I was invited to a friend's wedding that is in early August. Dd will be just shy of 3 months then. I'd love to go, but am hesitant to leave her for so long. It's a 2:00 wedding and about an hour drive from here. With the wedding and reception, even leaving early, we'd probably be out until 8:00 so would be away for awhile. We would most likely drive to my ILs and have them babysit my two older kids so then we wouldn't have to leave as early for the wedding (maybe 1:30 or a little before) and then we could pick dd up after. I just hate to leave her for that long when she is so little. I will have gone back to work by then, but am planning to work in shorter spurts (4 or so hours at a time) rather than a long day so if I went to the wedding, that would be the longest I've been away from her.
Reasons I want to go:
I LOVE weddings. Love what it celebrates, love the food, love dancing.
It's not a good friend of mine, but one I met years ago at the church group where I met dh. I'm happy for her that she was able to meet someone and is getting married.
It will be nice to see our friends that we don't normally see.
It might be nice to have a date night with dh.
Reasons I don't want to go:
I feel bad leaving her for so long. I'd miss her. :(
I'm afraid I'd worry about her and not have a good time.
I'm afraid she won't be good with bottles (my ds refused them and when I worked 6-8 hours he would eat nothing and be starving until I got home). I hate to willingly do that to dd.
I'd have to pump. I wouldn't be able to go 8 hours without pumping and I'm not sure where I'd pump at a wedding.
Because it's far and late, we'd either have to pick up the kids at the ILs and then head home late (when the kids are super fussy) or stay at their house, which is uncomfortable (their mattress is horrible!).
So, what do you think? What would you do? Oh, and should I ask to make sure she's not invited? I'm assuming not (the invite was just addressed to mr and mrs. and I asked a good friend of hers and she said that she doesn't think kids are invited, except for kids in their family). Is it rude to ask? I don't want to put her on the spot, especially if it's pretty obvious kids are not invited.
Edited by callieollie - 6/3/12 at 7:04pm