So, I had my son (only living child) in November 2009 at 42w and 1d via c-section. I have had 2 miscarriages at 5 weeks and 12 weeks (baby stopped growing at 10 weeks). I REALLY wanted a natural birth and even did hypnobirthing classes, but due to my labor not starting and me being 2 weeks overdue I had a c-section. My son has a heart defect that required immediate care after his birth, so I had to be in a hospital. I had doctors breathing down my back and scaring the heck out of me. I had absolutely NO pregnancy issues, but my pregnancy was marked as "high risk" because of my son's heart defect.
I am currently 7 weeks pregnant. I REALLY want to have a natural birth, preferably a home birth. However, I live in Arizona and no one will touch me because of the laws against having a home birth after a c-section. So, I really feel like "damaged goods" and don't want to have to go through such an invasive and "in your face" atomsphere as a teaching hospital (where I delivered my son). To make matters worst, I'm apparently "elderly" because I'm over 35 (I was 36 for my pregnancy with my son)! Which I think is ridiculous because I take care of myself better than most women in their 20s and am very healthy. So, that made doctors in my face even more! I just want a stress free pregnancy and have the chance to enjoy it. The midwive's out here have a policy that they don't take on VBAC patients at their facility, but will work with me at the hospital. So, it looks like I'm stuck in a hospital unless I just go into labor and not go to a hospital.
Does anyone have any advice as to what I would be asking regarding VBACs? I saw posts about the way you get stitched up and I don't have a clue the method that was used on me. Does this matter? What are the risks with a VBAC? What are the stastics of something really horrible happening because you had a c-section? I need as much advice as possible, I have just started my research on this topic.