My son just turned 10 and has finished 4th grade in a highly gifted school where he was in all 5th grade classes (highly gifted classes). The elementary school ends in 5th grade, and kids can choose one of several middle schools to attend. After meeting with his teaching team, including the principal and a district GT rep, where we discussed what he would learn next year (since he's already done the 5th grade curriculum), they came up with options for independent learning next year in elementary school, or (after the IAS), he was approved for a skip to the gifted middle school.
Fine, but I talked to the gifted middle school principal this week and she told me she doesn't believe in skipping. She was highly skeptical of my son's abilities (he's profoundly gifted and tests in the 85th percentile among 8th graders as a 4th grader), and was pretty uninterested in receiving him as a skipper. She said the one child she agreed to skip was under duress and she didn't think the kid was smarter than anyone else, but the principal did admit the child did fine after the skip. When I asked her what she thought about the research regarding profoundly gifted kids skipping, the principal admitted she's never seen any of the research and her opinion is based solely on the kids she sees at her school. So that's not very helpful to me; considering my son's IQ, it's likely she's never seen a kid like him.
Because of her attitude and lack of research-based information-- and the fact that she's the leader of the gifted school-- I feel like this school probably isn't going to be a good fit for my son and I'm really disappointed. I had hoped we would feel really good about sending him there, but now I think they really don't understand that gifted kids can be on a spectrum of abilities. I think it was the best option for him and now I'm a little worried that we'll have to homeschool. It's not that I'm totally opposed to homeschool, but I think he needs the social interaction of school.
So... would you let your child skip into a school where the principal was admittedly uneducated about the benefits of a skip, and was actively opposed? (The school would have to accept him-- the district GT office has approved and supports the skip.)