I'm new here, but a friend of mine told me that you might be able to help. My name is Ashley, and I have a 2 month old son. We've been trying desperately to breastfeed, however we're not having very much luck...
My son, Aiden, was born April 12. He was admitted to NICU for breathing issues, and they put a feeding tube down his nose, giving him formula. I tried pumping during that time, but was getting very little. They gave him everything I pumped. He remained in NICU for a week. Due to his breathing issues, they wouldn't let me put him to breast except maybe twice (they were scared of him aspirating it, which is why for the most part they fed him via his tube; though they did bottle feed him a few times on the formula when they got his breathing regulated). During his stay in the NICU he also developed jaundice pretty badly, they wouldn't let him come out from under the billilights; so they continued to use the tube as necessary and bottle feeding him under the lights.
While he was in NICU, I'd pump at his bedside. I recorded his cries and used that to pump when I wasn't near him. I'd keep something that smelled like him near by. I was (and still am) drinking Mother's Milk tea. I've tried oatmeal even though I don't like it, and I pump constantly. I'm about to give up.
I've been trying constantly to breastfeed. At first he'd latch well, though it took a lot of work. He'd nurse, and then start screaming for more. So I'd try to relatch him. He wouldn't have any of it. I'd wait for him to calm down, relatch him, and try again. He'd start to scream. So we'd offer him a bottle of formula, because it seemed as if he wasn't getting enough. In fact, I'm pretty sure he wasn't. When I pump now, I get nothing. When I try to hand express a bit, I get a little, not much.
I am at my wits end and don't know what else to do. He absolutely refuses to latch now. At first I merely thought it could be nipple confusion. But now, I just don't know. I'm very frustrated, and getting really depressed because it's not working. I knew it wouldn't be easy, but I didn't know it was going to be this stressful!
I don't know what to do. I'm seriously considering giving up even trying anymore, because we end up having to bottle feed him anyways, and when I pump I get nothing. I used to get about an ounce. I know that doesn't mean much -- baby is better then pump -- but if he won't latch I don't know what else to do!