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Are you waiting to find out baby's sex? Have you in the past?

post #1 of 59
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Are you on team yellow this time? stork-suprise.gif

 

I have never waited and always found out mid way through. I don't like surprises! BUT! I'm almost sure we'll be waiting this time just because I don't care at all about what sex the baby is, or feel any pull to know for bonding or shopping. It's also our very last. I'm so curious! Choosing a name would be HEAPS easier and getting rid of either boy or girl clothes would be great, but that's it for my pros.

 

I have stork-boy.gif stork-boy.gif stork-boy.gif stork-girl.gif

 

He has stork-girl.gif

 

Together we have  stork-girl.gif stork-boy.gif stork-suprise.gif

 

And in order we have stork-boy.gif stork-boy.gif stork-girl.gif stork-boy.gif stork-girl.gif stork-girl.gif stork-boy.gif stork-suprise.gif

 

Tell me about waiting to know at birth. Romance me with the idea, will you?  

post #2 of 59

We're team green again this time, waiting until the birth to find out.  orngbiggrin.gif  I found out with DS1 and DD1, then had it be a surprise with DD2 and DS2.  I loved those few moments of scooping DD2 out of the water and just looking at her little face, before looking down to see if she was a boy or a girl.  And with DS2 (he was a UC), when I scooped him out of the water he came up bum-first and I loved exclaiming to DH "we have another little boy!".  I just loved those moments of discovery, I can't wait to have that again.  Both ways were fun, but I'll definitely wait to find out again.

post #3 of 59

We tried to wait, but an ultrasound tech at a visit for high blood pressure at 8 1/2 months spoiled it for us.

 

So for anyone who is team green - if you need to have scans, be sure to tell EVERY tech EVERY time that you do not want to know!!

post #4 of 59
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Originally Posted by Gr8fulMama View Post

We tried to wait, but an ultrasound tech at a visit for high blood pressure at 8 1/2 months spoiled it for us.

 

So for anyone who is team green - if you need to have scans, be sure to tell EVERY tech EVERY time that you do not want to know!!

 

 

That happened to a friend of mine. She was so upset. Last time when the MW was going over the US results with me it was right there - BOY.  If I hadn't wanted to know I would have known any way. 

post #5 of 59

I have been surprised with my firt 3. This time, we WILL find out! I want to plan it. I want to know. But when I waited for the other 3, it was because I wanted to be surprised. It's one of the few things in life that we can truly be surprised about. 

post #6 of 59

I think we'll wait this time as well.  :)  It was so much fun to find out at the birth!
 

post #7 of 59
I was Team Green with #1. We've found out since then. I sort of want to go Team Green this time because I've struggled some with gender disappointment during pregnancy, but it's never there once I birth my baby. I'd like to just enjoy pregnancy then fall in love with my baby right away, regardless of boy or girl.

But, DH wants to know and I don't think I'd be able to stand him knowing and not me!

Last time we didn't tell anybody, we just found out and kept it private - I think that's what we'll do this time, too. I found out before DH last time and it was fun to plan a way to tell him. I'd like to do that again if he's not there when I find out.
post #8 of 59

We found out. DH always wants to know what he's in for. LOL Also makes us naming the babe easier. Part of me wants it to be a surprise. My 3yo thinks it's a baby sister.

post #9 of 59

I'm going to find out this time.  When I was pregnant with my son I desperately wanted to have a little girl.  The night before my u/s, at 18 weeks, I had a dream that I was looking at my baby girl on the u/s screen and she was waving to me!  Now I know 'she' was waving 'bye-bye' because it was VERY clear on the u/s the next day that he was all boy!  I'm so happy to have my son, nobody ever told me how much love there is between mothers and sons.  This time, I will not at all be disappointed by another son, but I still want the experience of raising a daughter.  The first time, knowing gave me plenty of time to adjust and bond with my baby boy before he was born and I am grateful for that.  This time, I want to know to avoid the gender disappointment that was already mentioned. I think if you don't really care either way, go for the surprise!  For me, though, I would rather have a moment of slight adjustment during the pregnancy then feel even a moment of disappointment when I have my babe in arms.  

post #10 of 59
I'm planning to find out. There are so many surprises still to come. I love knowing who I'm talking to for the second half of the pregnancy.
post #11 of 59

I've never found out, we have 2 girls.

 

For me with #1 i REALLY wanted a girl, and we didn't have the anomaly scan, and my first scan was at 11weeks, so my later scans (which were for fluid levels after my due date as part of the bioprofile) i wanted to wait for the Big Day to find out.  I was SOOOOO happy to be done giving birth, i'd have been thrilled if they'd handed me a tiger cub in a towel.  With #2 i really THOUGHT she was a boy and was hopeful for one (though not TOO bothered), BUT i had friends who had a gender preference, found out, got the opposite of what they wanted and basically cried about it for the last 4 months of their pregnancy.  I didn't want to go through that!  I knew after the birth i'd have the "anything that i just pushed out is PERFECT" feeling, so i decided i'd wait to see what it was at the birth.  We didn't have the anomaly scan that time either, but the 15 week scan we did have was super clear, i think the tech knew already when she asked if we wanted to know and we declined.

 

This time i'm undecided.  I don't know when we'll be offered a scan as the policy has changed from 12 weeks (which due to waiting lists one tended to get around 15 weeks) and 20 weeks to 7 weeks and 20 weeks.  I've had 2 bad dreams about trisomy 13, marked out by a big cleft palate.  I'm 9 weeks right now but i'm going to talk to the tech whenever our scan is.  If we end up being called in at 11 weeks (the 7 week scan wait list is even longer than the 12 week ones were, because of the number of ladies who will go on to miscarry still being pg at 7 weeks) and the palate isn't clear and whole then i'll have the 20 week scan to set my mind at ease.  If i have a 15 week scan when it's easier to see if there's a problem with the facial bones or not and everything looks ok then i might skip the 20 week scan again.  What we decide on THAT will decide what we decide about finding out the sex.

 

Part of me is tempted to find out because i never have, this will be my last kid, and i really DON'T have a preference this time (i'd LOVE a third girl, and welcome a first son, so either way we're set).  Another part of me remembers the surprise and wonder of finding out i had a daughter each time i've given birth and worries that i'll taint that moment by knowing in advance.  So we're still on the fence, basically! 

post #12 of 59
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Originally Posted by GoBecGo View Post

 

I knew after the birth i'd have the "anything that i just pushed out is PERFECT" feeling, so i decided i'd wait to see what it was at the birth.  

 

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Originally Posted by GoBecGo View Post

 

I was SOOOOO happy to be done giving birth, i'd have been thrilled if they'd handed me a tiger cub in a towel.  

 

 

 

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post #13 of 59

We found out with DS#1 because I felt this need to plan and prepare for my first baby.  With DS#2 we didn't find out the gender and I absolutely loved that moment when I found out...it was so exciting!!!!  We will not be finding out the gender of this baby - one, because I loved waiting to find out and two, because I'm somewhat hoping for a girl but I know that the moment that baby is born I won't care whatsoever about the gender!

post #14 of 59

We will not be finding out, I like waiting. We don't do any ultrasounds so I won't have the temptation to find out. I am sure everyone I know wants to know in advance because they all want me to have a girl. 

post #15 of 59

Love the surprise here so definitely going for another 'surprise baby', though the funny part is so many other people IRL seem bothered by the fact that I don't find out.  

post #16 of 59
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Originally Posted by phatchristy View Post

Love the surprise here so definitely going for another 'surprise baby', though the funny part is so many other people IRL seem bothered by the fact that I don't find out.  

 

I'll be honest - I love the idea of annoying everyone who wants to know by making them wait.  

post #17 of 59
We didn't find out with DD, mostly because at the 20 week scan she wouldn't uncross her legs so we could find out! DH was so disappointed, because he wanted to call the baby him or her instead of "it" all the time smile.gif. We got over it and decided not to find out when we ended up having to have more ultrasounds when I went past 40 weeks to measure fluid levels and whatnot, because when you've waited that long already what's a few more days??? Everyone else was so annoyed though, it was interesting. I'm glad we got all neutral things though (car seat, nb clothes, etc) because everything will work if we have a boy this time!

Oh, DH wants to find out with this one, so we'll see what happens. If baby is uncooperative again we're not going to force the issue smile.gif
post #18 of 59
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Originally Posted by kawa kamuri View Post

 

I'll be honest - I love the idea of annoying everyone who wants to know by making them wait.  


Hahahaha!!!

 

We are going to leave it up to our DD. I know that sounds crazy, but we talked to her about it and she wants to wait until the baby is here, i was shocked, i thought for sure she would want to know asap. So as of now looks like we are waiting. My DH is NOT happy about it LOL. He is really apprehensive about having a boy, he said that he needs time to get used to the idea, ugh, i said well u have 7 months to get used to the idea, i suggest you get started ;) Dd and I are fine with either one.

post #19 of 59
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Originally Posted by kawa kamuri View Post

I'll be honest - I love the idea of annoying everyone who wants to know by making them wait.  

lol.gif me too!

We found out w/ dd, then surprise w/ ds. I am tempted to get the u/s and learn the sex this time, but also kind of want the surprise. Still undecided, I guess *shrug* It might cause me more anxiety not knowing, though!

See, this is definitely our last baby. If dh was open to more, I would have more, but I know this is our last time doing this crazy dance! Ideally if we had another boy, I'd go for four and try for another sweet little senorita--- but dh is done no matter what. If it's a boy and we found out before the birth, I think it would give me time to process thru the fact that I wont have another daughter, you know?

Also because I feel like it's a girl but I kinda want that external confirmation.
post #20 of 59

We've always found out as soon as possible, and I'm counting down until we can find out this time :) 
 

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