I'm 7 weeks, and it's so good to hear that others are feeling some symptoms like mine! Very little nausea so far (which surprised me, based on my previous two pregnancies) only EXTREME sluggishness, tiredness, whatever I'd like to call it. I feel crummy most of the time, just like a lazy bean bag sitting around! Cannot wait to feel back to normal. I hate not feeling the energy to "get up and go" and to things! Trying to be thankful through it all, and remember I have that precious little baby in my womb, that I've waited for and prayed for :)
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Clarasmama, I would just keep it under wraps for a while then! I got a lot of comments from my family (mainly my dad) when I was pregnant with #2 and planning my first homebirth. Luckily nobody says anything anymore. After #4 was born (total labor <30 min), my dad finally admitted it was a good thing I have homebirths, or else I would have given birth in the car.
Lord I wish my father took that view point at this rate. He's an ER Dr and has delivered well over 500 babes and he reamed me a new one for doing that. He's already putting pressure on me about this birth. I told him to chill out. He then went on the tell me all of the "unnecessary" risks I took delivering DS2 at home. What a pita! It's not HIS decision, nor is it his body! ARGH! Things piss me off right now. I am tending towards being way more emotional right now.
broodymama - I so agree, in fact dinner would have been canceled if DH didn't want to cook. I feel like crap, for 4 days now I get really hungry and then one bite in and I feel sick. I am so tired of it already! I am also so tired I cant even think strait, I am mixing stuff up at work, DH says I am like a walking zombie but I cant help it! I want my energy back.
On a positive note I finally got the news that my insurance will pay for my home birth so I am now really looking forward to my first appointment with my midwife next week. I will be one day shy of 11 weeks. I am worried that she wont be happy with how big I already am, I don't have a scale but I was around 170 before I got pregnant and I am sure I have gained quite a bit, how I don't know because I am not on good terms with food at all.
organicviolin - My mom isn't a Dr but she sure thinks she is qualified to be one, when we had the first conversation about me being pregnant she asked my due date, I told her, she said "oh great so you are already seeing a Dr then" I said nope just went to get a positive test so I can see what insurance will cover and she said well then what Dr are you going to use, the Dr that did your c-section I hope. I said nope I am going back to the midwife and going to go for a home birth again after a long pause she said oh so the midwife will do your prenatal care and then you will go to the hospital and have another c-section to make it all easier.... some people just never get it so I had to explain that no I'm not going to go to the hospital if I don't need to. She thinks I am crazy. But we already decided that she will not be at the birth, for any reason. I think it will be more peaceful that way.
That's great your insurance is covering your homebirth!
When I was pregnant with DD1 (planning my 1st homebirth), my dad told me that "the whole reason people evolved and came down from the trees was to give birth in a hospital". Then later he said to give him a call when I went into labor, and he'd have a "gin epidural" for me. Needless to say, they all got called AFTER the baby was there. #4 was a <30 minute UC and all he said to that one was "holy sh*t". Did I mention that I won't be saying anything about this pregnancy for quite a while?
I am 7 weeks this week, and I am TIRED! I have been taking two naps a day, it's ridiculous. LOL I feel like a bump on a log. My boobs are sore, too, but it's not too bad. The nausea mainly comes when I don't eat something after a couple of hours- and I seem to be really good at eating. LOL I've already gained about 5 lbs and am definitely showing. I guess with baby #5 the belly just pops out quickly. I gather it's not real surprising I've gained the 5 obs... since school is out I have more opportunity to eat well, and eat when I'm hungry than I did when I was teaching.
About 10 and a half weeks here and having a miserable day today. Bleh with the nausea...venting here because I know you will all understand. I don't really want to take the prenatals because I think I'm just going to puke them up. Will try waiting until right before sleep. I'm so nauseous though I don't know if I can sleep!
I love my LLL group though, such wonderful supportive mamas!
I went to my LLL meeting last night, it was so nice to tell some people! Our group leader is 14 weeks pregnant now too, so she's due early December. a woman there had a home birth just 3 months ago, and she mentioned that she didn't really tell anyone in her family either. It's so weird that our culture has such negative views about home birth when it was 100% normal not even 100 years ago! Maybe if people do end up challenging the idea I'll tell them to read the list of books I've read and talk to me when they're finished...which is probably never
I love my LLL group though, such wonderful supportive mamas!
Had all four at home, I've met some moms who don't want to deal with the drama or questions about things so don't broadcast it. I am a nerd, strong scientific background and even contemplated medical school a while back so some were fairly surprised that I was going homebirth (from the start as well--they thought for some reason I'd be 'high tech'....they don't know high tech in a normal birth adds risk and danger!). I did my research and it was really clear that midwife assisted homebirth had the best outcomes for mom and baby so I was most definitely going that route no matter what anyone thought. I've always done my own thing and don't really care what others thing either, which likely helps when I have 'less' common views on somethings!
Of course, DH was travelling the last couple of days and for whatever reason my m/s kicked up even to another notch. After writing my post last night I got sick, then this morning I got sick again, while I was on the phone with DH. The most ridiculous phone call ever, I'm certain I'm going to be laughing about it later. I basically couldn't talk and I was trying to get off the phone without being rude LOL. I wound up sitting on the toilet, but puking into the bathtub which is right next to it, with the phone up to my ear (hadn't eaten yet so just stomach acid)! DH, feeling helpless, calls back about a half an hour later making sure I'm OK. It is kind of funny in retrospect. I hope I can make it through the day without having it happen again...bleh!
I'm 7 weeks with #1 right now and surprised that I don't have the nausea and m/s I had at the end of week 5 and beginning of week 6. I also had food aversions, so picking out what to eat I basically skimmed through the options in my head and whatever didn't seem revolting was what I ate. It's like a total turn around, so strange, but I'm very grateful to feel normal again. I haven't had anyother symptoms other than cravings and sore nipples. I'm not showing at ALL and still have a flat tummy. I don't ever weigh myself so I have no idea if I've gained weight or not. I had my midwife consultation a couple weeks ago and have my first prenatal visit with her in 5 days. My MIL has known for a while that I want a home birth. I feel comfortable talking to her b/c she will just ask questions and not make any comments about anything which is really nice. I haven't told my parents yet b/c I know there will be tons of "why"s and push back and I don't want to have to deal with answering their questions. If they want to know they can look it up and read about it themselves, I hate having to defend myself. So, we'll see how long I can hold out telling them. A lot of people already know I'm pg even though we haven't technically informed everyone we know. I'm okay with it just because if anything bad happened I would know I wasn't alone and wouldn't have to mourn on my own in secret which to me would be worse. But anyhow, doing great right now!
Yea I've had that bad metal taste in my mouth on and off, mostly on since before I got a + test. Oh to add insult to injury, last night I was saddled with the WORST food poisoning ever! I was puking ALL night long. So today has been a total waste as I've been attempting to rehydrate and eat some things because of course I've gotten really hungry, but am still paranoid of eating the wrong food.
I'm approaching 11 weeks and feeling really good. I had 2 weeks where I thought I was going to die. So glad to be out of that. My pants are tight but my maternity stuff is too big. So I'm hanging out in DH's gym shorts. :) I've been cleaning like crazy and wishing it would stay this clean until baby comes. Fat chance! Saw my midwife last week. We picked up heart tones, but no audible beat yet. We'll try again this week. I'm planning another HB and not really telling too many people. I hate all of the opinions and uneducated responses. It's easier to just not say a word. I've also already decided on who I want at this birth. My last birth felt like a circus and I was the monkey who couldn't do their act right. This time, I'm limiting it to DH, birth team, my kids and my dear friend who will photograph. Specifically the moms are not invited this time. It's hard, but has to be done! My mom can't behave at births. She is 2 for 2 for making a big dramatic scene.
I'm approaching 11 weeks and feeling really good. I had 2 weeks where I thought I was going to die. So glad to be out of that. My pants are tight but my maternity stuff is too big. So I'm hanging out in DH's gym shorts. I've been cleaning like crazy and wishing it would stay this clean until baby comes. Fat chance! Saw my midwife last week. We picked up heart tones, but no audible beat yet. We'll try again this week. I'm planning another HB and not really telling too many people. I hate all of the opinions and uneducated responses. It's easier to just not say a word. I've also already decided on who I want at this birth. My last birth felt like a circus and I was the monkey who couldn't do their act right. This time, I'm limiting it to DH, birth team, my kids and my dear friend who will photograph. Specifically the moms are not invited this time. It's hard, but has to be done! My mom can't behave at births. She is 2 for 2 for making a big dramatic scene.
Yeah, I'm thinking about not telling my dad and step-mom until they come visit. They haven't been here since DS2 was 6 weeks old and he turns 2 next week, so I could probably just keep it quiet for quite awhile. It would definitely be more peaceful. (They thought 3 was a lot. )
Why do parents always think they know "what's best?!" So frustrating. You'd just like them to be on your side. Sorry to hear that so many of you don't have great relationships with your folks. I'm lucky in that I do, but I ignore some of the stuff they say. Suddenly I become deaf! It's a miracle
It's actually really strange. My mom is super supportive of my parenting style, birth choices, etc. She praises me often and truly means it. There is just this weird switch in her brain that goes haywire when she is physically witnessing me give birth. After the baby is born, she sort of shuts down and becomes all mopey and depressed. Then she gets self absorbed for a few days. She's done it to my sister too. I can't figure out what the deal is. I have a great relationship with her and she is a wonderful grandmother to my kids, I just have to invite her to come after they are born and a week old. Then she's helpful. I've learned to just laugh at my last two experiences. I couldn't write a script more funny than the stuff she has done.
Even my midwife's jaw dropped at some of her comments last time. She was freaking out at me and mad because "we banned her from the birth and she had every right to see it!!" (baby was ascynclitic and had slight shoulder dystocia so it was a little more rough of a delivery than I anticipated) I was shutting down emotionally so every "extra" person was invited to step out for a bit so I could calm down. It worked and baby was born soon after. No time to go gather up the troops for the show. Nobody was BANNED. lol She wouldn't even look at my son up close for 2 days. She stood in my doorway and mumbled with her arms folded and complained about how much money she wasted flying down for the birth. Meanwhile, my MIL is hugging me and crying and telling me I'm a birthing godess and couldn't be more amazing and beautiful. Um, that's what I needed to hear, not be yelled at! sheesh
I'm starting to feel like it's her way of getting control of the situation. My sister and I are very strong women and have changed birth and parenting dynamics dramatically in my family, among other unhealthy behaviors we were raised to think was normal. I think it actually threatens her that we don't "need" her at that moment of vulnerability. (sorry to hijack the thread, I'm having type therapy!)
My mother was at my last two births, and I have long labors.... so last time she was on the phone, in front of me and telling someone, "yeah, still here, yeah she is still pregnant. sorry i have to reschedule. i dont know how long this is going to take. i am so tired of waiting. yeah.... uh huh... i dont know why she does it either... yeah well sorry I dont know when this will end so I cant tell you when we can meet."
I was in pain, exhausted after over 50 hours of labor, and she was sitting there complaining about how long it was taking and how inconvient it was to have to reschedule her plans. I screamed at her and told her to get off the phone and she got mad at me. Needless to say, she will not be at this time. .
Type therapy is good sometimes...