A Peaceful Pregnancy - Page 9

[deborahbgkelly]

Thank you PokeyAC.

[GISDiva]

Oh Deborah, I am so, so sorry to hear that.  Take care of yourself.  

[dakipode]

I've come to accept what my doc told me last time: if anything goes wrong at this point there's really nothing we can do. With that in mind I've decided to cancel my appt next week (9w and some) and transfer to a regular OB practice.
I'm fairly sure I want the NT scan for various reasons: DH is older, though I've read that doesn't affect things as much under age 50 for men; I have zero information about my genetic background since I was adopted; and I'm still slightly worried about the fact that I got pregnant so soon after the methotrexate shot.
Overall I'm doing ok with staying sane. In a weird way it helps that I haven't told many people yet because then others don't constantly remind me.
How's everyone else?

[GISDiva]

Hi dakipode!  I'm hoping to hear a heartbeat at the midwife's this evening at 13 weeks so I can finally make the announcement to the world.  It's going to be a loooong day.    I take comfort that we at least made it this far!  That second trimester bounce can come any day now...

[revolting]

Hi all. So happy to be joining you. I'm trying to find the balance. Having had four miscarriages at this point, I have decided to get very early care and way more testing than I normally do earlier in the pregnancy, but I definitely feel ambivalent. I feel like I've already got myself sucked into unnecessary testing. I really want to focus, this pregnancy, on learning to trust my body again.

Also, I'm feeling really impatient. Having so many losses, I keep going through the first trimester over and over again. I just want to finally move on!
 

[dakipode]

Hello revolting, and congratulations!
I'm afraid I don't have much to offer you where advice or sage words is concerned. My experience so far has been that the 2ww just turns into a longer wait, possibly filled with even more questions and anxiety than before.
What sort of knowledge would reassure you/help you learn to trust your body again? I can imagine that you have many questions about your body after so many losses. Would you be able to get answers through early care and testing?

[crunchynerd]

Originally Posted by zenquaker 

Seriously. Really, until reliable tests, women just didn't know until they started showing and felt movement. Although knowing you're pregnant but not if it will "stick" is bad, I would think that really really NOT knowing and living in a could-be-pregnant-at-any-time state would be worse.

I would be one of plenty of women, who would not have been clueless before the advent of modern pregnancy tests, until the first movements. Mittelschmertz is the ovulation pain that apparently enough German women have, to have a word for it, in German. I don't know if there's a word for the peculiar implantation feeling that is like a cord being tugged at in there, but enough women experience it.

[GISDiva]

Bumpity-bump.  :)  How is everyone?

[pokeyAC]

Hello!  I'm good.  Trucking along at 26 weeks.  It feels like time is flying by now.  I'm starting to feel more pregnant.  I can really tell there is a baby in my belly growing and moving.  I'm starting to think more about labor.  We toured one hospital the other day, and we will tour the other one next month.  We are also signed up for childbirth classes for April.  I downloaded a hypnosis thingy that I need to check out soon to see if I like it.  I also started reading Birthing from Within, but the YA novels are drawing me in so I haven't gotten very far.  I can't remember what I said last time, but I have placenta previa.  I haven't had any problems, but my doctor put a few restrictions on me.  We had to cancel our babymoon trip to Vegas, but we are going to drive to Monterey instead.  I'm looking forward to the nice big bed and soaking tub at the hotel.  I have another ultrasound on April 1st to see if the placenta has moved.  90% of the time it does, so we're very hopeful.  Once we know what's going on, I will feel like we can start planning when people should come visit.  My mom will come first.  Since she's flying out, I don't want her to come too early or too late, but you never know when the show will get started.

How are you?

[1babysmom]

I am actually anticipating a live birth next month, also our 3rd unassisted, Lord willing!!! It feels like it has been a loooong time since I have been at this point. I am so excited, I LOVE labor and can't wait. At this point, it's hard to be "peaceful" about everything because I can hardly contain my excitement and it makes everyday drag by! LOL

[pokeyAC]

That's wonderful, 1babysmom!  I'm so happy for you.  Could you tell us more about what you love about labor?  Just curious.  This is my first baby.  I'm not fearing labor or thinking it will be terrible, but it would be nice to hear from someone who really enjoys it.

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by pokeyAC 

That's wonderful, 1babysmom!  I'm so happy for you.  Could you tell us more about what you love about labor?  Just curious.  This is my first baby.  I'm not fearing labor or thinking it will be terrible, but it would be nice to hear from someone who really enjoys it.

Oh you should be thankful that I am on my phone because otherwise I could go on and on! LOL. Really, if labor could be a hobby, it would be my favorite one. LOL. I know that sounds silly but I just adore the process. It was a learned thing, though...I didn't love it quite as much after my first birth. She was induced at home (AROM) and I didn't trust my body enough to listen to it so I gave into fear and had horrible hip labor because I was afraid to move, and we finally went in to get an epidural. I had a pretty ideal epi experience though, but I just knew I wanted something more next time. So the next time was my first unassisted birth and being in control at home really made all the difference (so for that matter, I can't say I would still love it as much if I had to birth elsewhere or under other circumstances). I just learned that listening and responding to my body really eased pain and that I could trust the process and it was just such an incredible experience that I couldn't wait to do it again. I think actually LIVING the experience of knowing what my body needed (rather that just the idea I had of it) was incredible. The next UC was just as awesome (though very different...much longer, bigger baby, huge head...) and really confirmed my feelings about labor. I am just so excited to see what this one brings and how it will all play out!!

[revolting]

Pokey - What YA books are you reading?
1babysmom - I wish I had your trust in your body like that. I don't care much for my care providers, but despite having an accidental unassisted birth, I don't have that confidence.
AFM: 9 weeks. Keep pushing back my next prenatal appointment since at this point there's nothing that can be done for this pregnancy other than prayer. I haven't felt very peaceful, really. The first pregnancy I lost in 2012 was at 9 weeks, and I feel like each time I hit a week where I lost a baby, I get a little more lost in grief. My next prenatal is at almost 13 weeks.

[pokeyAC]

revolting-I am reading the third book in the Delirium trilogy, Requiem.  It's going to be a TV show on Fox too.  It's pretty good.  I'm sorry you are having trouble finding peace.  Losses make that so much harder.  For me, when I got past the point when I lost my first pregnancy, I felt much better, but I got nervous again at each little milestone.  I hope your prayers are answered and the little one keeps growing healthy and strong.

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by revolting 

Pokey - What YA books are you reading?
1babysmom - I wish I had your trust in your body like that. I don't care much for my care providers, but despite having an accidental unassisted birth, I don't have that confidence.
AFM: 9 weeks. Keep pushing back my next prenatal appointment since at this point there's nothing that can be done for this pregnancy other than prayer. I haven't felt very peaceful, really. The first pregnancy I lost in 2012 was at 9 weeks, and I feel like each time I hit a week where I lost a baby, I get a little more lost in grief. My next prenatal is at almost 13 weeks.

It's so hard, mama. Even at this point where I am finally in the home stretch, after 7 losses and only 3 live births I honestly don't trust my body as a safe place for my babies. It's like....one mistake and it could be over. (Not that I have all the control but I am sure you know what I mean). Who knows. But perhaps that is also one of the reasons I so look forward to labor...because it means baby will no longer rely on my seemingly messed up and broken body.

[devilish]

For me, labour is my second favorite part of the pregnancy because to me it means that the long nightmarish nine months of discomfort, queasiness, insomnia and irritability are OVER. I'm just getting over the sickness hump and this time, it seems, I will not get my 3 week break, the insomnia has already started. I'm glad I don't work full time, and my DD sleeps in until 8.30 - 9 because otherwise, I don't think I could handle it.

[katiecornflakes]

Hi everyone! I'd love to join in here. I'm Kate, 6 weeks tomorrow. This is pregnancy #3 for me. Thankfully I've never had issues, other than really scary shoulder dystocia with DD, but I work in an ER and almost every shift I see women losing their babies in early pregnancy. It's made the last few weeks really, really hard for me. I'm trying to remind myself that I can't do anything to change the outcome so I need to try to enjoy things as much as I can. This is likely our last baby so I don't want to be anxious the whole time! I did just get a meditation app for pregnancy so maybe tht will help. I did a lot of guided meditations before labor with my other two and I definitely think it helped where my
Mind was at. My labor with DD was amazing until the whole dystocia thing

[thecoffeebean]

Hey guys, just checking in. I'm 20 weeks today! Wow! Feeling baby boy kick a lot too, which is heavenly. :-) Pokey, what type of previa were you diagnosed with? I had a bleeding episode at 17.4 weeks that led to my diagnosis of marginal placenta previa. I've gone a week now without spotting, and I'm trusting that the placenta will move up. But man- the bleeding scare was awful.

[pokeyAC]

Welcome katiecornflakes!  Working in the ER would definitely make things difficult when you see what can go wrong first hand.  I hope the next 34 weeks go by smoothly for you.  What is that meditation app called?  I would like to see if I can get it on my kindle.  

coffeebean-I'm so glad to hear your healthy baby is kicking around and making you happy!  I'm sorry about the scary episode.  You have a good chance that it will move out of the way.  They said my placenta previa was complete.  The cervix is completely covered, but I don't think the placenta is centered over the cervix or so far over that it couldn't move.  I haven't had any bleeding or problems so that makes it a little more frustrating to be restricted when nothing seems to be happening.

[devilish]

Pokey: Does that mean you'll have to have a C/S?