A Peaceful Pregnancy - Page 7

[writinglove]

Congratulations, Daki!!

[pokeyAC]

Good, good, good news dakipode!  Hang in there baby bean.  Keep growing.

[deborahbgkelly]

Yay Dakipode! AFM- Today was my first ultrasound and it went great. Baby was measuring 6w3d and I'm 6w6d which is totally normal range and hb was 126. They like it at 120 or higher so we are good there too! I also have no cysts so I can start my prenatal yoga and she thought it would even be a good idea to keep me centered and my anxiety levels low. I will post a picture for you all later.

[SplashingPuddle]

One of the areas that I find hardest to remain calm about during pregnancy is anxiety around my 3-year old daughter's safety. I also worry more about my partner's safety, but I think it is unhealthy how much I worry about my daughter during pregnancy.  Do any others experience this and how do you calm yourselves if you do?  

[tinifry]

I'm 38 weeks today and finding myself getting very anxious - I wasn't even able to sleep last night. The beginning of my pregnancy was very stressful, this is my 2nd baby but it was an unplanned pregnancy (IUD baby) and I just felt very unprepared financially and emotionally. It got much better in my 2nd trimester but now I'm starting to experience the same feelings of being unprepared and having negative thoughts about my last hospital birth even though this one will be a home birth and hopefully much better. It helps that my husband and daughter are so excited about the baby but I personally don't feel really connected which makes it hard for me (although I experienced the same with my daughter). 

SplashingPuddle, I kind of experienced something similar with my daughter. Toward the beginning of my pregnancy I felt upset about how fast she was growing up and worried about how much time I was spending with her, whether I had been too busy to really enjoy her first few years. Now I find myself getting anxious about little things like whether I'll go into labor before/during her upcoming birthday party and ruin it. I think it's normal to focus more emotionally on an older child when you're having a new baby, for me it's hard to imagine splitting my attention and love between two kids and I'm trying harder to give her attention before the new baby comes. 

[keeptryst]

Originally Posted by SplashingPuddle 

One of the areas that I find hardest to remain calm about during pregnancy is anxiety around my 3-year old daughter's safety. I also worry more about my partner's safety, but I think it is unhealthy how much I worry about my daughter during pregnancy.  Do any others experience this and how do you calm yourselves if you do?  

Great insight and advice here on worrying about safety:

http://conscious-transitions.com/letting-go/

http://conscious-transitions.com/the-spider-of-anxiety/

dakipode, so good to have you back here and wish you a healthy happy journey ahead.

[amlikam]

Jumping on this thread- subbing. :-)

been very inward and in a state of heart surrender this pregnancy. Trusting the universe to manifest that which is of my highest good.

[dakipode]

Update: the u/s showed the blip in the right place, that addressed my main worry! Now onto the rest of the wait. At some point I realized that my worrying about the future will not affect the outcome, there are just some things that are out of my hands and I can accept that, right now. Staying zen is a daily practice for me though. Next week we'll find out if the thing has a heart beat, the doc didn't look for it today. So for now it's carpe diem, enjoy being hopeful rather than be anxious about an unknown future.

How's everyone else?

[deborahbgkelly]

Dakipode- That's been my attitude so far. No matter what, I will be joyous in this pregnancy. I do feel much better about this one than my previous one since we got some answers, but I have my moments.

[GISDiva]

So glad to hear that Dakipode!

Kind of the same attitude here.  There's nothing I can do but wait it out, eat healthy, and enjoy life, right?  I saw my awesome midwife for the first time this week.  Since I was only 9 weeks she couldn't find the heartbeat quite yet, I was sooo hoping I'd luck out and hear it (like everyone else in my DDC, argh!   ).  And I wanted to hear it more because I want to think about when to announce it at work and the rest of the world, because I think I really feel like everything is OK in there.  But that assurance would be nice before I share my news, you know?  So now I must be patient some more and wait until my next appointment on Feb 11th when I will be 12 weeks or so and sure to hear it.  I don't know how I'm going to hide it at work until then, my clothes don't fit AT ALL.  

I'm actually shocked with myself that I'm not as worried with this one at all.  I didn't think that my first pregnancy affected me so much that my attitude about letting go has changed so radically, but I guess it has.  Older and wiser, eh?  

[dakipode]

Just wanted to update you ladies: got a fetal heart beat of 122bpm today! Next appt in 3 weeks at which point they will probably refer me to a regular OB.
Every day is an exercise in trust. I've started mentally talking to my little blip and since a couple of days ago I get the feeling it's a girl. I can just hear her: "Stop nagging me, I'm fine, everything's ok." It's a preview for the years to come, I'm sure...

[pokeyAC]

So glad things are going well and you got to hear your baby today.  How exciting!  I hope "she" continues to grow big and strong and vocal. 

[deborahbgkelly]

Dakipode- That's great news!

[pokeyAC]

Hi Deborah!  I'm glad to hear you are doing well too!  It's so nice to see your ticker moving along. 

[thecoffeebean]

Wonderful news, Dakipode! I just realized that this thread is hopping, so I'm a little behind. Welcome back!

[pokeyAC]

Sorry for all the short posts, but...

Hi, coffeebean.  I'm so glad to see you here too!    How are you doing?

AFM- I'm doing well.  I have my big ultrasound next week to see how babe is growing and find out the sex.  I haven't been worried about it.  We got the results back from the 2nd trimester screening yesterday, and the result is still negative.  I didn't think it would change from the first trimester, but it's good to know things still look fine.  I am a little anxious about finding out the sex.  I have enjoyed not knowing, and I have been content to know that the baby is growing and healthy.  Once we find out the sex, we will start to have more ideas about who this person will be and how they will behave, and I don't want to put anything on this baby we haven't even met yet.  I don't think I will be disappointed either way, but knowing will give me a lot more to think about. Whether we are raising a boy or a girl, it will have its own challenges.

[deborahbgkelly]

Thanks Pokey! I have my second ultrasound today. I am not feeling very peaceful about the clinic right now. Last week, I was feeling a bit misty eyed that I'll be graduating in the next couple of weeks, but now I'm glad to be leaving. I went in for suppositories on the 14th and got blood taken for the anti-xa test (to make sure my dose of Lovenox is therapeutic). I hadn't seen any results yet, but thought maybe it was like the TSH that takes a while to come back. I looked at the order for today and that test is on my labs! I have no idea if they lost my labs, if it was abnormal, or what. Why would they not communicate with me? I will be giving them a talking to when I get there about respecting their patients and keeping them informed. I am really irritated. This is not just a regular blood test, it's one that affects how blood flows to my placenta, so that's why I'm so frustrated.

[pokeyAC]

Deborah-That is very frustrating!  That is certainly an important thing to know.  I hope everything is great today at your ulstrasound!

[dakipode]

I found this great website yesterday with a number of free guided meditations: http://www.meditationoasis.com/podcast/listen-to-podcast/
I listened to number 45 yesterday and enjoyed it. This one has background music but it's very quiet and soothing.
Pokey: I think I get where you're coming from with the expectations and then the ones specifically related to gender. At the same time I don't think it's bad to have expectations, maybe it's more important to see how you react when they aren't met...

[GISDiva]

Originally Posted by dakipode 


Pokey: I think I get where you're coming from with the expectations and then the ones specifically related to gender. At the same time I don't think it's bad to have expectations, maybe it's more important to see how you react when they aren't met...

Totally.  I have two friends who are pretty strong women, self-described feminists.  When they had girls, they were adamant about not buying into the girlie-princess aesthetic and encouraged their girls to enjoy gender neutral or even "boy" things.  Imagine their chagrin when their girls wanted nothing to do with it and only want to wear pink and play with dolls!  It took some adjusting in their heads to accept the girls' likes and dislikes, for sure...

Thanks for the links, will be checking them out!  Glad to hear things are going OK for everyone, hope your office gives you some better answers, Deborah!

I'm in that weird in between stage.  I'm nearing the end of the first trimester, starting to feel like the fog is lifting a bit and symptoms are lessening.  But too soon to feel movement (at least I think so, I feel twitches every so often, but not sure what they are yet), and since we had no need for a peek, still haven't seen or heard the wee one yet.  This is when my patience starts to wear thin!  I think we're going to finally let DS in on the secret this weekend even though we haven't heard a heartbeat yet - we're seeing my mom Sunday and I want him to tell her, it will be cute.  :)  And we won't see her before we do hear something in a couple weeks (hopefully) and I have to quick announce it then to the whole world before I go see a bunch of my friends at a conference and I'm all chubby in the belly...and I really, really want to just start wearing the maternity clothes already, it's getting really silly...

Sorry, that was rambly.  My point is that timing is not what I would have liked for my big announcement.