So I'm just looking for some possible advice or BTDT type responses. 20 month old DD, who has slept 12 hrs through the night since she was 9 months old, has suddenly decided in the last two weeks that she's done doing that. She IS teething, lower incisors, so I've been giving her IB profin at night assuming this was the main problem, but now two weeks later I'm not so sure.
Essentially it seems like she's forgotten how put herself to sleep. It will either take her 2 plus hrs to fall asleep (we have always given her a bottle in the rocker, cuddled for a bit, but she goes into her crib awake and has always put herself to sleep) and requires us to go back in to offer more milk, give more cuddles, or eventually i cave and rock her to sleep. But now, she's also waking in the middle of the night, not crying or screaming or anything, just waking up and not being able to put herself back to sleep.\
Last night was the worst so far, she woke up at 11:00, after a 7:00 bedtime where she did put herself to sleep. by 12:30 I went in, changed her diaper, gave her another bottle, gave her more ib profin, and lots of rocking. at 3:00 a.m. after she had been just tossing and turning, up and down, rolling all around, talking to herself, heavy eye rubbing, I finally went in and rocked her to sleep. 15 minutes later, she's out. But....she also woke up at her usual time 7:30 a.m. so now she's 4 hrs behind just from last night and exhausted. Why would she suddenly just be waking up and be unable to get back to sleep? watching her on the monitor is like seeing someone with insomnia...she just rolls around for hrs, her eyes will flutter, you'll think she's going out, then ten minutes later she's standing and singing to herself.
I should also mention, that I'm due today actually with baby number 2, and she has been VERY mommy attached lately. Do you think 20 months is old enough to really get what's going on? could this be a reaction to the new baby coming, or a need to be close to me?! I just don't think it's physical at this point, but am at a loss for how to get her back on track. She's EXHAUSTED and impossible to be around at this point. Every time I put her down, i think, this is it, she's going to do a long stretch and catch up, but it never happens.
Should daddy take over bedtime completely for the next week and see if that solves the problem? On the days that she's exhausted should I be giving her 2 naps (which then makes bedtime late) or push her through to her usual nap time (noon)?
Any advice would be much appreciated, and if anyone out there has dealt with similar issues for this age, or thinks maybe there's a connection to the upcoming baby, I'd love to hear feedback. thanks.