Hello there everyone,
My daughter is 17 mos, and we have been co-sleeping since the beginning, and I've always loved it. My partner (not husband) has been really supportive, although he never got too involved or read any of the literature I gave him. He always said it was my decision, and he'd support it. Around 1 year old, we moved to a new apartment, which allowed us to give her her "own room" (previously only 1 bedroom). So we put a twin mattress on the floor for her, and I've been moving between the adult bed and her bed ever since...usually starting out in our bed, then moving to hers at her first waking (3 or so hours after her bedtime), and sometimes going back to our bed in early morning. It's clear to me that she can't sleep without my presence, and that's fine -- I love being able to comfort her, nurse her, and have her fall back asleep so easily. I really do love co-sleeping.
But I also love sleeping with my partner...and miss that, and am wondering if anyone else has been in this situation? I tried Dr. Jay Gordon's method of night-weaning when she was 13 months, but after a week, she and I were both exhausted and miserable, so we stopped...now that she's old enough to understand the concept of going to bed (she helps put her bears to bed, we say goodnight to lots of people and turn the light out together, she's able to fall asleep without nursing, just with me there), I was thinking about trying it again just so she can sleep better at night.
Writing this, I can see how partly I also really just want some support for co-sleeping...my friends don't do it and I think my partner wishes we had let her cry it out in the beginning, even though he says he respects my decisions. I'm sad that we have this difference in our parenting, but do feel strongly that I've done and continue to do the best thing for our girl...
Any advice would be welcome...thanks.