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[tolovemercy]

Ah, yep.  Getting whiffs of that late-pregnancy feeling (37w), which I love and hate-- it feels like the beginning of the end/ existing in-between worlds, sort of, ya know?   BH contractions have changed, too.  I tried to check myself yesterday to see if they have been making some early progress, but I'm not super cervix-savvy and seems like my cervix is still posterior (couldn't reach it.) :(.  

And yes, super lax with the screen time here, too.  I feel like my mindset has shifted from thinking of fun things to do with the kids to thinking, "How can I get everyone to leave me alone? Oh, a movie.  Great idea."   Sigh.  My patience is worn really thin, anxiety really high.   My last birth was really long, hard, slow, and sleepless, and I'm overwhelmed by the idea of having another labor like that.   That, and DS3 (21months) is cutting two year molars, and it's hellish.  He's up all night, screams all day.  Last night I sat down and cried after finally getting him to sleep at 11pm, thinking, are we SERIOUSLY adding a newborn to this chaos?  We are insane.  

Anyway, that's my vent.  Hugs to all you super-close mamas.  I'm excited to see the birth announcements start rolling out!

[fruitfulmomma]

No, no labor, still here...they pretty much quit by bedtime. 

[ThreeLittleBirds]

Oh tolovemercy I understand :( My daughter is 21 months and lately I feel like I have thrown her and her brother in front of their tv to watch movies all day because I just feel so ..I dont know really. But i guess I feel like I want to crawl inside myself more now. Just be alone, sit, think. Yet my days end up being frustrating and hectic with a screaming toddler and I run to my husband at the end of the day crying asking "How am i going to do this with a newborn?". At times I am excited and other times I terrified. I guess we have to go through all of these emotions to prepare ourselves mind body and soul to bring another little person earthside? Its painful though.

[LeaPea]

Right there with you all! I am 38 weeks and I have a daughter who just turned two. She has been teething off and on for months (two year molars) and right now it's on! I feel like crap because we have been spending so much time in front of the TV, but I don't know what else to do. I'm achy and irritable, and I just want to sit down. I go back and forth about being ready for this baby to come. I'm physically ready to have a baby, but emotionally I am not quite there. It just hit me a few days ago that I am going to have another child, and it's going to be chaos again! Then the panic starts .

Also, I am giving birth at a hospital, so I will be leaving my two year old with friends. I have never left her overnight, or even more than a few hours, and it's scaring the crap out of me. I am praying I give birth during the day so hubby can be home with her at night. I hope I can get out of the hospital quickly!!

[scarykarrey]

Okay, so am I the only one here who isn't having any BH contractions yet? I'm a first time mom, so maybe I've been having them and I just don't know that that's what they are, but I haven't had any episodes of my belly tightening or any cramping or gas-pain feelings (except for actual gas pains, grar!). I'm 36w today, and I'm feeling left out of the practice rounds!

I'm definitely still feeling that vaginal widening feeling, though. Plus, I'm about 99% sure that I've got SPD, which was excruciating over the weekend. I'm going to revive that thread in a minute with some stuff I found in my research on it.

[fruitfulmomma]

Karrey they really do tend to get more noticeable in second or later pregnancies. You are probably having some without noticing it. Even with this one when I was hooked up to the monitor last weekend it was picking contractions that I couldn't feel.

[Nicole730]

Originally Posted by Shinyredstar 

The worst thing is that we still have no name picked, and it's become the source of a LOT of frustration. I've literally spent hours and hours this week looking at books, websites, gathering suggestions, etc. and still can't find "the one" that we both feel is right. Last night ended in a meltdown. Today I'm back at it. Time is running out!

For some reason when I read this I thought of the name Lydia.  Does that one do it for ya? :)  We're almost positive we're going with Hadley, I don't mind sharing. 

[blumooned]

Feeling very similar to everyone here!  I'm 38 weeks & feel like a ticking time bomb.

I was told BH contractions are very unlikely or not really noticeable for first time pregnancies.  I had none last time & lots this time.

I'm also very nervous to leave my toddler overnight - he will be with my Mom, in very good hands & I really have nothing to worry about, but still . . . I worry!

I keep getting mixed feelings on the fact that this baby is actually coming, too!  Sometimes I am so excited to get to do everything all over again & then I think about handling 2 kids & start to psyche myself out!
 

We are also really stuck on the name.  We don't know gender, so are trying to come up with 2 names & can't even pin down 1.  I keep worrying that we're going to bring home an unnamed baby.  I have looked at so many name lists that they don't even make sense anymore.

[Nicole730]

40 weeks today!  Now the real impatience and wondering will set in.  I keep making plans in the hopes I will have to cancel them.  Even though this is my third, I am feeling almost more nervous about labor this time around.  Maybe bacuase there aren't as many unknowns and I know exactly what I am getting myself into!

[tolovemercy]

Totally with you, Nicole.  My labor anxiety this time around is through the roof.   Lots of "I can't believe I'm doing this again" thoughts- no fantasies or illusions left!   Looking forward to seeing your birth announcement!

[Nicole730]

Originally Posted by tolovemercy 

Totally with you, Nicole.  My labor anxiety this time around is through the roof.   Lots of "I can't believe I'm doing this again" thoughts- no fantasies or illusions left!   Looking forward to seeing your birth announcement!

I have had one great hospital birth and one great homebirth.    Now I wonder what will happen with number three.  And by great, I mean we all got through it.  :)  I think I am just afraid it won't be quicker and I will lose all hope....even though I know I won't.

[octolars]

37 weeks.  im a first timer, i thought i had everything planned out and now i am rethinking everything.  im lost in my head.  i just stare into space a lot, and i cry ALOT.  i haven't been eating well.  i am usually alspee my now, but im wide awake just staring at the ceiling freaking out.

I just want to keep her safe, which is what any mother wants, but im doubting my decision making, and i don't always want to be this anxious about everything.  i don't want to turn her into a bubble boy bc of my anxieties!

this part is very difficult, isn't it?  im in limbo.  im scared of labor, but i feel confident in myself.  i don't know what to expect, though.  

i keep thinking, have i done enough?  did i do everything i could to ensure a healthy baby?  and of course the answer is no.  i could have done beter, eaten better, exercised more, done more kegals, better research about infant care, blah blah blah, and here we go! im caught in the downward spiral again!

how can i teach my daughter to be a peaceful positive person when i can't calm myself down?  I'm just hoping that I will see her for the first time and everything will be ok.  that the breath ive been holding for a solid week will be exhaled, and peace will find me.  

i feel like such a debbie downer.   i really am a positive person, i am just fraught with anxiety over this incredible transition.  plus, the various nuances of pregnancy have made me a little grumpy.

[Shinyredstar]

Originally Posted by Nicole730 

For some reason when I read this I thought of the name Lydia.  Does that one do it for ya?   We're almost positive we're going with Hadley, I don't mind sharing. 

Hadley is very cute! I have a negative name association with a Lydia. BUT! It is close to a new name that we added that I'm starting to really like- Lila. So maybe you were on to something thank you for the suggestion!

[Shinyredstar]

Originally Posted by octolars 


this part is very difficult, isn't it?  im in limbo.  im scared of labor, but i feel confident in myself.  i don't know what to expect, though.  

i keep thinking, have i done enough?  did i do everything i could to ensure a healthy baby?  and of course the answer is no.  i could have done beter, eaten better, exercised more, done more kegals, better research about infant care, blah blah blah, and here we go! im caught in the downward spiral again!

I think it's very normal. I'm a 4th time mom and have been feeling a lot the same way. To some degree, I think that's one of the challenges of being a mother- you always have those worries, but they change (from did I do enough kegels to did I traumatized my kid because I was snappy at them this morning) but there are also sweeter rewards to balance it out- like sticky little baby kisses and such. The best thing you can do is try to relax. It gets easier, and this part is almost over. Sounds like you've put a lot of work into doing as much as you were able to. Feel good about what you have done- sounds like it's a lot.

[fruitfulmomma]

6th here and I am doing the same thing...the waiting kind of gets to you I guess. I keep going back and forth between please come now little baby and oh, wait! I still need to do this and that. and my poor husband has bore the brunt of several meltdowns in the last couple of days. 

[mrs_mandolini]

Had my baby girl on Friday after a freight-train like 80 minutes in labor (water broke, train pulled out of the station..). So glad we planned a home birth, since otherwise we'd have a terrible mess in the car!!

I was at 36 w 0 days, the earliest day we were comfortable staying home. I guess she knew that. Baby beat the midwife by about 5 minutes. My DH did awesome. And the baby is great, over 6 lb, eating good.

--MRS M.

[Nicole730]

Congrats Mrs. M!!

Octolars, I remember when I had my first and he came out and I was looking at him and I though Oh My God - I was nervous about how I was caring for this little baby inside of me and now I have to keep him alive outside of me!!!  I am not one to worry I am messing up the kids too much, but there are so many things that I didn't realizebefore I had kids.  Totally random, but ithit me that it is MY fault if my kids get sunburn, I never blamed my own parents or anything, but it is the parents' responsibility.  just weird stuff like that.

[scowgirl]

Congratulations, mrs_mandolini!!

[octolars]

congratulations Mrs M!!!  and thanks to everyone for the support.  I'm off to an appointment with my midwife in half an hour!

[tolovemercy]

Congrats mrs. m!!  enjoy your babymoon!