Bleeding, edd change, bedrest// UPDATE post #12 Emergency D&C « Back to Group Discussions

[HarperRose]

I've had some spotting then light bleeding this week and a dr friend put me on bed rest, since medicaid isn't finished, yet. The bleeding increased so our dr friend sent me to the ER. 

 

While there, they did a blood draw and checked my hcg levels then sent me for an ultrasound. My daughter (age 10) went to the u/s with me. Per hospital policy, I wasn't allowed to see the u/s screen, so I told her what sort of things the tech would look for, what a baby would look like, and encouraged her to be involved. (I really want her to go to college, something I didn't do, and exposing her to different fields seems like a good idea.) 

 

When we got back down to the ER room, the dr came in and told me that my hcg levels were really good and I'm only 6 weeks!! (I haven't had a period between my March miscarriage and the pregnancy, so I was guessing.) That means I've got an EDD of January 30th instead of New Year's Eve, like I thought. Also, after the u/s, before the dr came in, my daughter told me she saw movement!!! That is so huge for a little girl who has been so sensitive and emotional about this. She was with me in 2005 when I miscarried at 12 weeks. She saw when I passed the baby and everything. She had pushed her 4 yr old self into the bathroom with me, insisting on being right next to me, so this bleeding issue has been pretty distressing for her,

 

Also, since it's too soon to see or hear the heartbeat, and I'm bleeding, this could go either way. So we are cautiously optimistic. I had the same issues with my oldest son, so I'm hopeful, because he is proof that these things can work out. :)

 

I am still on bed rest and I anticipate medicaid going through this week or next, so I'll be phoning a couple of drs anyway, just to see if something can be worked out.

 

So that's my news. I've got threatened miscarriage and am only 6 weeks. So weird. EDD is late January.

Edited by HarperRose - 6/9/12 at 8:59am

[kawa kamuri]

Wow! What a bunch of news to take in all at once. These things CAN and often do work out 

[hotsauce]

Well, that could explain why you had the lack of nausea this time.  Seems like your intuition was right that things were different or 'not quite right'.  I'm crossing my fingers for you, mama.  Bleeding is always scary and I'm really, really hoping it stops once you're on bed rest.  I don't know what else to suggest other than maybe drinking lots of RRL tea and perhaps looking into the vitamin C study that was done several years ago.  When I was on bedrest I remember looking up the vitamin C babies and finding some information about how Vitamin C can help prevent miscarriage.  Hopefully you have someone on hand that can help you with your house and kiddos so you can *actually* stay in bed?  Such crazy, crazy news...  Keep us posted and you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

[organicviolin]

Fingers crossed that things remain OK for you!

[Pogo0685]

I hope everything works out for you! I think its so sweet that your daughter cares so much. you are so lucky to have her by your side. Keep us updated.

[broodymama]

I'll keep my fingers crossed that everything works out!  

[HarperRose]

Thanks, ladies!! Husband works from home, so that's a bonus. I've been off my feet almost the whole day and periodically check in with my dr friend. She's so funny. I sent her a pic of one of the clots, asking her medical opinion and expressing that I'm sort of obsessively interested in what's going on in the human body, and she, basically, said, "Well, could be this,  could be that,.... you should go back to school for anatomy and pathology." LOL

I'm still hopeful. Waiting to get in with an OB soon.

I'm a little perturbed with my mom. She suggested that, perhaps, since my last birth was a UC, that it could be why I'm having trouble carrying now. (Miscarriage in March and now this bleeding issue.) Thank you, mother. I so love wondering if I screwed up...  

[phatchristy]

Originally Posted by HarperRose 

I'm a little perturbed with my mom. She suggested that, perhaps, since my last birth was a UC, that it could be why I'm having trouble carrying now. (Miscarriage in March and now this bleeding issue.) Thank you, mother. I so love wondering if I screwed up...  

It may be then that you're earlier than you thought, sometimes some bleeding/spotting happens in the first trimester I had it with a past pregnancy myself (who is now my 6 y.o.).  Hope everything works out!

I don't see HOW your last birth could impact you carrying a baby at all.  You had a normal, natural and healthy birth.  It's not like it was a cesarean or surgically/medically complicated.  

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by phatchristy 

It may be then that you're earlier than you thought, sometimes some bleeding/spotting happens in the first trimester I had it with a past pregnancy myself (who is now my 6 y.o.).  Hope everything works out!

I don't see HOW your last birth could impact you carrying a baby at all.  You had a normal, natural and healthy birth.  It's not like it was a cesarean or surgically/medically complicated.  

Yes, I am earlier than I thought. Because I had no period between my March loss and this pregnancy, I guessed I had an EDD of New Year's Eve, which would put me at about 10 weeks, but the ultrasound last night showed that I'm only 6 weeks.

And THANK YOU for reminding me of the obvious. How is it that one's mother can affect her thinking so badly? You're right - it WASN'T terribly complicated. It was quick, it really threw me off my groove that day lol, but that's it. It was complication free.

[GoBecGo]

Originally Posted by HarperRose 

I'm a little perturbed with my mom. She suggested that, perhaps, since my last birth was a UC, that it could be why I'm having trouble carrying now. (Miscarriage in March and now this bleeding issue.) Thank you, mother. I so love wondering if I screwed up...  

Sorry to go against your mom, but on that basis the human race actually died out about 30,000 years ago, since ALL births were UC until about 800 years ago and many births in the world are still UC right now, by the modern western medicalised standard.  So if 1 UC = future fertility problems, the human race would be over already by a lot of centuries....

I hope everything works out for you, my DD1 went through an mc with me in 2009 and it was awful for us both too, she's been talking a lot about loss this time too (though i've been lucky enough to have no signs of anything being wrong).  I expect in the next few weeks you'll get TERRIBLY sick and then you'll feel more "normal-pregnant", it makes a lot of sense on the nausea front that you're actually less far along than you thought.

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by GoBecGo 

Sorry to go against your mom, but on that basis the human race actually died out about 30,000 years ago, since ALL births were UC until about 800 years ago and many births in the world are still UC right now, by the modern western medicalised standard.  So if 1 UC = future fertility problems, the human race would be over already by a lot of centuries....

I hope everything works out for you, my DD1 went through an mc with me in 2009 and it was awful for us both too, she's been talking a lot about loss this time too (though i've been lucky enough to have no signs of anything being wrong).  I expect in the next few weeks you'll get TERRIBLY sick and then you'll feel more "normal-pregnant", it makes a lot of sense on the nausea front that you're actually less far along than you thought.

LOL!!! I love the logic! Thank you!! My mom had my youngest brother at home in 1989 and despite that, she still confuses me with birthy stuff. She contradicts herself and is pro-hb one minute, but pro-hospital the next and just... really confusing. :p

It really does make sense. Typically, for me, HG hits around week 6 or 7, and I've only had some weight loss due to major nausea so far, very minimal vomiting. So it's entirely possible for it to get worse. (Though I'm hoping not...)

[HarperRose]

I had to have an emergency D&C last night. No more baby. :(

I was in severe pain from about 2 in the afternoon and it wasn't improving. About 4PM, I got up to use the restroom and I was met with a gush of blood so big that it was running down my legs and wasn't stopping.

We headed to the ER within 15 minutes. I tried showering before we left, to clean up, but the bleeding wouldn't stop. The extra towel I brought wasn't enough.

When I got to the ER, it took about 10 minutes or so to be called into Triage, and once there, they got me more towels. My heart rate was 139, sitting down, and I don't know what my blood pressure was, but the triage nurse called back for me to get the next bed.

While I was waiting, I felt a stinging sensation all over, my heart felt weird, I was incredibly weak. I honestly thought I was dying. I felt like I needed to get OUT of my own body. It was extremely upsetting. I was totally freaked out.

It was probably a total of 30 minutes from the time I went in to the time I laid down in a bed, but once I did, my vitals were better than they were when I first arrived. (Thank god. Laying down really helped.)

It took some time, obviously, for everything to work itself out, but the ER dr called in the on-call OB who decided that an emergency D&C was in order immediately, regardless of whether I'd eaten anything in the last 8 hours or not (I'd had a protein shake around 2). 

It was about 3.5 hours from the time I first gushed at home to the time they took me back to the OR. I am amazed that anyone can bleed for that long and manage to a) not die and b) not need a transfusion. Truly amazed.

So, anyway, since I bled through my clothes, they gave me a pair of scrubs to wear home. I'm still in them because they're comfortable. :p

I haven't processed the loss, yet, but I know it'll come. For now, I'm still processing the whole "nearly died/emergency surgery" aspect of it all.

[broodymama]

Oh no, how terrifying and I'm so, so sorry for your loss.  

[kawa kamuri]

Oh honey 

[birthjunkiemom]

So sorry. 

[kel]

I'm glad that you're okay - that much blood is scary.  hugs

[organicviolin]

I am so sorry for your loss. That is truly frightening. I'm glad you were seen right away and that you are healing. Scrubs are very comfy luckily. Many hugs to you. 

[HarperRose]

I was terrified. I thought I was dying. I even texted my mom, "I'm dying, mom." (She lives out of state and that just completely panicked her.) I honestly felt like I was. My whole body was stinging, my heart was racing, I could barely tolerate being in my own body. If I could have found a way to exit my own self, I may have. I was completely beside myself.

My uterus was in a steady contraction for 2 solid hours before the first gush, then on the way to the hospital it kept contracting and releasing, like with labor, and gushing and scaring the hell out of me. I honestly thought I was going to bleed out.

And I was so scared for my kids at home. We have a roommate so my husband woke him up and made him babysit. Our daughter, 10 yrs old, would message my husband on fb periodically and tell him what was going on. Apparently, my 12 yr old w/ aspergers was running through the house (running is a stim) and yelling (another stim) and instead of redirecting or talking to him, the roommate put his ear defenders on to tune it out. And when we got home, I walked into the living room to see the roommate laying on the couch half zonked, house a disaster, kids all quiet in their rooms and doing ok. Little perturbed. But whatever. Well, my daughter informed me that she found my 4 yr old curled in the corner of a chair in the living room crying for me. That broke my heart. :( Thankfully, she's an excellent big sister and she took care of her brother for me. 

I knew the roommate wouldn't think to feed the kids, so A friend from my local autism moms group brought my kids dinner. When I told them what was going on, everyone was asking how to help and all I could get out was, "Can someone feed my kids?" and my husband's cell #. I was in no condition to communicate. 

I have a MASSIVE phobia of needles and having blood drawn, but I was too weak to care. They stuck me twice, could have stuck me a dozen times and I wouldn't have cared.

I was a little scared pre-op, but everyone was so gentle and kind and before I knew it, I was done. Spaced out, too. :) The scrubs they gave me are that hospital green color. Remind me never to wear that color in public again. lol

[FigNoel]

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Sounds like a rough few days for you. Take care of yourself. 

[LemonPie]

I'm very very sorry.