After months of stalking Mothering I finally decided it was time to stop being shy lazy and make an account. So anyway, some relatives were over the other day and with a bewildered look asked me "Where's all the baby clutter??" Which leads me to the fact that I have bought nothing for this little one. This is #2, DS1 is almost 5 and I have very little left from his baby days. I just haven't had that sense of urgency to buy buy buy with this one....I'm kind of hoping baby will just be a minimalist....that will work, right? Right? We're also moving in August into a new house, so I haven't wanted to add more stuff that needs to be moved. Anyway, I thought I'd start a thread to see what other moms have started stockpiling for their LO. Oh, and if that homebirth is going to happen, I might want to start getting birth supplies, shoelaces and towels and maybe some hand sanitizer will do right?? Lol. I need to get my head in the game! So, what's your baby clutter?
Where's all the baby clutter?
That sounds like me. I'm 26 weeks today and I bought exactly one item for baby #2 - a firefly fitted diaper. And I only bought that since I was already ordering a wool bed pad for DD's transition to underwear for naps :-)
My midwife will probably give me a birth kit list in a few weeks but I got it all from one place online and I still have the non-consumable stuff packed away from my last homebirth so I'm good there.
I just don't feel like I need much. I'm a minimalist and we have our cloth diapers and gender neutral newborn/0-3 month clothes, burp rags and receiving blankets (we are a gender "surprise" family). I thought I didn't get a lot with the last baby but I feel almost guilty for not buying anything this time although we didn't really use half of the burp rags and blankets we had so most are spotless.
I do have to say I love my carriers - I have a moby, a ring sling and an ergo. I want a woven wrap for this baby too but we had a hail storm and need a new roof now so I think spending $100+ on a 4th carrier is out.
DD was not a happy camper anywhere but touching me or sometimes briefly playing with me next to her on the floor so I figure I'll wait and see with this baby before spending any money. I have enough friends with littles that I should easily be able to borrow things for a week or two as a test drive before we commit.
That leaves a car seat. We'll have two rear faces so I've been trying to figure out which one will work best behind the drivers seat. DH isn't super tall but the Myride that we have (and love) for DD would leave him a tad smooshed. I think we'll go with a Roundabout 55.
For me, I'll be getting one or two new nice nursing bras. I wear the target nursing tanks a lot but I like having a really nice bra too. I only got one last time and DD just turned 2 and is still nursing so I can definitely say I got my money out of it but boy is it looking shabby. Since I'm still my nursing size, I'll probably buy those soon.
I actually tried to put together a registry on Amazon yesterday but gave up because I couldn't think of anything to put on it which I know will frustrate my in-laws since they love gift lists. But maybe that means I'll get a lot of gift cards? A girl can hope :-)
My only purchases so far have been a second hand co-sleeper and a couple A&A sleepsacks from a local store that's closing down. This is number 2 for us too, and I really don't need much of anything.
I would like to make a few flannel receiving blankets and some more baby wash clothes, and once my diapers are back from the friend they are on loan to right now, I'll need to go through them and see if anything needs replacing I guess. Oh, and I need to make some mattress covers and fitted sheets for our co-sleeper as the mattress is an unusual size.
If this baby is a girl, we are more than set for clothes, and if it's a boy my SIL has already offered to loan us their clothes.
I need so little newborn stuff that I'm wasting time researching new carseats - something we won't need until at least next spring. lol
I'm glad you made an account! Welcome! As for me - I have purchased/acquired absolutely nothing. Nothing at all. This is also my second and it's another boy. AND we are moving in Sept. (ack!) so we are in the same boat as you with not wanting to move more. I actually plan on getting nothing really - I was barely prepared last time and it all worked out just fine!
People keep asking if we're "preparing the nursery," and... no. It's my craft room now, so it's littered with yarn and quilt squares and thread.
I've been loaned some newborn cloth diapers from a friend, and we've been given some receiving blanket, a couple of onesies, a baby quilt, and a stuffed bear. I've knit a few things (a hat, some sweaters, some longies, some diaper covers) and bought two books at the thrift store, but... that's it.
This is our first, and I know there's a lot we still need, but I figure it's silly to do much of anything until after the shower in July (my mother and mil are joining forces!) and dh has been waiting for warm weather to paint the ceiling in the nursery anyway...
Thanks for all the responses so far! So relieving to know I'm not the only one who hasn't baby stockpiled yet. I do figure I should at least start setting goals to get certain items so it's not a mad rush in the last days. Once I finally move and feel a little more settled, maybe then I will feel a sense of urgency.
I think I'm going to set an item/group of items a week to get between now and then (i.e. one week will be baby wrap/sling, then following week or week after that will be homebirth supplies, then cloth diapers, etc). This will also give me a chance to research and find good deals or get things used. This is a second baby and my family is far away, so I'm not counting on a baby shower.
I think with the first LO there is such a feeling of NEEDING everything because "what if...?" But this time I just don't want to deal with all the stuff. Still though babies do require a certain amount of stuff. So in order to make this week's goal, I'm going to check out the local kid's consignment shop for a wrap/sling! Wish me luck!
We haven't bought a lot of baby stuff. I kept my favs from my son. there is a papasan chair for when i need to shower and his diapers. I make baby carriers so I've got a good selection of MTs and Slings and 3 mobys (around here some where)
Other then that really, i've been knitting alot. lol
I did start an amazon baby registry, i put the carseat on there, an amber teething necklace, some new baby legs, diaper detergent, wool mattress pad. Random things like that. Some is baby-centric, most is family-centric. Oh, i should put a first aid kit on there.
We have so little room I think my DH would have a MASSIVE cow if I were to haul in a new dresser or a crib that would never get used lol ...
which works for me. baby doesn't need more then 2-3 drawers, 1 for clothes, 1 for diapers, 1 for next size up clothes.
Ha, now I feel like I'm slacking. This is my first, and we are not very cluttered.
Our purchases to date: car seat, ring sling, Ergo (on the way- thanks goin' green!), 5 onesies, changing table from Craigslist (no nursery for us either, but this is my 'I'm not a hardcore enough minimalist to not get this' purchase), changing pad. There's a lot of stuff that we'll wait on to see what the baby's into. I'm going to get more clothes and receiving/swaddling blankets together, probably a Moby, but am not too worried about those things or the other basics on the list.. The big thing that really stresses me out is the whole cloth diaper setup. I'm pretty sure we're going to go in that direction, but I need to decide whether I want to do it from the get-go or use disposables for a few weeks, do rentals or just buy, etc. It's a big enough expense that I should probably be attacking it in little pieces, a few items at a time.
Fun question, anyway--welcome!
Well, I bought a midwife :) If you know what I mean. Her services any way. I figure that's my best preparation :)
Also I have a great stash of cloth nappies and wool wraps and I have knitted a million baby items. But not bought much yet. I have a sling too, but feel the need to certainly buy anther couple.
@Hyde - I went back and forth about newborn diapers with my first. Finally, with about 3 weeks to go, I bought them :-) I'm glad I did. Not so much for the same reasons I stuck with cloth (mostly money and better for baby) but because I felt I never got used to the ease of disposables like some of my friends who kept putting of the switch. This was especially good for DH because he everything baby was new to him so he got used to cloth right away and is now a diaper changing machine whereas some of my friend's husbands refuse to use anything other than pre-stuffed pockets are all-in-ones. Prefolds and covers are pretty cheap and since they don't get used that long, they are in excellent shape even though I've loaned them out as well. So if you are waffling, I'd say go for it.
The wait and see approach is so good but there is something about being pregnant that makes you think once baby is born, all stores that carry baby items will close and never re-open or something :-)
We used sposies with DD for the first 5 weeks -- because that's how long it took her umbilical cord to fall off. Seriously -- it was remarkably tenacious. DH is still a total cloth convert (and he did pretty much all of the diaper changing the first month -- I had a c/s with a super rough recovery), but I can see how that would be the case (and we do have several pockets).
Anyway, I might need to exit the thread I made my first baby purchases for this LO today. One of my friends neighborhood had a massive neighborhood-wide yardsale and we spent about 3 hours this morning shopping. I got a pile of zip sleepers, a few sleep sacks, super-cute onesies for a quarter, and ... a double stroller. I am still not convinced that we need/want one, but DH seems to think we'll use it, and it's in fantastic shape and was only $40.
Also, re: changing table: We put the baby in our old office, and bought a changing pad to just go on top of the desk that was in there. It worked out great and was much easier on my back -- another of my friends doesn't have a changing table and is all "What do you need one of those for? I just change the baby on the floor!" and I think, "Dude, I'm old." But we won't have room for it with this one! Maybe I can change him on the bed!
Madi, that is one of the options we have, though I still need to check how they handle NB sizing. I've heard some people say they've been just fine with infant-sized everything, and others swear by newborn fitteds/covers, the whole nine.. and the most maddening part of it all is- maybe it depends on the baby? (At any rate, the thought of having someone else do the laundry is definitely enticing..!)
BRC_MacKenzie, I've wondered about just that! We're planning on my husband doing a lot of the diaper changing since I'll be doing all the feeding if all goes well, and while I'm not philosophically opposed to using disposables for the first few weeks it seems like keeping the procedure the same might help things go more smoothly--very interesting to hear how this went for your husband vs. others you know. I'm thinking with mine, knowing that he's prone to stressing out and that he's feeling anxious about the learning curve involved in infant care more generally, starting out with cloth might be a real kindness I could do him.
Meanwhile, I am on and off of the GMD site like a middle schooler working up the nerve to ask a crush to the dance. ;)
crystal_buffaloe, this was too funny and exactly how I feel: "...another of my friends doesn't have a changing table and is all "What do you need one of those for? I just change the baby on the floor!" and I think, "Dude, I'm old.""
newborn dipes- we actually used the preemie size from the diaper service for the first little while because DS was just 6 lbs at birth, though technically full term. Then we switched to smalls. It was nice to not have to worry about buying new diapers in a bunch of sizes! As far as newborn covers, I like the cord cutout for the first few weeks at least, so for that alone I prefer prefolds for the NB stage. Plus our local service ONLY does prefolds, you supply the cover.
The nursery right now is my craft room, and there's a dresser in there that will definitely be "converted" into a changing table (plus storage for baby's stuff) - i.e. I'll get my stuff off the top, lay down something waterproof and something soft, and set up extra diapers/wipes/etc. I feel like, given that just the nursery and our bedroom and bathroom are on the top floor, though, most of the day time changes will probably take place on my living room floor on top of some kind of designated changing blanket...
newborn diapers--I started with infant-sized prefolds and Thirsties Duo 1s at about 4 days old (we used 'sposies from the hospital till they ran out). DS was 9-5 at birth, though, so he wouldn't have fit in true newborn dipes for long if at all. As it was, what we had only lasted about 7 weeks!!
changing station-- For the early days, we do have a PNP with changing table for downstairs. teegan, I think you are wise to consider how you will change with the bedrooms upstairs. That's our situation as well, and I NEVER change a diaper on the changing table in the nursery! It's either downstairs or on our bed upstairs.