If it's a boy, I would tell him. Here's why: He told me that he doesnt want to find out this time because if it's a girl he might be upset for the rest of the pregnancy. If we just have a girl and he sees her for the first time, he thinks he wont care, he will be excited and love her no matter what. Then he told me he wished there was a way that he could find out if it was a boy, but he knew he couldnt just ask the doctor to tell us if it was a boy, because if she didnt tell us anything he would know it was a girl.
So, the only logical thing I can think of is to ask the doctor to tell me but not tell DH- and not let DH know that I asked the doctor. Then, if its a girl I can keep quiet and if it's a boy I can tell him. And I can keep it quiet- it's not something I would leak out. Plus, Ive just "known" with my other two so if I started calling it "she" that wouldnt be abnormal.
Is that wrong? Do you think I should make a point to ask him if it is ok for me to find out?
Also, how have some of you convinced your partners to find out the sex? I didnt want to know last time, and he did and convinced me to find out. But, I have already made that point, and he doesnt seem to care.