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People always comment on how tiny Ava is and it kind of makes me upset. I always tell myself that they are just making conversation and she is "small" but it still makes me feel defensive inside like I want to retort back "well let's cut your chest open a couple of times and see how you do growing!" but most people don't even know about her CHD so that's not why they are saying it. I think I'm also sensitive to it because the question about Noonan Syndrome is still out there and I'm always concerned that she's stopped growing. But I have to keep getting the next size clothes out so that must mean something right?

*hugs* A woman in my DDC has been dealing with tongue tie and latch issues and just so so much since her daughter's birth, and I know she gets similar comments a lot and it really gets to her. People don't think before they speak, and that includes us too, and others who mean well. I totally understand what MW is saying- I love tiny babies, and always kind of thought I would have one, so since T isn't (don't get me wrong, she is not huge by any means, but she's not tiny and delicate either), I find it that much more appealing and cute when I see others. So I'm sure I've blurted out stuff to people about how teeny and cute their baby is, without thinking there might be underlying sensitivity. 

 

I had other things I meant to respond to, but my brain just fizzled out... lol

post #82 of 409

Well, you guys got to me.  Finn made the face this morning like he was about to poo, and I thought, well, shoot.  Now I have to try.  I took off his dipe and put him on the potty and ...he pooped in the potty!  One less poop dipe to wash!!

 

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It was easy.  And if I don't think of it as training myself (since I already am trained, I recognize the face he makes and the sounds) then it's no big deal.  I don't feel like I'm doing something ridiculous.  Just don't tell Chris!  Ha!

 

Awful awful night last night.  Ugh.  

 

Lauri, I'm so sorry to hear about your friends baby who passed.  My heart was heavy all night.  Prayers and gentle thoughts her way.  

post #83 of 409
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yes, I love the picture of her, she is such a doll! and it grieves me to hear of her passing -

 

I had one little one and one chunky baby :) so I have seen both and gotten both comments. though some people obviously don't know what to say about babies, because I got a comment from a nursery worker (who clearly hasn't been around babies much) asking of Norah was born premature??? WTF? I think Norah is big for her age (No Finn or Dylan to be sure, but still)  and other people say she is big (If ya'll could get a good shot at her thighs . . .) but like Gabe, she doesn't have much belly. Which is a good thing.

 

Dude, I am sooo tired. I feel like I am drowning in work, I have no idea how to get caught up - I will be doing overtime this weekend, and I hope that helps.

 

I took the time off to come in September, and I really hope I can. Partly depends on DH, if HE can come, because I am not doing that road trip by myself. It's about 7 hours, according to mapquest (kind of surprised, since Jacksonsville is 5-6). If you factor in baby and pee breaks, and food . . . It will be more like 8-9 hours I am sure.  IOW, I am looking forward to it, but dreading it all at the same time!

 

*yawn*

post #84 of 409
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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post

Well, you guys got to me.  Finn made the face this morning like he was about to poo, and I thought, well, shoot.  Now I have to try.  I took off his dipe and put him on the potty and ...he pooped in the potty!  One less poop dipe to wash!!

 

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It was easy.  And if I don't think of it as training myself (since I already am trained, I recognize the face he makes and the sounds) then it's no big deal.  I don't feel like I'm doing something ridiculous.  Just don't tell Chris!  Ha!

 

Awful awful night last night.  Ugh.  

 

Lauri, I'm so sorry to hear about your friends baby who passed.  My heart was heavy all night.  Prayers and gentle thoughts her way.  

Yay Potty!!   It's funny, amoung "normal" people, Rob is actually more vocal about the EC than I am! He tells family and such about it, whereas I'm trying to keep a little more quiet to avoid the whole people thinking I'm bat$hit crazy thing... lol.

 

But yes, worth it not to have to change even that one early morning poop diaper! The days I miss it because I wait too long etc, I am a sad sad mama. 

 

 

:( Yes Lauri, pass along condolences. I sat staring at her beautiful photo for a while last night. It makes you hug your babies closer. I can't imagine. 

 

 

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I had one little one and one chunky baby :) so I have seen both and gotten both comments. though some people obviously don't know what to say about babies, because I got a comment from a nursery worker (who clearly hasn't been around babies much) asking of Norah was born premature??? WTF? I think Norah is big for her age (No Finn or Dylan to be sure, but still)  and other people say she is big (If ya'll could get a good shot at her thighs . . .) but like Gabe, she doesn't have much belly. Which is a good thing.

 

Dude, I am sooo tired. I feel like I am drowning in work, I have no idea how to get caught up - I will be doing overtime this weekend, and I hope that helps.

I know! It's funny to see people's perceptions. Tenley is technically on the high end of the growth curve, but people always tell me she's teeny tiny. I'm like ummm no? But same thing- small tummy, big thighs!!

 

*hugs* I respect you mamas who work, so so much. I can barely keep myself sane around here, let alone have to get ready, leave the house and be productive!

 

 

So... Tenley had an amazing night, and I had a horrible one *grumbles*  I started keeping track the other day of wakeups to see if it was as bad as I felt, or if I was exaggerating. For instance, this was the other night:

 

Sleep: 7:30 up and down every 20 minutes until almost 9. woke up, nursed. back to sleep 9:20

Sleep: 9:20-10:30, up and nurse

Sleep: 10:45-11:10  Nurse.

Sleep:11:25-1:00

Sleep: 1:20-3:40   <<<Longest and only real stretch

Sleep: 3:50-4:25

Sleep: 4:30-5:45  At which point we brought her into bed and she pretty much nursed for the next two hours straight. Every time I pulled her off the breast she would start shrieking at me. I finally gave up and just woke up for the day. 

 

Last night: 

7:10- Nursed her and cuddled, went down at 7:27

Sleep: 7:27-7:45  nurse

Sleep: 8:02-10:00 Nurse

Sleep: 10:12-11:25   Nurse and wide awake. Talking coo-ing, looking around. 

 

I brought her out to the living room and she sat with us happy for about half an hour and then fell asleep on my lap. We brought her into bed with us. I didn't write down times, but she only woke three times to feed in between 12-7am. Still not great, but longer stretches than the other night! And it was a deep sleep too, not the usual constant rooting all night she does when she's in bed with us.

 

But, Rob had his cast changed yesterday and they moved the position of his thumb, so he was in a lot of pain. And he kept waking me up all. night. long. like every 30 minutes or less, to tell me he couldn't sleep, and it hurt so bad, and he needed it to stop. I get it, ok? It sucks, and it hurts, and I am so so sorry that it does, but there's nothing I can do to fix it, and waking me up just makes me angry at you because you know I don't sleep much! Sigh!

post #85 of 409
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And he kept waking me up all. night. long. like every 30 minutes or less, to tell me he couldn't sleep, and it hurt so bad, and he needed it to stop. I get it, ok? It sucks, and it hurts, and I am so so sorry that it does, but there's nothing I can do to fix it, and waking me up just makes me angry at you because you know I don't sleep much! Sigh!

 

I would KILL Chris if he did that.  KILL.  My goodness, men are such babies.  Worse than babies!

I sliced my finger almost OFF when Finn was 2 months old, and I still had to suck it up, sleep with him on me, nurse, change diapers.  I think I maybe cried/complained once and did not wake anyone up to do so!  

 

Maybe I'll do sleep logs.  Maybe that'll make me feel better about things.  It can't make me feel any worse!

post #86 of 409
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OMG! I would be like, go sleep on the couch. or anywhere but near me and the baby! tell him call the doc for stronger pills or something.

 

Sleep logs . . . ugh. Our night was like . .

 

8 pm - nurse down to sleep . .

around 9, attempt to transfer to crib. no luck. nurse back down to sleep around 9:30

9:45 - DH gets a phone call, takes in the bedroom where Norah is freaking sleeping, and of course, she wakes up. I take her out in the living room, nurse and cuddle more, and she's back in bed a little after 10.

10:30 - I go lay down with DS to sleep, and that doesn't take long, maybe 30 ish minutes? walk out of the room at 11ish

11ish - Norah wakes again. bloody hell. so I say screw it, I'm going to bed with the baby. I was going have a margarita.

4ish - nice long stretch I think, (she may have needed to pop on a boob; I've lost the paci somewhere in the bed, so she nurses off an on between 4-5:30

5:30 I go find the paci, get up for the day and go to work.

 

Joyful, isn't it.

 

Norah is about 50%tile for weight and 75-85% for height. Gabe (looking back) was 10% for weight and the the upper end for height, yet, the funny thing is, his first summer I KNOW he wore 3-6 month stuff, and some 6-12. Norah is quite firmly in 12-18 month things, and 18-24 isn't too big. *sigh* I am afraid she will be in 24 months/2T stuff this winter. and she will have just turned 1. oy.

 

What do yall do for fun on rainy days?

 

ETA: world's worst fortune cookie - seriously we got this the other night:

 

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post #87 of 409

But then her weight should level out.  Finn has been in 18-24 mo stuff for awhile, and now with crawling *some* 12 mo stuff fits.  So.  Even if she does grow into that size, she should stay there for awhile!  Long enough to give the clothes some use!

 

Our night...

 

830 - nurse down, put him to bed

9 - put Nora to bed

1030 - went up to lay down

nurse a few times b/w 11 - 3 am 

3am WIDE AWAKE.  Rocking, shushing, patting, nursing - nothing works.  About to scream and cry myself.  Switched beds with Chris so I could have the comfy bed.

4am finally he's out.  Lay with him.  Pass out til 645.

Nurse.  He sleeps a bit longer but not me.  I think I dozed for 10 min.

7:15 up for the day.

 

He's whiny and clingy.  I think it's teeth.

post #88 of 409

Yeah, teeth suck! We've been using the teething tablets, and I feel like they're working, but more on the level of 'keeping her sane' and not 'totally taking her pain away', kwim? I just want her to cut one already! 

 

 

It was so hard with DH, because I know it hurts. Hell he had his hand cut open in three places, and then the surgeon fished around, found the tendon, and threaded it back up his wrist to his thumb, and then stitched it together. Then they put a cast on, which held his thumb immobilized. Then yesterday, they took the cast off, moved the thumb around a bunch with no pain meds, and then re-braced it in a different, more severe position. So yes, absolutely believe he's in pain. But- he also has a low pain tolerance, throw in old anxiety issues, and he turns into a ball of joy with the slightest bit of pain. So he was literally waking me up on the verge of breakdown telling me I have to get up, he doesn't know what to do.  Well... I don't either, and you're not listneing to my suggestions. And- if I get out of bed, the baby will wake up, and then I'll have freaking out husband AND shrieky, tired baby on my hands... So... no, I'm not all that eager to get out of bed! Especially since this is the first 'good' sleep I've gotten in a long time. *stomps foots*

 

He's been good this past week he's been home. .He's not supposed to be using his hand at all, so he's limited in usefullness, but he's still been picking Ten up (with help) and getting down on the floor and playing with her, and at bedtime I get them set up in the bed and they read books for a while and that. So he's trying... but really, even after being home for the week, I don't think he fully comprehends what it's like to be "on" 24 hours a day, for six months and counting. We got into a mini tiff when he was home because it was 11am or so, and I was on the computer while Ten was playing on the floor, and he kept nudging me to get going for the day, and what was I going to do, and ok the day is wasting away, etc etc etc. I finally was like "I know it's hard for you, because this is your "time off" and you want to be productive. But this is my life, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. I don't get breaks, I don't get days off. I know stuff needs to get done, and it will get done, but I know what works and what doesn't, and you can't come in here and try to guilt me for sitting down! 

 

I see that this week of being home all the time has opened his eyes a bit (ie I think he thought I was totally exaggerating about her short sporadic naps, and how much she needs constant entertainment, and now he sees I wasn't really exaggerating at all), but even seeing it, I think he still discounts how much effort it really is. Even things like if we're sitting here on the couch, both on our computers, and she starts fussing while we're playing, he'll look at me to go entertain her. So I will, we'll play, then I'll go clean the kitchen, come back, play for a minute or two, do a load of laundry, come back, change her, go finish the kitchen, come back and sit down at my computer, and he'll sigh and go "Can you watch her for a bit?" While I'm sitting there going WHAT? I've --been-- watching her for the past hour?! AND doing housework! But in his mind, he honestly thinks that because he was sitting 4 feet away from her and smiling at her every now and then, that he was the one 'watching her'. Boys! LOL

 

PS I forgot about that with your hand Carrie! Yet another way in which we are freaking rockstars!

 

 

I have a whole POT of iced coffee in the fridge. I wish I could share with you ladies! It sounds like we all need it this morning!

post #89 of 409

Yeah, that's Chris too.  They really don't get it!

 

I have a whole pot of hot coffee!  Tho -- I need to eat something, I'm getting the shakes from all the caffeine!

 

And um, ouch.  Yeah that sounds really fraking painful.  Is he on anything now drug wise??  Did the repair work -- will he be able to pursue his career?

 

Rain here today...kinda mad about it b/c a walk would really be nice, but no dice.  Thought about walking around the mall but that feels like too much work. 

post #90 of 409

I'm actually doing good on the food front! I've been very dizzy and lightheaded the past few days and can't figure out why (every time I stand up I feel like I'm going to black out...) so I'm trying to be very diligent about eating. This morning I had a cookie, a banana, and a breakfast sandwich. And I've already had about 20oz of water. Haven't started into the coffee yet!

 

He's just on T3's and antibiotics. He initially was on naproxen as well, but it's done. He has some function of it (though still very very painful to move) but won't know if he can regain full mobility and function for up to about 12 weeks or more :S  He's in the cast for probably that long, and starting 'rehab' in about 4. 

 

We're the opposite- it's finally sunny today after several days of yucky yucky weather. I wanted to head up to the store to get some groceries, but the things I need will be too big for the stroller basket. We might just do a walk around the neighborhood, and I think a dip in the hot tub. 

post #91 of 409

Oh, and the sleep logs can work both ways. They either point out that "no, it's not as bad as it feels, so maybe I just need to restructure my thinking", or you can look at them and go "Oh. Okay yeah, I really am waking up every 45 minutes. No wonder I'm soo tired." So at least you feel justified. It can also help to find patterns I think. I started noticing that at the first part of the night, if she fusses and I nurse her, she's way more likely to sleep a real stretch when she goes back down- whereas if she wakes and I just cuddle her, she'll continue doing the up every 20-30 minutes thing for 2 hours. So, easy enough, right? I nurse her to sleep, come back in next time she wakes up and nurse her again. Problem solved (Well, you know... sometimes solved! lol)

post #92 of 409
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JJ, yeah, I know. I try not to think about sleep, because then I realize how little I'm functioning on. And that makes me sad :( and very grateful for coffee.

 

I wish they made something that tasted like diet coke, but with real sugar. I can't handle regular coke, but I would love something without the artificial sweeteners. and I count Splenda as artificial, bc I don't like the taste of it.  I want caffeine!

 

Norah has been fussy and clingy today for DH. Hope she's happier this evening.

post #93 of 409

Is it the taste of regular soda you don't like or the calories?  I looked into that Pepsi Next...it's full of gross chemicals and sodium.  

 

I've been drinking iced green tea.  I MISS MY DIET COKE though.  It's been what, a week or so since I gave up artificial sweeteners?  I guess about that long.  I really miss an ice cold diet coke.  It's TOUGH.  But I'm plowing thru!  I do feel better.  And I'm down 2 lbs but I don't know if that's incidental since I've been trying hard to stick to my ww points as well.  I've also been drinking tons of seltzer but there obv no caffeine in that.  I just like it for the fizz.

It's also good in a margarita.  I use about half the margarita mix I normally would, and use lemon lime seltzer.  Yum.

 

Finn is a mess today!  He's trying so hard to climb.  I shut the door to upstairs and he was standing at it banging on the door!  So cute and sad.  I let him practice for a bit, but he's not quite there yet.  

He went down for nap just before 3.  I anticipate having to nurse him at least once during this nap but he really needs a good stretch of sleep!  Nora and I are watching Cars 2.  

post #94 of 409
Jj ~ Those aren't pain meds. He needs some percocet or vicodin!

Kat ~ Sweet tea with stevia? I like Truvia brand the best. Or if you need to get used to it, Domino's makes a stevia and sugar mix that isn't bad. Splenda is an artificial sweetener, chlorinated sugar.

Cleaning, cleaning, cleaning today. Ryan did not put the trash out the entire time I was gone. He said he didn't know when trash day was. He never bothered to ask. There is so much that the collectors wouldn't pick it all up today. They won't pick up anything that's not in one of their large blue cans so left all the bags on the curb and put a notice on my door. lol.gif Ryan put those bags in the large can so it's full again and I have nowhere to put the trash that's in the house.
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Ryan did not put the trash out the entire time I was gone. He said he didn't know when trash day was. 

 

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Yikes!  That's a lot of trash!  At that point just put it at the curb, it'll get picked up sooner or later!!  

 

JJ - wow yes, he needs SOMETHING!  That's serious surgery and moving it around like that??  My goodness.  Get that boy something strong!

 

Oh - I bought Pure Via.  There was a coupon for $1 off right on the box.  I like it in my coffee.  It's better than the maple syrup was, and less expensive.

 

I'm shopping online for more diapers.  I don't know what to buy, but I need more.  I might buy a few of those go green dipes b/c they were pretty inexpensive.  I just need to supplement my stash a bit, I'm so tired of doing wash every other day.

post #96 of 409
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Jj ~ Those aren't pain meds. He needs some percocet or vicodin!

It's very much on the down low, but he was on both in high school and developed an insane addiction to them. After having been through that once, we'd both rather him deal with the pain than attempt to take "just one" again, kwim? It's too much of a risk.

 

 

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Oh - I bought Pure Via.  There was a coupon for $1 off right on the box.  I like it in my coffee.  It's better than the maple syrup was, and less expensive.

Agave nectar is supposed to be really good too. I have it, but haven't used enough of it to tell a difference.

post #97 of 409

Ah, yes good then that he stays away.  

 

Agave is nice in tea!  Not so much in coffee.  I like it light and sweet.  Plus...agave vs maple syrup, maple syrup is far less processed and lower on the glycemic index, too.

 

He woke up after an hour and 15, nursed him back down.  I hope he sleeps a bit longer!  

post #98 of 409
Oh, yeah, JJ, then not a good idea. That stinks that he has to suffer.

I tried Agave because dh used it. Blech!
post #99 of 409
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Regular coke is too sweet. I don't like sweet tea greensad.gif we have a soda stream, their diet cola is sPlenda sweetened. Not bad.

That is alot of trash! Why didn't he just ask when trash day was?

Jj, that sucks!
post #100 of 409

In that case have you tried Hansens sodas or Knudsen spritzers?

 

http://www.hansens.com/us/en/products/soda/hansens-soda/

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