We don't have any family nearby (and don't really have friends/community here to help out), so I'm very grateful that our families plan to travel here both before & after the baby (our first) arrives. My sister A (& my 10yr old niece) will be here for the 2 weeks before my due date. Then my mom arrives for 10 days with my sister C (but she'll come out earlier or come back later if the baby arrives early/late) & dad will fly out when the baby's here. After that, my sisters E & H will be here for a week with my 1yr old nephew. There's a week when no one will be here (unless I give birth 2 weeks after my due date, in which case mom will be here). Then my partner's sister & her husband & 3yr old son will be here for the first week of September.
All of these people are planning on staying with us (guest room and/or aerobed in the living room), though my mom & dad will probably go stay in a hotel once dad gets here since he needs to sleep on a real bed rather than a futon/aerobed. I'm pretty comfortable around my family - I probably wouldn't hang around completely topless, but seeing boobs for breastfeeding is completely normal. They wouldn't expect me to cover up, and my mom & sisters who breastfed/are breastfeeding should even be able to help with minor issues if I need it. I'm not going to have the same comfort level around my partner's family, especially his brother-in-law, which worries me a little.
We live in Philadelphia, which fortunately has plenty of things to do/see, so I'm hoping these visitors will actually spend lots of time out of the house during the day so I don't feel overwhelmed or like I have no privacy. And my partner won't be taking much time off work (no paid time off, so we can't afford it) so he'll be away 4 evenings a week, and I might really welcome having *someone* around to make sure I get to eat & go to the bathroom. But what if I'm having a hard time and just want to be left alone, or we just want to bond with the baby by ourselves? I don't think I could ask any of them to go stay in a hotel, since they're already sacrificing time & money to be here (& decent hotels nearby aren't cheap). I really think that it will be better for us to have people here, even if we get a bit sick of them, than to be completely alone with a new baby, but what if I'm wrong?
Are you planning on having houseguests after your baby's arrival? If you've done it before, was it more helpful than annoying? How did you handle it when you needed privacy?