not been revealed. He moved out the same day everything came to light, and I was left to pick up the pieces for my children. It's been hard, but I have an inner strength and joy that I'm so thankful for - and I'm trying to be as civil as I can be to him, so that he can still have a relationship with them.
Any words of wisdom from anyone would be greatly appreciated!