This is my 3rd pregnancy, I'm 29 weeks and I planned a UC with the last. At about 50 hours into the labor, I was fully dilated and I could feel the babies head, I was having strong contractions close together, but after hours of that, I didn't feel the baby moving down at all. So I was concerned he was stuck somehow, I was exhausted and probably not thinking clearly, and we transferred to the hospital. Nothing ended up being wrong at all, so I regretted going. So this time we were going to hire a midwife so if it happened again, we could ask someone if they could check and see if anything was wrong so we don't get into a situation where we are unsure and transfer when it's not really needed.
So I just had my 3rd meeting/appointment with my midwife. And after this one, I realized she is really stressing me out. She wants to be way more involved than I want. She wants to check the baby's heart rate every 30 min from the beginning of labor, and then more frequently as labor progresses. She said I can't get in the birth pool until she is there. There would be 2 midwives there, plus an assistant. I haven't met the other 2 women. Our apartment is small and I am just freaking out about that many people being there. There is just something about this midwife that really stresses me out. When she took my blood pressure and heart rate, my heart rate was really high. I already knew though, I could feel my heart racing. It's happened every time I have met with her, but otherwise I felt generally really calm in all other situations. I think because she was talking about where she could camp out basically at my home, talking about emergency situations, like how she is going to have multiple people there so one can resuscitate the baby while I'm hemorrhaging. All of that combined plus the fact I already had to tell her not to talk to me like a little kid, I have been stressed ever since. She's also forgotten many of my preferences already, and when I was there she forgot about her next appointment. I am just concerned.
I heard that the second midwife was much more laid back, I haven't met her yet. I think I will see if she is better and maybe just hire her instead. Or maybe not call the midwife when I'm in labor unless we have a question. I don't know. I just want to be left alone. Since I have had two healthy babies I'm not really worried about anything happening. We think that the delay might have been caused by the fact my pelvis was higher on one side, because my legs are different lengths from orthopedic surgeries I've had. So this time we've found a chiropractor who attends home births, and he thinks he's corrected my pelvis and he's willing to come check me when I'm in labor and make sure I'm adjusted. I'm a WAY more comfortable with him coming to my house when in labor, than this midwife. So I think it's her personality and mine, they just don't work together or something.
I guess I just posted because I needed to talk to someone who would understand.