I found out yesterday that my FIL decided it was okay to share our baby news with his Mother. Apparently; he told her weeks ago! I just hit the second trimester last week but we told FIL early because I was feeling so sick with this pregnancy that he would have been wondering what was wrong with me. Anyway, non-observance of proper boundaries is typical in my husband's family which causes lots of trouble. I could write a book about the problems I've had with them. I told my Father-in-law that it wasn't okay for him to share our news for a variety of reasons. He sent me an email that basically said he 'understands' that I'm stressed out and hormonal right now and that I need to lash out at someone so it might as well be him. (I was extremely angry with him last week for deciding his mother would stay overnight at our house while she was in town - without making arrangements with me! He showed up with her at our house while we were out and just waited there for two hours until we came home. He didn't understand why I was angry or why I felt extremely put-out.) Anyway he seriously thought he was being understanding by sending me this email. He is not a normal person so he'll never wrap his head around why telling our news to another close family member wasn't okay nor will he understand why I might find his email terribly insulting, offensive and invalidating. I'm trying so hard to drop it since I'll never get him to understand or stop acting inappropriately but I've been fuming all day. I'm trying to get my husband to lay down the law with his family but he's used to their bad behavior and he doesn't "like conflict" so that is presenting a bit of a challenge.
Ha! What a rant. I think it's warranted though. Anyone else have tales of inappropriate bean-spilling?