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Who else is getting close?

post #1 of 69
Thread Starter 

I'm now 39 w 1 d --- and feel like I'm getting close now. I was checked last Tuesday and am 2 cm and 80% effaced. With DS I had him by 39w 3d. Who else is getting close to or past their due date? Is anyone doing anything to move things along? I have been doing acupuncture, evening primrose oil and will start black and blue cohosh once I get to 40 weeks. 

post #2 of 69

Hit 40 weeks yesterday. It was so weird today being out running errands...I had several people comment on how  I look "ready to pop at any moment" and then ask when I was due. It was kinda strange to say "yesterday". A week ago I spent a lot of energy trying to "get things going" and had several bouts of prodromal labor that petered out over time. I finally decided I'd had enough of trying to do stuff to get labor going, it was only tiring me out and frustrating me when I would eventually stop. But now I'm in a weird limbo...REALLY ready to have this baby but also feeling like trying to get things going is only going to give me more prodromal labor which would honestly make me go insane! My last was born at 41 weeks, so I guess for now I'll just continue to be patient and re-evaluate next week...

post #3 of 69

I've been thinking in terms of my "due week" rather than day, but now we are at that week! My DD was 5 days past her date, but she wasn't positioned that well and was my first.  So I had been hoping that this one would come earlier.  I had a doctor mention to me that the conventional medical approach is to not let women over 40 go past 40 weeks because there is an increase risk for stillbirth.  She wasn't recommending inducing, but just brought it up as something to talk to my midwife about.  I know that it is just a statistical thing and that most over 40 births are just fine.  My midwife isn't concerned (she has had 7 children, the last was in her mid-40s).  But it still put this thought in the back of my head that I really WANT to have this baby earlier.  

 

I was feeling crampy on Thursday and Friday.  I had acupuncture on Thursday and Friday did a lot of last errands.  I really felt "done" with the world on Friday and just wanted to be home never to go out again.  I thought that maybe it was my sign that things were going to get going this weekend.  But now I'm feeling more balanced and no more cramps.  I am getting my house cleaned tomorrow, so I'm glad to have the baby wait one more day.  And I've been really tired, so I'd like to get more rest.  I'll see the chiropractor and acupuncturist tomorrow.  I've also started listening to the birth affirmation CDs in hypnobabies which hopefully will help open things up (you aren't supposed to listen to those until birth time since it supposedly can start the birth process). 

 

Our whole family is just in waiting mode now.  We've slowed way down and are having nice family time together.  It is great, but also makes me more aware of the clock ticking away.  I just keep reminding myself that the baby is waiting for just the moment that it needs to be born.  I don't want to push him/her to come before their time. 

 

Oh, the other thing I've been doing is a lot of writing.  I normally don't journal a lot, but I've felt like there are things I need to process through in order to welcome this new baby.  There are a lot of issues that I have been trying to put aside during this pregnancy, but finally thought I'd better just take them out and look at them now rather than deal with them after baby comes.  So, each night I've been trying to write out all of my worries, griefs, resentments, etc to clear space in myself.  Hopefully that will help make things clear on an emotional level which can open the way to a wonderful relaxed birth.

 

Knowing that the birth time could come at any moment now is exciting but it is also really hard to not know when exactly it will be!

post #4 of 69

I'm 39w today and definitely feel like my body is ready to labor but nothing consistent yet. I've had several instances where I felt like labor was starting but not yet!

post #5 of 69

I've been having that "getting close" feeling-- I'm 39+4, and am definitely experiencing the last stretch type things.  I've upped my RRL/Nettle tea, but am not doing anything else yet to hurry things along.  As much as my body feels sore and done, I really feel like this baby has its act together and has an agenda.  lol  I'm a VBAC so if I go to 41  weeks, I'll start to run into hassles, and will probably try to encourage baby at that point...but hopefully s/he will be earthside by then!  I think I'm kind of an anticipation junkie :)  As hard on my body this late pregnancy has been, I just LOVE the suspense...kind of crazy!
 

post #6 of 69

I am 39 weeks today and life is getting tough. All day nausea, I often feel really heavy painful pelvic pressure and contractions every night.  My dh can't work to far out of town, which is financially a nightmare.  We are suddenly a few thousand dollars into our savings. There is way to much stress in my life right now. But things have come together nicely for dd as far as college goes. Looks  like ds#1  is buckling down and taking his regents seriously this year.  I am expecting 40 people for a grad party a few days after my due date. You gotta laugh, you know?

Hey and this is really odd, but for the last two days I feel this tiny little vibration on my cervix throughout the day. It lasts like 6 seconds, I told my dh I think I can feel my waters exchanging? So weird.. Hope you are all in labor as we speak.

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post #7 of 69

Hello everyone! I hope you don't mind me joining- I just found the ddc groups! I'm 39w1d today. I'm doing HBAC, so although I'm not too worried about when the babe comes, the mw already mentioned that postdates aren't too favoured upon for VBACs. Which to me makes very little sense! I've been drinking rrl and nettle tea, and doing evening primrose- just to help prepare my cervix as I had a very long prodominal labour with dd. My dh has been doing light acupressure points, more to learn the pain ones for when I am in labour. Overall I'm feeling great! Can't wait to get to know everyone!!!!
 

post #8 of 69

I'm at 39+5 and am wavering between trying to get things moving and just accepting that it will likely be another couple of weeks before we meet this babe. DS came at 41+3 and in speaking with my mom yesterday she reminded me that none of her 6 babies came any earlier than 41+3. I find focusing on trying to make babe come exhausting and just a mean mind game since it will kick start a few ctxs, but nothing that will bring on real labour.

 

I have a midwife appt tomorrow and think I'll opt out of a stretch and sweep and just let things progress as they will with no intervening. 

 

Trying to stay zen...

post #9 of 69

Hi Rainbow Brite! Welcome:)

 

I know this isn't anything new, but....I'm just wondering how long this can go on?

 

I've been told that #3 can be like this--you know, unpredictable. I am having BH all the time now, all day long, regularly. Some days when I have the patience to actually time them, they are 2-3min apart and quite uncomfortable. Then there are the nights where I wake up hourly or more with strong contractions, go to the bathroom and then fall asleep again. Repeat. Repeat. You get the idea.

 

I'm drowning in 3-4Liters of water a day, drinking my prenatal brew, excercising every single day, etc. Feeling pretty good except for that pelvic/lower back area.

 

Today I'm 39.3 weeks. DD was born at 38, DS at 39.

 

The strangest thing about this is just how different it is than with DD & DS. None of this wondering business. I just knew.

post #10 of 69

Sraplyas- #3 was exactly like #1 for me anyway.  

 

I am 39 weeks today.  DS3 came at 43 weeks and I think I will die before I last another month!  I am feeling much less patient this time.  I am cranky and so darn uncomfortable.  I haven't done really anything since saturday and might continue this lazy thing I have going on.....  It is so pathetic I haven't even bothered to dry my hair in about a week.  Anyway- I am ready to be done.  Yestereday afternoon all I did was soak in the tub and then shower- that is it...  Tomorrow my MW comes and then I might try to actually get a haircut on Friday- maybe that would perk me up.

post #11 of 69

I'm 40 weeks tomorrow, and am in that same lazy place.  I really thought labor was starting this past weekend, and then it all just stopped...grrrr.  Still having the crazy BH, and the relaxin surge is making me feel like my legs are coming unhinged from my hips-- but the crampiness has slowed down and the baby is a bit quieter.  Being an HBAC, I'm not quite freaking out, but definitely want to get this show on the road before 41 1/2 weeks (which is when my midwives are required to confer with an OB back-up...not that I have to listen to the OB, but still something I don't want to worry about.)  Yesterday I decided to put in my garden, and today I did some shopping I didn't think I would get to do...maybe I'll paint my belly or something fun like that.  Really, though-- I just want someone to take DS to the playground and let me laze around watching Hulu and eating watermelon.  :)
 

post #12 of 69
Thread Starter 

HI Rainbow brite! Welcome! 

 

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Originally Posted by mudhugger View Post

I'm 40 weeks tomorrow, and am in that same lazy place.  I really thought labor was starting this past weekend, and then it all just stopped...grrrr.  Still having the crazy BH, and the relaxin surge is making me feel like my legs are coming unhinged from my hips-- but the crampiness has slowed down and the baby is a bit quieter.  Being an HBAC, I'm not quite freaking out, but definitely want to get this show on the road before 41 1/2 weeks (which is when my midwives are required to confer with an OB back-up...not that I have to listen to the OB, but still something I don't want to worry about.)  Yesterday I decided to put in my garden, and today I did some shopping I didn't think I would get to do...maybe I'll paint my belly or something fun like that.  Really, though-- I just want someone to take DS to the playground and let me laze around watching Hulu and eating watermelon.  :)
 

I had the same thing around the full moon - right around when I wrote my first post. I really thought labor was starting -- I was super crampy, was in evacuation mode (sorry if tmi), and just kind of felt like things were happening. And then the weekend came and it all stopped. argh! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who has hips that feel like they are going to fall apart. They really hurt at night! Its really hard to sleep when they ache so badly..

 

iowaorganic - how did you make it to 43 weeks without going crazy?! I can't imagine. do you think maybe your dates were off or was it just that that's how long your body/baby needed? 

 

sraplayas - did you have any "signs" before the other 2 that told you labor was imminent? how did your labors start with the first 2? i had DS at 39w3 days - I'm now 39w4days... @ this point i'm thinking i'm going to be pregnant forever! I can just see me going to 43 weeks... 2whistle.gif

post #13 of 69

thegoodearth- I don't really know what the deal was other than I had a really bad cervical lip and went in and out of labor a couple of times starting at about 41.5 weeks.  It was really weird.  Maybe I was nervous about my first home birth?  Who knows?  It was miserable though- for the last week my mom had to take off work so my kids could stay with her cause I was a nut job...  Which was really really awesome to just lazy away and sleep :)  My dates weren't off too much- my babies just like to cook a little more I think- my others were about 41 weeks.

 

mudhugger- I want watermelon now....  Icy cold watermelon...  heavily salted.  yummmm.

 

rainbow brite- Hi!  took me forever to find this too :)

post #14 of 69
I am at 40+4 weeks today. I've had prodromal labor since 34+5, I am seriously ready. Especially cause I've been having contractions for the past 5 days now, had bloody show Monday, been in evacuation mode all week and just feeling ready overall. I'm going insane and quite frankly I feel like crying my eyes out. I know ftms go longer, but I just need to be done. I've been so sick all pregnancy and noiw I have puppp all. Everytime y body.
post #15 of 69

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone!

 

mudhugger- I'm doing hbac too!

 

My mw stopped by yesterday as I was willing to try a stretch (at our prenatal the mw rec them at 37 weeks for anyone doing a vbac, but at my 38 my cervix was too posterior to find and at the 39 there were too many births happening). I was willing to try a stretch but no sweep, but yesterday agreed to both (39 +3). I was 1cm dilated so she couldn't really stretch, but was able to do a sweep. I'm 50% effaced. With dd, I had no progress on my due date, so I see this as good news. And she could feel the babe's head, so baby is quite low. I'd be comfortable not doing anything and just waiting, but apparently it's not seen too good to go post dates with vbac (silly imo). So in order to get my hbac I'm ok trying some encouraging my body to get ready things :)

 

Hope everyone is having a great weekend! It's awesome weather here in ON Canada!

post #16 of 69

Rainbow Brite-- yay for hbacs!  I really hope everything goes smoothly for you and you can stave off intervention-- sounds like everything's unfolding just as it should  stillheart.gif
 

post #17 of 69

i am at the due date that i estimated based on my fertility. the due date my midwife is going by is this thursday.

 

i feel like it kind of snuck up on me! definitely not actively doing anything to move things along at this point, but starting to think that it really is going to happen and soon! i still have birth supplies to buy and things to accomplish before baby arrives. i am so unprepared!

 

it would be nice if i had some energy and time off. i am still working 4 days per week, i have two days completely off that are spent trying to get things done around the house and one day that consists of taking DSD horse back riding, mucking out stalls and doing barn chores. i'm going to laugh at myself if i'm still shoveling manure and handling horses after my due date this week!

post #18 of 69

OK- I am about done.  I can't hardly even walk around this baby's head.  Moving is miserable....  Seriously this baby is so low I can't believe it isn't falling out...

post #19 of 69
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OK- I am about done.  I can't hardly even walk around this baby's head.  Moving is miserable....  Seriously this baby is so low I can't believe it isn't falling out...

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I'm totally with you!  I keep thinking that this baby may just fall out and just skip the whole labor thing.  Geesh!  How much lower can they get before it's time to birth them?!

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I'm totally with you!  I keep thinking that this baby may just fall out and just skip the whole labor thing.  Geesh!  How much lower can they get before it's time to birth them?!


Ha!  I was just thinking this!  Even spent some time in the mirror trying to envision what station this little head would be at, because it certainly doesn't seem to have far to go!  How long could it possible take to come out?  :  )  I am a bundle of mixed emotions...mostly ready and wanting baby to be here and feeling like this next week (39 weeks tomorrow) is going to be brutal...fortunately (I think) it is busy with appointments for me and the kiddos and DH is a teacher and finished work tomorrow, so that is a HUGE blessing, to have him home for the rest of the summer.  Phew!  But still, I have gotten so uncomfortable, mostly in the last 3-5 days, and hate not being able to do much of anything with/for my other kiddos. Just can't sit anywhere comfortably or sustain any activity for very long due to being uncomfortable. Not even comfortable right now sitting in bed. Too much weight/pressure bearing down.  Don't know what to do with my huge self!  Ready for the week to start...I feel like time goes by faster...but simultaneously amazed that it is here and trying to go through my many lists and make sure I am physically and mentally prepared!!  AAAAaaaahhh!  Exciting!

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