I am realizing it would be supportive to have some community with other mamas who are challenged to conceive a second child (or third or ???). I don't like that word "infertility." We've got a lot of fertility working. But I do need to face not producing the result we thought we would.
Briefly about me: we conceived #1 easily, first time we tried. We've conceived again many times, but I have had miscarriages every time. Now I'm 45 and starting to lose some confidence that it will eventually happen, and ds is 7.
Some issues I'd love to discuss. Now that ds is 7 we've been talking for years about saving things for when we have another baby. I hate that I've sort of "lead him on." I always thought if we got to this point we might adopt, but we aren't in a financial situation to do that now. It still is a possibility for someday. Meanwhile ds is growing up an only, and I need to start acknowledging that and addressing it. I wish we had cousins his age nearby, but we don't, so I think we need to Skype the far away one we have and maybe do more trips with friends. I also wonder how to talk about the concept of family planning. Clearly that is not our reality.