He's a good guy, but I am having a very hard time with not feeling like there is any connection, as if he wouldn't recognize me if we walked by each other on the street. It does sort of bother me because he will be part of a very intimate family moment.
Also, he did actually deliver my first baby by c-section a few years ago, and did a great job. I'd met him on only two short prenatal visits before the delivery because we'd planned a homebirth. I had the same feeling of being rushed in/out during those visits, but I'd attributed that impression to me not being a 'real' patient (he was the backup doc for my midwife). And it didn't bother me much because my lovely awesome midwife spent at least a full leisurely hour with us for each check-up. And of course, a c-section or hospital transfer was the last thing I ever expected. But now I've switched to him for this whole pregnancy as he is the most v-bac friendly doctor in town, and I still have that same feeling after several more visits.
At my latest prenatal for example: he hardly acknowledged my son in the room...just a glance at him, I think. Spends most of the five minutes on the laptop. Afterward stands and says abruptly, "Let's go!" and opens the door. I'm a bit confused -- are we going somewhere? Is the appointment over? Turns out it was just over, but no goodbye, take care, etc. He just wandered off down the hall to the next appointment. He has his own practice and the office is generally very busy.
Should I just accept that this is how all these offices run? Does it even matter as long as he understands our birth wishes?...and he'll only be there for the end anyway, right?