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Oh and just keep nursing on demand.  I don't think dehydration will be an issue unless it is very frequent diarrhea for a long time.

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Teething purgatory, I like that. We've been there for months it seems. Her two top teeth are so close it looks like she has them already, they are so big and swollen! They just will. not. come through though. She seems to be okay with it, so I don't fret too much. 

 

It's super hot here too. Yesterday, we had a playgroup trip to an aquarium in the city. Greta was such a trooper! I knew we wouldn't be able to stop and eat while we were in the aquarium, so I tried to fill her up as much as possible before we got there. She was in the Beco the whole time and loved every minute of it. I never even heard a peep out of her the whole time we were in the aquarium. She just loved looking at everything and people watching. We all went out to eat at a train themed restaurant afterwards. Pretty cool place. There were trains everywhere and a train system on the ceiling that delivered the food to your table. The kids LOVED it. Greta sat in the high chair right beside my friend's son in his high chair. They thought it was so cool to be right beside each other, however keeping their hands off each other and their food to themselves was pretty difficult! She never once fussed the whole trip and slept all the way home. Days like that are why I say that girl is a dream baby. Of course, she hardly slept once we got home and was really cranky most of the evening, so I guess that was my payback!

 

Joanie: I don't usually let a little diarrhea worry me. I might put a phone call in because of her exposure though, just to put my mind at ease. It's probably nothing, but it would tug at my mind...

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Joanie, I would probably be all anxious b/c of the exposure as well.  BUT, it's probably nothing.  Diarrhea can happen for a lot of reasons including teething.  The biggest issue is usually dehydration and if she's still nursing frequently that won't be an issue.  If they can test her for the infection, though, I would likely call to talk to the doctor.

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Joanie, how is Sora? How is your dad?

So quiet around here!

Today im finally putting away B's 0-3 month sized clothes. She finally grew!
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It did get quiet. I went out of town over the weekend, came back to 35 posts!!! Sorry for everything everyone is going through.

 

I saw on the BFing thread where Sarah asked Becky (I think?!?!) if she could be pregnant... Good topic.

 

When are all of you guys, if you are, going to start TTC again?

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It did get quiet. I went out of town over the weekend, came back to 35 posts!!! Sorry for everything everyone is going through.

 

I saw on the BFing thread where Sarah asked Becky (I think?!?!) if she could be pregnant... Good topic.

 

When are all of you guys, if you are, going to start TTC again?

 

 

She asked me if I could be pregnant.  And the answer is a big huge giant HELL. NO.  lol.gif 

 

My DH had his Vasectomy 3 months ago.  I took a test after 8 weeks (after his sample came back negative) and it was negative.  So I'm just assuming I'm in the clear.  Also, I'm pretty sure I just ovulated for the first time a few days ago.

 

I can honestly think of nothing worse than getting pregnant right now.  I love Bettie, so much, but I really want my life-with-independent-children back.  I never ever thought I would have such a complex and emotional child as B. 

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Big fat NEVER here too.  

We haven't gotten around to bringing in a sample, yet.  But I can't wait to see that ZERO.  Woot!

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Big fat NEVER here too.  

We haven't gotten around to bringing in a sample, yet.  But I can't wait to see that ZERO.  Woot!

 

 

Yeah apparently your supposed to bring in TWO negative samples.  Im fine with one. That zero was a good day.  Haha.

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I'm out of town so not on much! As far as TTC... No idea, really. I can't wait to have more kids but really I can. On the one hand I'm having such a great time with KJ that I'm like YES PLEASE LET'S HAVE 10 MORE. On the other hand I'm having such a great time with KJ so why change anything? Why add a new baby to the mix? If it ain't broke don't fix it, right? Plus what are the chances I'll have another baby as easy as KJ? Pretty much zero, I'm thinking.
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Katie- I wonder if my experience is the norm.... maybe other mamas can weigh in?  I loved having one kid.  He was my world.  I was absolutely OBSESSED.  But then when we had Dylan it does seem like I have a more tempered love for #1.  Like, I love him and think the world of him, but I obviously have two kids to pay attention to so it's not so much a crazy obsession like it was.  And I'm not all-out obsessed with D like I was with #1.  I think it's just impossible to have that level of "obsession" with more than one kid.  Or maybe it's because #1 is now a toddler who tries my patience more, and isn't an angelic little babe?

Is that bad?

I swear I love my kids more than anything.  lol.gif  


Anyone else have this experience?

 

ETA I don't know if this is making sense at all.  I hope someone understands!

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Sora seems to be doing just fine. We never called the doctor. She had the diarrhea for 3 days and now *fingers crossed* it seems that it's gone today. Whew! She sure has been even more clingy (as if that's possible!) ever since this past weekend of me working. She's starting to realize that I'm leaving for extended periods of time and is having the classic separation anxiety meltdowns if I even leave the room now. Poor girl. DH has been AMAZING taking care of her on my work days now. It's like a night and day difference... I stayed on the antidepressant after all, side effects have subsided, and life is way better. I can't even describe the difference. Just - wow. DH even responds to me differently.

 

My dad is slowly getting better. He's finally getting out of the hospital today after 1-1/2 weeks in there. He and my mom are nervous about him being home now and having to adjust to a new way of life with a lot of food restrictions and the whole colostomy issue... He has a decent recovery ahead of him but it sounds like he's in better spirits! I still haven't seen him since this all happened. Hopefully I can drive down sometime this week.

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RE: Future children. It is such a big question mark for me right now. I always wanted lots of kids and now that my first has been so high needs, I question if I want to go through the baby period again with another. Like others have said about their first, I'm just so so so in love with Sora that I don't want to share my attention with another child either. BUT - I know that when she hits a lower maintenance/more independent age, I will probably be even more enthralled and want another child. I have a ridiculous bio clock that never STFU...

 

Has anyone here ever gone through genetic testing to find out what you might pass along to children? Any idea if insurance covers it at all or how expensive it is? I want to do it because I have a disorder that is super highly probable to pass down to my children but I've been reluctant... If I were to find out I had this gene, it would really play a bigger part in deciding whether or not to have more children... DH wants to try for a boy, but the chances of a boy having symptoms of the disorder are even higher than girls... It scares me. We always said we'd just deal with whatever came our way. Now that we've taken care of a spirited baby? We're more realistic about things.

 

Can you develop new allergies at any age? I'm worrying that I have some kind of seafood allergy now. *wonderful.....* The past few times I've eaten this seafood medley mix that has clams, squid, mussels, and shrimp in it - my throat has felt tighter and my lips start itching. shrug.gif I don't have problems with shrimp when it's alone, though... and I eat sushi with no problem. I don't see how it could be a shellfish allergy then. Maybe it's something in this particular mix that does it to me. Hmm. I'm taking an Allegra to be careful.

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How about you, Nicole? When are you thinking of TTC for another? Now you have a house to fill! winky.gif

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We aren't trying for a while.

We didn't have power for a few days, I'm back now.
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About spirited children, Joanie, its NOT the norm.  My first was average, my second so super completely relaxed and easy I wanted a third, and well...we all know that's not the case with B!  Haha.  I do not think its likely you will have another baby with the temper of Sora.  Sora and B are once in a lifetime babies, right?  :P

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J, you're not the only one.  But at the same time, dd is super high needs and my love for her has always been... what's the right word?  Complicated?  But after ds1 was born and I saw how much easier he was and how much sweeter, it was definitely hard to handle her temperament.  Now, at 2.5 years old, ds1 is going through difficult phases with his behavior and Avery is just such an angel in comparison!  I think this is all natural.

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How about you, Nicole? When are you thinking of TTC for another? Now you have a house to fill! winky.gif


Well, I definitely want ONE more... DH wants two more, so I pray, pray, PRAY that our next one is a girl, so I can use the "Well... We have one of each" excuse against him. =) As far as WHEN, Conner's hospital bills won't be paid off until September of next year so I told DH we can start trying then... That's right before Conner turns two, and if I get pregnant fast, their birthdays won't be close together. I already told DH that next time around, we won't be trying from January-April, because the end of the year is already so busy, I want a Spring/Summer baby, LOL!

 

I won't lie though. Now that Conner's calmed down and isn't so high maintenance, the baby fever is already kicking in. The ONLY thing stopping me from doing it now is the fact that we're already paying out $220/month in hospital bills... And I can't afford to double that. No way. My schedule at my new job is even amazing for mommy hood, LOL. (6-midnight Tues., Wed., Fri., Sat., Sun.)

 

I hope that we're in a place financially next child so I can stay home for at LEAST six months, if not longer. I don't know why we wouldn't be. This time next year, most of our revolving debt will be paid off (Thank you debt snowball), so we should... We all know how successful my being-gone-12-hours-a-day and pumping-10-times-a-day went... It'd be awesome to be able to ONLY nurse with this next child, although, I'm afraid if I 100% nurse my next baby, it'll have attachment issues like some of you ladies have. Conner is SO independent, it's a blessing. He sleeps like a God... And I'm terrified about our next baby because I KNOW it won't be this easy again. Like you guys were saying, no two children are the same...

 

Can you sense my fear? LOL But I've got my eye on the prize and I KNOW what I want for my next child now, so there won't be any other way. VBAC, damnit. And I want a better nursing relationship. I still hate myself sometimes for weaning Conner... ... ...

 

Sorry for the novel.

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Hi everyone! I've been out of town, too. We were at the beach last week. I need to catch up! 

 

 

As for kids, if we could afford it we would probably have one more. My biggest concern with not having more is how it will be for Jasper to grow up. It will be almost like he is an only child. His closing sibling is 7 years older. Even though my girls fight, they also play together. What will Jasper do? Will I have to entertain him 24/7??? bigeyes.gif  Dd1 and dd2 have spent so much of their lives playing together. I've always wondered what moms of onlies do... 

 

 

If money wasn't an issue, I'm about 75% sure we'd have another one. As for timing, I like the 2.5 year gap. So I guess I would start trying.... in a year I think. But, money IS an issue. Space is also an issue. I'm not sharing my room with two kids, and we don't have a spare bedroom for toddler Jasper. Unless something crazy happens and we become very well off, we are done. No point (in my eyes) in having another one 4+ years from now. 

 

Do you like how I am so crazy that I'm totally cool with 5 kids? Yep. Crazy cakes. 

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Oh, and "spirited" kids. I'm not sure dd1 qualifies.... she is above and beyond spirited! But she was a total handful. Joanie, I was super sure I would never have another after her. Sooooo sure. She was so difficult. But then, hormones took over and dd2 is here. Night and day. Dd2 wasn't an especially easy baby, just more of a normal baby. But she seemed so easy in comparison. I still laugh almost daily when she tries to get an attitude with me or gets out of hand. It is so funny compared to dd1! I'm like, "Really, that's the best you've got?!" Disciplining her is very simple. It's like... I don't know... the way it *should* be. Anyway, my point is that it will probably be just great when you have another baby. Also, dd1 was/ is at her best when dealing with her baby siblings. They bring out a side of her that doesn't come out often.

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J, you're not the only one.  But at the same time, dd is super high needs and my love for her has always been... what's the right word?  Complicated?  But after ds1 was born and I saw how much easier he was and how much sweeter, it was definitely hard to handle her temperament.  Now, at 2.5 years old, ds1 is going through difficult phases with his behavior and Avery is just such an angel in comparison!  I think this is all natural.

 

Yeah I think having more than one just changes the family dynamic so much.  Especially the mother-child dynamic.  I don't feel like I am sharing my love- obviously I love them both with everything I have- but obviously time and attention is split.  That definitely changes things.   
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