Hi Ladies- Need to vent a little. I went in for my 36 week today and my group B strep test (no results yet). I think I have mentioned here that I have bad white coat hypertension (blood pressure goes up at the doc- pregnant or not). They induced my last because I had slightly high blood pressure (no preeclamsia) so I get nervous thinking about repeat induction, although I think I am stronger in my ability to question the reasons for medical interventions. I did not really think to second guess the decision with my first. I basically have a low level anxiety attack every time I go to an appointment. Today they told me that even spikes in blood pressure are not good for the baby. So they want to monitor me weekly with non-stress tests and appointments. I take my blood pressure at home and it is in normal range. I only spikes at the doctor's office. So if that's not good, why have me come in more? How does that make sense? I guess monitoring is the only way they can think to go about it, but for me it sounds counterproductive- "This really stresses you out, which is bad for the baby, so lets see if we can do it more often" Doesn't really seem that logical to me. Urrgghh. Frustrating. I know that some doctors want weekly appointments after 36 weeks anyway. These usually do not. I will go in so they can get a baseline on the non- stress, though I feel like I can tell how active the baby is without them, but I may refuse weekly tests. The midwives seem to be just as traditional medicine inclined at this practice as the doctors, which is a bit disappointing to me. It makes me wish I had done my prenatal care with a home birth midwife who may not have made me feel this way and may not have induced the blood pressure spikes at all. If I ever have 3rd I might have to go that way, no matter how much more expensive it is. I am thinking of going to a hypnotherapist to address the anxiety. My acupuncturist and my doula are giving me good alternative advice, but could still use some thoughts from you ladies. Thanks and sorry for the rant!
Venting and Advice
I feel for you! :-( I used to get so stressed about going to my old OB.
My midwives now are great although just as "medical" mostly but today after waiting an hour to talk for just a few minutes about not so much, we renamed these weekly visits at the end of the pregnancy "appointlessments"
I mean, of course we want to know our babies are ok but as moms we are already generally aware of that, and in my case driving an hour each way to be told nothing is so annoying and yes not so good for my prelabor rest/staying healthy (hello waiting room germs!)
I have high blood pressure at the clinic and normal at home. I simply write down my numbers at home, show them at the clinic and decline whatever I feel I do not need. I am the customer, after all.
With my first the non-stress tests lead into pressure to have a stress test (just in case). Turned out the stress test (contractions due to the prostaglandin) led into our baby being born 7 hours later. Looking back, I think that is exactly what they were hoping for.... :( I felt quite betrayed, to be honest, as I don't think there was enough cause to demand the stress test, but I was tried after having declined so many things. I am in another country now, but also know better... I decide and that's that...
I totally agree with phathui. It's never too late to switch (okay, maybe if you're crowning--lol). I couldn't see being able to relax and surrender to the birth process with people like these breathing down my neck for weeks leading up to and including labor and birth. Only you can make the call. Midwives are generally more willing to work with you on payment, too, if that's an issue for you.
Can you try taking passionflower extract before you have your BP taken? I also have crazy white coat hypertension (like they are afraid I'm going to stroke on them) when I go into the doctor, but my CNM suggested I take passionflower about 30 minutes before I get my BP taken and that's brought my numbers down into normal range (at least for the most part). It doesn't actually affect your BP, so it's not like it would give a false low, but it can help the anxiety that would make it artificially high.
Country girl- I have been taking a tincture by Wish Garden called Stress Relief for Pregnancy. It has Lemon Balm, Linden Blossoms, Passionflower and Milky Oatseed. I think it really does take the edge off. I had some today before I had my appointment with the male doctor and I was fine. I usually fight tears when I have to see him, even though he is truly a good hearted person. If you can't find that particular tincture, I bet you could easily find a Passionflower tincture.
The best idea I have heard yet is to refuse having your blood pressure taken! You could always say, "Oh I just did that at home and it was fine."
My non-stress test today went fine. Baby is active (as I can tell of course) and I am having a number of contractions (which I also knew). Got to go on a date with my husband tonight! Our six year old is sleeping over at a friends. Vietnamese food and Snow White and the Huntsman. Lots of fun! But know my feet are a bit swollen cause I have been on them all day.
Just curious- other ladies who have other kids-is this one more active in utero? I have heard people saying its a dragon baby characteristic- energetic from the start.
Thanks again to everyone who responded; hope everyone is well.