We are planning our second homebirth. Last time we had 2 midwives there, my dh, and a good friend of mine who took pictures and helped fetch things like water and hot rice packs. We are moving next month, so my friend can't come this time. I really love the pictures of the birth, and I definitely want them again, but I also feel like I need someone who can specifically be in charge of ds and his needs. I definitely don't want clinging, babbling ds around during the labor, but I think it would be cool if he witnessed the birth. So that means, 2 midwives, dh, photographer, ds and babysitter, which just starts to sound like a lot of people to me. But, last time by the end of pushing I had the asst midwife providing support from behind me, and the main midwife in front with dh helping him catch, so if I didn't have anyone there specifically to take pictures/video, we wouldn't have any of the actual birth. We don't have a digital video camera we can just set up on a tripod, just a regular digital camera that will take up to 10 minutes of video before you have to hit record again to start a new video.
Then there is the question of who the photographer and babysitter will be. My mom and 2 sisters live about 3 1/2 hours away from our new place (much closer than they are now) but I can't be certain that any of them will be available to come fill either of those roles when I go into labor. One of my sisters is due with her first a few days before I am, so she's obviously out. My other sister has 4 kids ranging from 2 years to 10 years, and would have to have someone available to take them for who knows how long if she were to come. My mom wants to come I think, but I feel my sister should have priority over mom if we go into labor at the same time, since it's her first and all. Plus, my mom is kind of high strung and not entirely comfortable with homebirth, so I'm not even sure I want her hanging around during labor. I'd have her be in charge of ds, since I don't want him hanging around either, but I don't think she'd want to miss the birth if ds wanted to be taken out, you know?
I don't know anyone in the town we're moving to yet. I doubt that I'm going to hit it off with anyone well enough to invite them take part in my birth in the time between moving there at 28 weeks and delivering. I guess I should look into doulas, but we have lots of other bills we need to pay off. It's a smallish town, surrounded by lots of farms and even tinier towns, so I don't know that there will be many options for doulas anyway.
Any words of wisdom? Who is coming to your birth?