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post #21 of 80
6/4/12 at 7:40am
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Yeah i am not so much a fan. Curious about what we coulr do?
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post #22 of 80
6/4/12 at 7:58am

I have been reading but not posting much as usually I have a baby in an arm and really have not remastered one handed typing. Yet.

 

flavorful - Hope that you are settling into your new home. :) Also, the reflux and running connection is really interesting. It is amazing that you caught it, I don't think that it would occur to me to think of it. :)

 

Renee - I wish I had a nine year old! My five year old is really helpful as far as grabbing me things that I have forgotten when I am nursing or trapped under a freshly sleeping baby that I am not willing to move yet, but not so helpful in the entertaining so that I can do things like finish up making breakfast, etc. If she starts to fuss, he clamps his hands over his ears and makes one of a variety of startling noises that seem to encourage Nora's upset. We're working on it. :) 

 

sunflower - So glad you get to be upright! 

 

courtney - You are a brave lady, that is a lot of little girls! It should be super fun though, in a completely chaotic way, right?

 

AFM - We are doing really well. Nora is growing like crazy and has been giving me big smiles the last couple of weeks. I haven't had her weighed since her two week visit, but she had gained a pound and half at that time for a total of ten pounds of chubby little squish. She is lots bigger now, so I am curious. Almost curious enough to want to buy a scale. We go in for our six week visit next week, so I will likely just wait until then. We haven't started taking her to our family doctor yet. I am hesitant to bring her around a bunch of germs if I don't have to. She is doing really, really well. Sleeping, nursing like a champ and growing like crazy. I think we'll take her in for two month well visit. Anyone else not seen their doc yet? She has been seen by our mws but it feels a little odd to me after spending soooo much time at our ped's office after our son was born. 

 

My son is having a little difficulty adjusting to our new family structure. He really seems to love her, but also is agitated by the time that she takes to care for. He definitely equates the time for feeding, diapering, etc to a higher level of love. I have been trying to spend time with just him when she is napping but it is hit or miss whether she will take a big nap. Especially if we have been out in the morning and we really try to be so that DS has time to run around and play with friends if there is an opportunity to do so. There have been times that he purposely wakes her which is confusing to me because it seems that he realizes that she is going to need me when she wakes up. Anyone have any ideas for helping him through this time? Other than trying to make sure that he has plenty of outdooor and friend time and spending naps doing something with just him, I have had a couple of conversations with him about how much I love him and how he is so special because he is my first baby...I just feel like I don't know what to do to help him and I feel like both my husband and I have such an increased level of negative interactions with him because he is having really uncharacteristically aggressive and antagonistic behavior. I don't know if this is just something that will take time or whether there are more things that we can do. I'd love any suggestions/advice from btdt moms, especially those with bigger age gaps as he is five and half. Thanks!

 

Also, I think that placenta encapsulation was the best, most magical thing I could have done! I had such an easier time the first few weeks. I am sure that a more peaceful birth and immediate pp period contributed to that also, but man, especially in the wacky hormonal shifty days they were amazing. 

post #23 of 80
6/4/12 at 12:39pm

kaismum-- i feel your pain. sorry youre having such a hard time with ds now.  i'll be interested to see what responses you get, as we are dealing with the same thing here.  good luck and i hope it settles down soon!

post #24 of 80
6/4/12 at 1:49pm

 nak. yes, people who are not in the ddc can post now. I don't know why, but I noticed it about a week ago. I don't know how to stop it and haven't had time to figure it out. I reported 1 person for spam already, but there have been "legitimate" posts by mdc people who aren't approved to our group too.

 

My husband's grandfather was just diagnosed with terminal cancer. So next week, we are flying to Florida for a week, so he can meet his great granddaughter and we can say goodbye. Anyone ever fly with a 2 month old before?

post #25 of 80
6/4/12 at 2:35pm

Kaismum- how old is your DS? My 5yo is also having a hard time and has basically totally regressed into helpless toddler mode (he was only just starting to really get independent when our whole life shifted a few months ago). I try to take small moments to give him my full attention, like looking him in the eyes and really being present with him, even if it's only like 60 seconds. I am finding it really makes a difference and he is happier.

Dealic- Sorry about your DH's grandfather. I haven't flown with a 2mo, but the one time I did fly with a baby, I was told to nurse during takeoff and landing to alleviate the pressure changes. It seemed to work.

post #26 of 80
6/4/12 at 3:01pm

kaismum- i found one on one time was the best thing that could be done for the older child. I also let some things slide that I normally wouldn't

 

dealic- I'm so sorry.  I haven't flown with one that young but I did fly with a bay. nurse at take off and landing! Where in Florida?

post #27 of 80
6/4/12 at 4:26pm

Sorry I have been MIA, but have been trying to check.  It has been hard since returning back to work the end of April and trying to take care of both kids.  I have just been very tired with the middle of the night feedings. 

 

Dealic - sorry to hear about your DH's grandfather.  I flew with DS1 when he was about 3months.  The peditarician told me to give him some Tylenol just before boarding to help with the pain they can get with landings and take-offs.  Also either feed or have them suck on a pacifier to also help with the landings and take-offs. 

 

As for toddlers adjusting - DS1 (3 years old) was doing good until recently and now he wants to be fed at most meals.  Usually every night he is on my lap along with DS2 even when DH is in the same room.  Within the last month he has been urinating on the toliet by himself but within the last couple of weeks has started to use the toliet for pooping except when I am home alone.  Not sure why that is. 

 

I had a dream last night that I had a positive pregnancy test, kind of freaky.  We are not really trying but it woul be okay if we did get pregnant one more time, just would like to wait until September or October. 

 

Hope everyone is doing good and enjoying their bundle of joy.

post #28 of 80
6/4/12 at 6:57pm
Thread Starter 
Dealic. So sorry abt your dhs gfather. I just flew w dd 8wks. I have flown a lot w kids 8wks-2.5yrs and i feel like it is super easy and enjoyable until they want to be mobile. I just nursed dd and she slept or nursed the whole time. I just made surto have all ot her diaper stuff handy. I wore her in the moby in the airport. They do have you take baby out but u dont have to take the wrap off . Also, u dont have to go through the full body scan machine, just ask for alternatives. Nice thing abt traveling w kids now is you get to cut in line in to go through security. Make sure your little one's name is on your ticket when you.check in or else you have to go back to get them added. They dont need a ticket, they just put baby's name on yours w bdate. You can also board early/first which is up to you. Dd is not a sit and chill kid so i waited until the very last min to get on. W ds, he would fall asleep before take off. Dont worry too much abt it, my dd has been classified "in the ten percent of high needs" by her ped which i think is pointless but all that to say, she does fuss more and require more help to settle and adjust to things and she did very well in the plane. Oh.and take a blanket for babe, it can get chilly. Thats my rambling 2-8 cents worth smile.gif
post #29 of 80
6/4/12 at 7:01pm
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Also, I think that placenta encapsulation was the best, most magical thing I could have done! I had such an easier time the first few weeks. I am sure that a more peaceful birth and immediate pp period contributed to that also, but man, especially in the wacky hormonal shifty days they were amazing. 

ME too!!! I didn't start mine until a few weeks postpartum because it took awhile to get mine back (the lady who did it for me, did so pro bono so I can't really complain!) but I swear that after I take them, I feel calmer. Almost like taking a valium or something...it's really weird! I've had no emotional ups and downs at all and it's been completely different than my other four postpartum periods. I do feel like it has helped my milk supply a little bit too. I have been struggling with low supply from the very beginning and Lennon has had very very slow weight gain although everything else about her is perfect, so we are just still trying to up my supply because she has seemingly no problems from it, just a very slow gain.

 

As far as the man posting on that other thread, it seems that he must have googled the word "saudade" and "tattoo" and found that thread with me posting my own "saudade" tattoo and felt the need to join MDC to share his too. But I also noticed someone else posting that was not part of our group, a lurker or something. I wonder what happened.

post #30 of 80
6/4/12 at 8:09pm

Hey all!  Another MIA mommy here, back at last after an extended babymoon followed by simply not having time to get onto the forums.

Things are going well thus far. Tasmyn is a great nurser and is pretty good at sleeping, too (although we've had a few fussy nights lately). She is also becoming quite the chubby baby - in her first 3 weeks she went from just over 7 pounds at birth to a little over 10 lbs. We'll weigh her again tomorrow, and I don't know what to expect, but she is definitely still feeding a lot!

I'm adjusting to being a SAHM while DH is at work all day. It can get a bit frustrating being in the house all day with the baby and not being able to do much about the constant mess, laundry, dishes, etc... But as soon as DH gets home from work, he is on baby duty so I get a break to make dinner (which I really enjoy doing, we've been having great meals), and then things tend to calm down in the evening.

I've been trying to babywear as much as possible, both because Tasmyn really likes it and also because it allows me to get something done during the day besides feeding and changing the baby. We ended up with 4 different baby carriers - a ring sling my friend made for me, a moby wrap, an ergo, and a basic mei tai. I've tried all of them but the mei tai so far. Today is the first day with the ergo, I really like it because it's comfy and I think Tasmyn likes it too, especially since it's easy to feed her in.

dealic - I'm sorry to hear about your DH's grandfather. I hope your visit goes well, that's great that you are giving him the opportunity to meet his great granddaughter.

 

I haven't had time to catch up on the whole thread, but I did want to say thanks to flavourful for the traveling with baby tips. We'll be going over to the mainland (Australia) late next month and it will involve a total of 4 flights so I want to be able to get through it as easily and hassle free as possible.

post #31 of 80
6/5/12 at 8:52pm

We had some serious troubles with DD in the beginning, and now 2 months out she's pretty mcuh back to normal. No more screaming fits, etc. What worked for us was cuddling. She's always been a very touchy feeling (clingy) child and the quickest way to reset her behavior is to pop her in the wrap or cuddle her. She's almost 3 and amazingly verbal; she comes up to me and says "I need time with Mommy" and snuggles in. There's been lots of intense hugs, her sitting in my lap just being held, cuddling in bed. She needs that physical closeness still, and I love it. Also, lots of time out of the house helps.

 

In other news, DS's (intact) penis is looking nasty, bad enough I took him to the doctor today. Trying to get a clean catch from a 2 month old is fun, and i did it at a restaurant! I won't go into the gory details, but for future reference breastmilk works great on a possible penis infection.
 

post #32 of 80
6/6/12 at 5:40am

sfmb thats hilarious... and quite impressive.  a clean catch on a 2mo old and at a restaurant... very impressive indeed.

 

quick update from us:

 

ds went for his 2 mo check up and it would appear that we may be dealing with strasbismus or psuedostrabismus, we'll know more at his 4 month check up.  anyone have any experience with this?

 

sorry for lack of personals, we have to get out the house in 45 minutes and i'm still in jammies...

post #33 of 80
6/6/12 at 6:18am
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Originally Posted by chiromama01 View Post

sfmb thats hilarious... and quite impressive.  a clean catch on a 2mo old and at a restaurant... very impressive indeed.

 

quick update from us:

 

ds went for his 2 mo check up and it would appear that we may be dealing with strasbismus or psuedostrabismus, we'll know more at his 4 month check up.  anyone have any experience with this?

 

sorry for lack of personals, we have to get out the house in 45 minutes and i'm still in jammies...

 My only experience is that we are watching for it too. I think that DD's eyes are looking much much better since her 2 week check. Her next well child is at 10 weeks and the Dr. will be check then. Did your doc recommend anything to help the eye or eyes? How old is your LO now? Mine is just about 6 weeks. One thing you can do is to place your hand over your LO's eyes for a few seconds and then check the focus when you remove your hand. Hopefully this is just a passing thing!

post #34 of 80
6/6/12 at 7:01am
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Originally Posted by chiromama01 View Post

sfmb thats hilarious... and quite impressive.  a clean catch on a 2mo old and at a restaurant... very impressive indeed.

 

quick update from us:

 

ds went for his 2 mo check up and it would appear that we may be dealing with strasbismus or psuedostrabismus, we'll know more at his 4 month check up.  anyone have any experience with this?

 

sorry for lack of personals, we have to get out the house in 45 minutes and i'm still in jammies...


I had Strabismic amblyopia as a child. I'll have to ask my mom for the details, as I'm not totally clear on when it was detected. I know at age 3 I got glasses and had to spend quite a bit of time with an eye patch on my good eye to strengthen and correct my "bad" eye. The right eye was really "lazy". My brother had it as well. As a 3 year old I wasn't to keen on keeping an eye patch on, so they also tried the drops in my good eye to blur the vision, thus forcing the lazy eye to strengthen and turn out. I remember HATING getting those drops! I had to wear glasses until 5th grade, when my vision was considered corrected. I have glasses now as well, but because of a totally different reason (near sightedness that developed years later)
post #35 of 80
6/6/12 at 10:46am

dealic- so sorry about your GFIL.  I haven't flown w/ a baby, so no advice there, I just hope your trip goes well and you all get to spend quality time w/ GFIL. 

 

chiro- I had a friend w/ that and she had to wear a patch on the good eye like daylicious said.  She hated it, and got teased with a lot of pirate jokes in school, but as an adult, you would not know she'd ever had an issue.  DH's G-pa has it and just trained his eyelid to stay closed over the bad eye b/c he didn't feel like doing anything about it to fix it.  Which is fine, except that he drives like that, and it is terrifying to ride with him!!  He has no depth perception with one eye closed, I can't believe he hasn't rear ended someone yet.

 

We're doing ok here, still trying to figure out some kind of schedule for napping.  He's so random and all over the place, sometimes not even taking a nap at all.

 

Here's a question for you ladies:  It still hurts to nurse on my right side.  My right nipple hurts so bad when he latches on, I have to grit my teeth not to yell and frighten him.  Once the latch is established, it diminishes a lot, but still hurts somewhat.  I've noticed my left nipple looks normally shaped when he is done nursing on that side, but on the right side, the top of the nipple sticks out over the bottom of the nipple like a shelf, it's hard to explain.  Its been like that since he was born.  Any ideas?  It is so bad that I dread nursing him on that side when it's the right side's turn.  That nipple was flat/inverted prior to birth.

post #36 of 80
6/6/12 at 3:18pm

DS is five. And a half. The half seems to be a big difference at this age for him.

 

SFMB - He is a high touch kid also. I need to spend more time snuggling with just him. I think that might help. The past couple of days have been pretty good. Also...way to go on the clean catch!

 

Christy - Has he been adjusted at all? Sometimes moms find that is really helpful when just one side is a problem. If there is a chiro around that is good with babies also does CST that would be a good place to start. I have had lots of moms report that CST and chiro totally changed the way that their babies latch. We experienced this first hand this time around with Nora. 

 

deliac - Lots of good plane advice already, but wanted to say that I am sorry to hear about your grandfather, I am sure that it will mean a lot to him to meet his new grandbaby.

post #37 of 80
6/6/12 at 5:48pm

thanks for the input on strabismus... goodness i hope its just the pseudo case! I would hate for my poor baby to have to wear an eye patch... i was teased as a kid, and dont want that for him :(

 

deliac-- i flew with dd 2x/month from the time she was 12 weeks old.  best advice from me would be to wear her at the airport in an easily removeable device like a ring sling (not so much a moby) if you chose to bring stroller and car seat they are checked as you actually board the flight, and they are not considered additional baggage, and definitely nurse during take off and landing, it really does help.sorry about your GFIL, but i think it's great you're taking his new grandbaby to see him :) good luck with the trip mama

 

christy-- it could be a TMJ issue for him on one side, adjustments might help... keep us posted!

 

so i have a question about pumping...it would seem that while i'm gone, ds consumes significantly more milk than when he's with me.  i was gone for 3 hours today at work, immediately before leaving, i fed him from both sides, so typically he would have been satisfied for a while.  when i came home, after pumping only 4 oz, i learned that ds consumed 7oz while i was gone.  i feel like maybe dh resorts to the bottle too quickly to comfort ds, but i'm not there, so i cant really say for sure, and he insists that ds is actually hungry.  any suggestions?  is this normal?  should i get a hospital grade pump?

post #38 of 80
6/7/12 at 7:07am

ugh we got some thrush over here! I was watching his white tongue for a few days because it didn't really wipe away but also didn't look that bad, but then my boobies started to just ACHE with letdown. giving him the nystatin pretty much tears my heart out (what is wrong with me?) because he's like WTF IS THIS NASTY STUFF. i'm treating myself with the same ointment but I'm wondering if I should ditch the cloth breast pads for the time being?

post #39 of 80
6/7/12 at 8:24pm
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Originally Posted by arbybee View Post

ugh we got some thrush over here! I was watching his white tongue for a few days because it didn't really wipe away but also didn't look that bad, but then my boobies started to just ACHE with letdown. giving him the nystatin pretty much tears my heart out (what is wrong with me?) because he's like WTF IS THIS NASTY STUFF. i'm treating myself with the same ointment but I'm wondering if I should ditch the cloth breast pads for the time being?

 If letdown is painful is that a sure sign of Thrush????

post #40 of 80
6/7/12 at 8:34pm
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Originally Posted by adoremybabe View Post

 If letdown is painful is that a sure sign of Thrush????

I just checked and it sounds like the pain gets worse after feedings too if it is thrush. I'm not going to worry.

 

Chiro - have you ever heard of a newborn whose jaw seems to pop when it opens during breastfeeding? I have also been feeling a movement near Juliet's shoulder blades. I took her to the chiro when she was 2 weeks and my Dr used an activator on her neck but didn't really explain a whole lot to me. I know that you can't say for sure cos you aren't here to see her in person but I'm just weondering if you've ever heard of anything like this.

 

Thanks

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