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post #241 of 352

A very small dose is safe to give young children, so it might be safe while breastfeeding. It would be worth asking a doc about.

post #242 of 352

Is Catherine STTN? If so, try NyQuil.

 

I used to take it if I couldn't fall asleep. I'd take two gel capsules, go lay in bed, and about 30 minutes later, I could literally feel the relaxant hitting my muscles, and I'd be out shortly thereafter. It's only a 4-6 hour medicine though, so if she's STTN, I think it'd be okay to take it before bed. It was always my "go to" sleeping pill, because it's just a cold relief, so I don't have to worry about the addiction! nut.gif

post #243 of 352

I need a babysitter so badly. I've been looking on SitterCity.com and Care.com, but I think both sites require a monthly fee to join. I'm too cheap. Grrr. And $10+/hr for babysitting is so dang expensive! How do people afford this? I could just find a sitter through word of mouth but I'm specifically looking for someone with experience in the way of spirited children. I'm probably going to be SOL in trying to find someone to watch Sora one day a week outside of the home, too... *sigh* It's pointless to me to have someone come in and babysit here because I'm not getting a real break then. I NEED A BREAK. I piled on two part time jobs and a class, and getting out of the house to go to work is not an actual "me break". DH and I can't repair our relationship without time together either. Sora just has to be okay with someone else watching her... she has to... crap.gif I have to be okay with it too. Ugh, what is wrong with me? Why can't I just be okay with her being watched by someone else? It's not like I'm sending her away to boarding school. I just want one day! Yet even that gives me so much anxiety. This sucks.

post #244 of 352
Thread Starter 

Joanie, what about someone in the AP community- someone you could find through LLL or API related playgroups?

post #245 of 352

I haven't joined any groups yet. I assume I'd have to start actively meeting up with people in order to find a babysitter? I need someone like yesterday... Sora is getting even needier lately while teething and being frustrated trying to crawl/stand. I'm adjusting to this antidepressant and am really in a bad mood, haven't left the house since I worked on Monday... so tired of this hot weather... I just want to crawl into bed and sleep... I was doing so well just last week and now this week I'm having trouble even taking care of myself. Barely cooking. No cleaning. Don't even want to shower... All of my energy is going towards just meeting Sora's basic needs.

post #246 of 352
Thread Starter 

Not necessarily!  If you can find local parenting groups often they have online forums for chit chat and discussion on Yahoo Groups or Google Groups.  If you can join one of those, you can post a request for babysitting recommendations right away.  Those that have been part of the group for a while will know the other members and can recommend people for specific reasons (like working with spirited children).  What city are you in Joanie?

post #247 of 352

Oh okay. I'm in Brookfield, WI.

post #248 of 352
Thread Starter 

I see you're about 20ish minutes out of Milwaukee.  Here's the group for you: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/milwaukeeAPmoms/  Join them and then ask around for recommendations, preferably closer to you, but if not, 20-30 minutes is not that far of a drive for people that live in large cities.

 

There is also:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Milwaukee_Babywearers/

http://www.lllusa.org/web/BrookfieldWI.html

http://www.lllusa.org/web/BrookfieldElmGroveAMWI.html

http://www.lllusa.org/web/MilwaukeeWestAMWI.html

http://www.attachmentparenting.org/groups/webwi.php

 

For the LLL and API groups/contacts you can call or email and ask about parenting groups, online forums, etc.

post #249 of 352

Thanks a bunch, Jaimee. I'll look into those.

 

I also talked to my doctor and I'm probably going to stop the antidepressant... I've been getting more depressed by the day since I took it. I guess it's not agreeing with me. greensad.gif I'm super bummed. I really had high hopes for it. I don't know if I'm comfortable trying something else right now after how stressful this past week has been.

 

Has anybody heard of a supplement called Sam-E? It was recommended to me as a mood stabilizer but I'm unsure whether or not it's safe to take while breastfeeding.

post #250 of 352
Thread Starter 

Let us know how it goes, Joanie!  As far as I can see Sam-E contains Ademetionine, which is contraindicated with breastfeeding.

post #251 of 352

Oh that's good to know. I'll hold off on the Sam-E. The search I did online was saying there is a lack of scientific evidence about its safety while nursing. I'm going to get back on track with my vitamins... I just realized I've been so busy lately that I've completely been neglecting to take them. For weeks. I just got to thinking that I'm probably not getting enough calcium in my diet, and I bet that is affecting my mood a lot too.

post #252 of 352

Is there no family that could take her? And care.com did have a fee to join, but I found a $10 coupon online to help it out. I just paid for one month, then cancelled my subscription... Cost me about $25. I had probably 15 replies in that time... And if you only need 1 day a week, I bet you could find someone to do it for $5/hour. A lot of people charge that much because they're looking for full-time, so it's replacing their need for a job.

 

And I know it doesn't help your DH mending needs, but maybe he could take her so you could go out by yourself for awhile to catch your breath?

 

There's also a church here that does 2nd shift daycare, until 1am, and their part-time fee is only $35/week... Which is kicka** cheap! Maybe look around for that? A YMCA?

 

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post #253 of 352

Nicole - Nope, the closest family lives 50 minutes away and Sora does HORRIBLY with any of them. Even if they were closer, I don't think we'd have an interest in them babysitting... DH watches her now when I'm at work but the problem is that he is sleeping during the day because he works nights, so he can't help out more than he already is now. The church idea is good. I have to look into stuff... I'm just so dang ambivalent.

post #254 of 352

I think we're going to have a super whine-y tantrum-y kid on our hands as she gets older. duh.gif I can't believe it has already started. She hit a new level today. She was close enough to reach some computer cords on the floor so I told her, "No!" sternly and moved her away. She screeched at the top of her lungs (!!), burst into tears (literally tears streaming instantly), and flailed her arms angrily. Then it passed in mere seconds and she happily became distracted with a toy. Not cool.

post #255 of 352

I wish we lived closer to one another.  We could get our babies together to be a super power of angry screamy madness. 

 

We are having a pretty rough day too.

post #256 of 352

lol.gif But could we really handle TWO screamy babies in the same room? I have a better idea... Let's get them together and leave them with our husbands while we go out. ROTFLMAO.gif

post #257 of 352
Tantrums are a part of the game with all kids. However, it might help to forget about the "no!" for now. Don't hate me!!! Hear me out. IME, it doesn't do much good to bother with no and sternness at this age. Straight redirecting is more effective. They are so sensitive right now and really can't understand no anyway. Until my kids get older (over a year), I just say in a neutral voice, "uh-oh, that's not for you. Here's your elephant instead!"

Anyway, just my 2 cents. smile.gif We all do things differently, though!
post #258 of 352

I hear what you're saying, Amanda. I'll try more redirecting. Though, are we sure they can't understand "no" at this age? My friend started teaching her baby no at 6 months and by 8-9 months she was seriously obeying anything my friend said to her. It was pretty dang cool. If she reached for something her mom didn't want her to grab and was told no, she'd stop and put her hand back. No fit, no upset, no nothing. Just pure obedience. I was in awe when I saw it with my own eyes.

post #259 of 352
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow View Post

Tantrums are a part of the game with all kids. However, it might help to forget about the "no!" for now. Don't hate me!!! Hear me out. IME, it doesn't do much good to bother with no and sternness at this age. Straight redirecting is more effective. They are so sensitive right now and really can't understand no anyway. Until my kids get older (over a year), I just say in a neutral voice, "uh-oh, that's not for you. Here's your elephant instead!"
Anyway, just my 2 cents. smile.gif We all do things differently, though!


I was going to type this exactly.  thumb.gif

post #260 of 352
Haha yes Joanie!

Redirection is important, otherwise. You get tired of saying no a bazillion times a day. But at the same time, there is value in the word no and I feel like its important to teach it.
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