Hello there -
I have a 5-year-old son with whom it took us 18 months to conceive. I'm 35 and we are TTC #2 and are right around the 18 month mark yet again. Honestly, I never thought it would take us this long again. This time around, I didn't want to be as strategic and wanted to be more mellow, so honestly, we haven't been giving it our all and some months we only BD once (or we took a month off here and there). So, it's hard to know (as usual) why we haven't gotten pregnant yet - is it because we haven't tried hard enough or is there something else going on.
Which leads me to this: last time around, we didn't do any testing. We tried (repeat: tried) to go with the flow, be patient and trust that it would happen and that we were fine and healthy. I have been in that same mindset this whole time until now, for some reason. I guess there's a part of me that thinks maybe it isn't a coincidence that it took us a while the first time around and now it's taking us a while again - maybe something is up.
I/we decided to do a SA for my DH. We get the results next week. I feel like it's an easy way to get some answers for at least one of us. If his report comes back and is off, then we can move forward (hopefully naturally) with tending to the issue. If it comes back fine, then I am wanting to get a basic workup/testing done. And, here's my question (took a while to get to it!)...
What is the basic testing for the woman? Is it a blood test where they check hormones? Are their other things to check? Do they check it at a certain time in my cycle? Where would I begin if I didn't want to get too invasive? How can they tell if I'm actually releasing an egg? My cycles are pretty regular with sometimes having a short LP. Does anyone have a suggestion for where I would begin?
If things come back fine for both DH and myself, I feel like I will at least have the peace of mind that we should just keep up the good work, knowing that everything is working.
Oh and I'm going to try OPK this month. I feel like it will be a waste of time and money since I've charted quite a bit before and am really in tune with my body, but I feel like what they heck, let's see it I learn something new! Maybe my "surge" isn't until after my EWCM and maybe I'm a bit off on when I think I ovulate. I have a feeling I know more about my body than this OPK, but I'm at the point where I'm ready to explore my natural and easy options.
Thanks in advance for any feedback or thoughts :)