Anyone else have a 10 mo who wont nurse except at naps/at home? What about water in the summer?
This is common with babies with acid reflux (also known as GERD, or infant reflux). Babies with acid reflux will sometimes develop a feeding aversion which can be mild, to moderate, to severe. Since they frequently have heart burn and this heart burn is triggered or worsened by eating, they learn to associate eating with pain so they don't want to eat. But, when they are sleepy they are distracted and relaxed and can be coaxed more easily to eat. This has often been called "sleep feeding."
I'm not sure if this is what is going on with your daughter, but I did have two GERD babies and they would only eat when sleepy.
You can get some information about infant reflux and ask questions on the forum at infantreflux dot org
Is she a generally fussy baby? Does she sleep well? Does she eat any solids?
Here are some links I found that talk about sleep feeding and reflux.
I wouldn't say she sleep feeds. She is awake and aware. She just won't feed out of the house or anywhere but bed or a darkened room. she doesn't seem to ask to nurse, nor does she seem to realize nursing would quench her thirst.
It's so inconvenient. And I feel like I'm missing out on so much comfort nursing, cuddles nd portability!!
My son also did not realize that he needed to quench his thirst until he was about 18 months old. I worried about that a lot so I used to thin all of his solids with some breast milk to increase his fluid intake until he began drinking from a cup.
Sleep feeding doesn't mean the the baby is fast asleep, just that they will only eat when groggy/falling asleep/half asleep/etc. I'd consider reflux especially since you mentioned that she screams and arches during feedings (another classic reflux symptom). My son would take food from a spoon, but he would not nurse or take a bottle unless he was dozing off to sleep. And eventually he quit even that and I had to spoon feed him his breast milk.
Hopefully it's not reflux, but I would definitely consider it with her symptoms.
My DS was also a reflux baby that acted that way. It was difficult at younger ages and meant it was hard to be away from home because he HAD to nurse. But by that age (10 mo) I just offered solids and water in a sippy during the day and he has been fine. He is now 16 months and still nurses at a nap if we are home, and several times at night. Otherwise he gets raw goat milk or water.