Hi, I think MDC may have more moms that can relate to me than anywhere else on the net! This is sort of unschooling topic, but... The moms here may be dreamy, longing, and feeling run down with society in general, and that would be me.
I had an adult campfire sleepover recently and everyone else was drinking but me. They started up on Utopia and selfishness vs. greed. It was a great conversation. Someone wanted to know what I thought. Homeschooling had to be in there. My family is together at free will all the time. We invest our money for income and it pays out enough to eat. We use our savings to pay other bills. We hope to win the lottery :). Anyway. We can do this till our kids are grown. Plus we do tons of DIY.
So! I said of Utopia, that I was much like an Amish person. I believed in teaching my children the purpose of life, the highest good, the best vibrations, and the joys closest to God. In a way: I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. - Henry David Thoreau. I also said when they jumped on me in drones that, you say "this course...that basic math... at least" to have a pure foundation and be ready for the world. I wonder why it shouldn't be a totally natural, artistic, sustainably building, gardening, musical one. Because the world needs more art and less stuff to buy. If fewer the buildings: schools, stores, churches, offices - would you have a need for such dramatic changes to stop climate change? Would you have cleaner air? Would you make a difference that would lead to God and a better world? And that is how I think I am raising my family. It selfish and that was a goal that everyone agreed could lead to a better world. For everyone to be selfish enough about their space and make it better.
This way actually isn't original. These are major Native Hawaiian life choices that I learned when I spent 10 years there. They get a job mostly because they can't afford the community land that was taken from them. Very few of them think that what they do is more important as who they are outside of work, with their ohana and connection to the land and ocean. But! There was a backlash to this and the private school/boarding school, that is only for Native people, has begun to train them like culture warriors to take back the land and culture before it is totally destroyed. This last statement is where I get a little confused about my utopia outlook. But! Again, that is also acting on fear and I pray to be held within the divine daily, so that also gets me to a lower faith in a way.
I am scared. My family is together and we can make it that way, with traveling, and months in other places - if we stay out of the really amazing places to home-school in. A example is Ithaca, NY. Has my ideals/values, but also has a strong level of outreach. Many buildings to, for example, win a swimming race in a huge pool. Or, we can stay here in the mountains of Virgina, live like Amish in a way, but have friends who are in many different paid for classes that are 38 miles away. Also go to DC on a whim. Totally have access to tons of nature. And we did hit a jackpot for a county with such an amazingly low cost of living, compared to many other places in the US that have as much beauty. And everything is also 10 minutes away in town for needs, but classes besides soccer can be pricey, Christian based if local, and if not, really far away.
My DH is strongly encouraging me to choose Ithaca. Because "our children may choose to be Doctors, and they still have a chance that is faster through homeschooling programs in high school levels and with the colleges." I wince. Becoming a doctor is not my idea of first place. My idea would be closer to a rock star, sustainably live-r, or even a master of 17th century masonry so that you are called to Europe to fix a church, or really? A mother and father who live their life like masters and artists of their valuable time (us<----).
But! Something is erking me. To open all the doors of the world and let them have it! To have DH go back to work to afford more for them.. It also doesn't feel so close to God. Though it feels like the common thing that everyone else seems happier doing.
What do you think?