It sounds like you are doing everything you can to take the best possible care of you and your son. Honestly, from what I'm reading, you are experiencing a healthy shift in your feelings. Rather than guilt and pity for your ex and putting it on yourself, you seem to be finally feeling that righteous anger that absolutely should be directed at him. I don't mean that you're going to be getting angry at him but it just seems to me you're seeing things clearly now and that is going to help you heal and move on. Keep on keeping on. Lots of love to you...
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