A Peaceful Pregnancy - Page 5

[pokeyAC]

Congratulations Deborah!  That's wonderful news.  I hope the next several months are peaceful and healthy for you and your family.

[deborahbgkelly]

Thanks Pokey!

[deborahbgkelly]

So, I joined a Facebook group from a DDC on another board and all of them are panicking over everything. Anyone have suggestions on a way I can handle this appropriately and peacefully without having to leave the group?

[writinglove]

Deborah, one idea is to just keep your distance until people calm down a bit. Another idea is to share your coping techniques without expecting that anyone will respond.

[zenquaker]

Welcome to all the new posters, and congratulations :)

My challenge to a peaceful pregnancy right now is that although this is my second pregnancy (to go this far), this is the first time I've really experienced BH contractions. It can be scary to feel pressure and tightness. I did see the doctor and everything is fine, and my little girl is moving like CRAZY (so

reassuring), and I'm resting a lot. No stairs, and I take it way easy.

I am coping through breathing, keeping my mind busy with other things, and celebrating every week that I get closer to my due date.

Plus I drank (non-alcoholic) eggnog every day in December. Yum.

How's everyone doing?

[deborahbgkelly]

Thanks WritingLove. I thought about that, but I also know how scary it can be and try to share my experiences. I considered saying something like I am trying to keep things very peaceful, so I'll be back in the second trimester when people are feeling more comfortable, but I don't know if people will take that the wrong way.

[writinglove]

Deborah, how about saying you will be away for a time without going into details.

[deborahbgkelly]

Maybe. It seems to not be as bad today. I just know I got tons of support from my last DDC which is why I went in for this one. Then again, the FB group started much later in that one.

[pokeyAC]

That is hard, Deborah.  I would also stay away myself.  Early in my pregnancy, I stayed away from reading stories of loss because I just couldn't handle them.  I empathize with folks who are nervous, but I didn't want to get involved.  I was feeling confident and good and I tried to stay in that frame of mind.  I'm very grateful for the support I have received in these forums, but I have also heard so many experiences of loss that were heartbreaking.  Fear creeps in now and then, but I try to focus on the positives and remember how my baby is growing and healthy.  I listen to my instincts and my feelings.

[deborahbgkelly]

Yeah. I'm trying to just ignore those posts and I'm going to see who posts the majority of them and maybe hide those people.

[GISDiva]

That is tough.  On one hand you just want to surround yourself with people who are supportive the way you need them to be and on the other hand, you feel like a dope for leaving just because you don't like what people are saying.  I try to remind myself that their worries are not mine and we can all have different points of view.  But I agree, if you need to take a break, take a break.  :)

[writinglove]

Zenq, I'm also experiencing BH contrax that are driving me nuts. I called the nurse today, and she didn't think there was anything to be alarmed about, but the unpredictable tightening is really making me anxious. Fortunately my babe is also moving a ton, and when he moves, my belly tends to loosen up!

Feeling my anxiety without getting connected to it is definitely getting harder, but it's my work at hand!

xo

[keeptryst]

Hi ladies, checking in after a while and glad to see new posters, congratulations and welcome. Good to see updates from the old ones.

My peaceful pregnancy continues in its essence, but there were quite a few turbulent waves when my OB kicked me out for not doing the 20 week scan. Then followed a week of interviewing other doctors and being very disturbed by how grim and medicalised the whole thing is. Anyway everything happens for a reason and it seems like this is all leading somewhere and a part of me is witnessing it all and enjoying the ride. I'm learning to just do what I need to do in terms of planning/execution, and then let it go so that my mind doesn't keep jumping up and down going over the scenarios again and again. Hbac is back on the cards and I'm keeping all options open - knowing all I need to do is the spadework in terms of what is in my hands, tune in to my inner guidance, trust, accept, flow - without worry over the result, without fear. When I'm centered enough, I can almost enjoy the not knowing :)

[deborahbgkelly]

Does anybody have any favorite pregnancy meditations?

[pokeyAC]

I like Visualizing Pregnancy by Kathy Freston.  I listened to it while TTC, and it can still work for pregnancy.

[SplashingPuddle]

I'm listening to Pregnancy Affirmations in the hypnobabies program. I find the affirmations very peaceful. 

[deborahbgkelly]

Thank you all. I will check them out.

[dakipode]

Hello ladies,

I'd like to rejoin, cautiously. I got a BFP on Friday, and couldn't quite believe it. I haven't told anyone IRL except my mother, not even DH.

I feel so weird because the last pregnancy never felt real, although the scars from the surgery are real.

For now I will go with what you said two months ago Pokey: "Today, I am pregnant."

A few things are different this time: for one I actually got a line to show up on my HPT! Also my stomach has been so rumbly and when I looked through previous posts this is exactly what it feels like:

Quote:

Originally Posted by GISDiva 
there's a life brewing away down there in my belly...

I plan to call the clinic tomorrow to get my bloodwork done. I'm a bit worried about the doc not being happy with me since I didn't wait, I just didn't expect to get pregnant right away, without medication... I spent a few hours googling "pregnant right after methotrexate" on Friday, that's my biggest worry. I might try to wait a while to tell DH, haven't decided yet.

I sort of feel like if there's a live baby this time then he/she will be born with two months "delay" so to speak, even though I don't believe they are the same, so it's not like baby 1 version 2. You know what I mean?

I can't believe some of you ladies from the original thread are getting close to delivering! It doesn't seem like that long ago. It'll be so exciting to have some graduates from this thread too!

Lastly, deborah, I've been stalking you and I was so happy when I read you got your BFP! I wish you and the baby all the best in the next nine months!

[deborahbgkelly]

Thanks Dakipode! Congrats to you as well.

[zenquaker]

Yay, Dakipode! Yes, "today, I am pregnant." There's a life in there, and today (and every day after, no matter what happens), you are a mother :)