I don't even know where to begin right now....things are just terrible here but I do have good and bad news. One thing that I have not mentioned, but will now, to add more drama to my story is that my husband is the main problem. To make a long story short, he is, as my family calls him, a con artist. This is so difficult...he will do anything to avoid work. He is extremely mentally unstable but he is a sponger/taker/freeloader/. We've been married 1 year, together for 2. The job that he recently got? Not producing. When my husband has money, which is from his disability and student loans, I have to cross my fingers in hopes that he will do the right thing with it, but he usually doesn't.
I've asked the title question with a view to taking care of everything myself. It's my house - I had it before I met him.
I want him to leave - yesterday he was pressuring me and hounding me to give the house to him so that he could get a mortgage because I can't. He will NOT do the right thing with it. Yesterday he tried to get a car loan to buy a $67K vehicle. He's really.....crazy and concerned for his own comfort & luxury.
OMG. I can't believe I just told you all that, but it does apply to the situation, so there it is. I don't know when he's leaving or where he's going but it can't be soon enough for me. I just hope he doesn't try to take 1/2 my house. Honestly I don't even care about a divorce, I just want him leave. He's verbally, emotionally, & mentally abusive.
Well there's a lot more I could say but I'll leave it at that. The good thing (I think) is, that when he leaves I can go to social services and then with his income gone I should qualify for daycare so that I can get a job and some more assistance. Unfortunately they will put a lien on my house, but what can I do?
I'm sorry to hear that this is happening to you again. It seems from reading your posts from the past few years that you moved too fast into this relationship after your previous relationship and you didn't listen to the advice of your family. What does your family advise you to do now in your current situation?