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post #61 of 73
Thanks boots! We used Costco last time and I was super happy with the price/ quality.
post #62 of 73
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He's not irresponsible, but he doesn't understand why if, say, the furnace breaks, it's a big deal to not have any real money to pay for it.  I totally freak out without a safety net.

 

I tried to explain to my DH last night Lilytiger about how I felt and why I needed a safety net etc-- I think it got to him. We decided we can't afford to have a car, even if it is a 'gift' from my FIL ((FIL offered to give us one of his old cars so we took it in for a quote/servicing because it doesn't start on a regular basis, and they said it will be about 6,000 Euro to have it fixed (around $8k USD) for the basic repairs needed - not 100% but enough it runs/doesn't break down etc .. the insurance and gas is also high because its old and its an off road car so driving it long distances is horrible, also no heat or AC, lots of vibration).

 

Its just sad because my FIL is really wealthy and could easily have it fixed and in working condition for us without batting an eye, but for us its a major expense right now and its money I just don't feel we have AT ALL to spend on a car, and so we are going to have to decline his offer which no doubt will cause a lot of fighting/anger from him when we say we can't take it as planned- he gets really angry if we agree to X and end up not doing it.. .. Not looking forward to the next few weeks of that sh-t storm. eyesroll.gif
 

post #63 of 73

Finally having a peaceful night due to chicken wings and a nice walk (it was only 90 degrees at midnight! ;) So I'm ready for some serious catching up with my homegirls! 

 

Justchanti, Thanks for the fellow teacher sympathy (What grade do you teach?) It's a hard decision. So the way my school works is that I teach both 7th and 8th graders. So half my students next year will be students I already know, and the other half will be new. I sort of want to meet the new 7th graders but I also don't think it would work well because I wouldn't be able to really establish norms they would remember. Also, I think we're going to have the sub in another classroom (thank god, because I have 1500 high-interest books in my room I got donated/bought with my own money I would worry about constantly) so it would be especially weird for them to be with me for a week. We're leaning towards me not working that week but I don't really necessarily have to decide until at least mid July when I file my maternity leave paperwork with district. Good luck with your move! I would think toughing out the flight would be the better option but I HATE flying, so I wouldn't blame you if you decided to drive, do you have a vehicle to transport?

 

Eleuthia, I just saw your news about your placenta issue. I am sorry, that must've been a shock and rethinking your plans about birth center vs. hospital etc must be tough. I am not one who had very solid plans and was planning a hospital birth that I'd hoped would be low/no intervention. However, if it turns out that this gene issue I have will cause a clotting/bleeding problem and they will insist on constant monitoring or induction, I am ready to just go with it. I hope you get supportive care while making these decisions.

 

Lilytiger, I am glad you had a great shower! I can't watch the video right now without disturbing DH's beautiful symphony of snores but I can't wait to see it. I hope you're feeling better soon, too!

 

Lizbiz, congrats on your news about moving back to the states! I am amazed how many of you ladies are dealing with uncertain situations and transitions while pregnant  (I'm looking at you Leann!) And doing it so gracefully. Hats off, ladies.

 

Speaking of hats off, total kudos to those of you with cranky toddlers. I just can't imagine. No really, I can't. I am all about me during this pregnancy so thinking about taking care of a toddler is just an alien idea.

 

poppy, I am so glad you were happy with the quality of Costco birth announcements, yay! I am trying to get together my addresses and print labels while I've got the time.

 

Tchotchkes, yay for head down baby! What a relief. I wish they had an upside down baby icon :) banana.gifDancing banana will have to do.

 

Thanks for the support about the perinatal consult Monday. I did have a minor freakout earlier this week, mostly about what a folate absorbtion problem could've caused, but really I have so little information I am trying to wait and see. Thankfully DH will be going with me to the appointment, I am pretty sure, and if not my friend will go. I also have my 32 week appointment that day, so I am assuming my OB won't really be able to speak to what their recommendations are yet. I think I will have to have more bloodwork done to see if there really is a risk, anyway.

Our shower is a week away and that's exciting. My friend will be coming in from out of town with her husband and son, and I am excited to see them. I feel so lucky to have someone come in since my parents aren't able to due to my mom's health (She can't tolerate the heat).

We're starting to think about money, too, and how much will be needed to get the rest of the essentials after the shower. Hopefully we'll be okay, but it is stressful, especially because I get a lump sum at the beginning of the summer we've used to pay our mortgage and no paycheck again until July, then it will drop to a 66% for short term disability. Ugh, all that paperwork still needs to be done!

post #64 of 73
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Congratulations, Lizbiz!  Where in the States are you moving to?

 

Oh, ithappened, I'm so sorry to hear about the financial worries.  We're incredibly tight too, and it's really hard to manage the "how do we afford X if we buy Y" conversations.  I've always been a saver, whereas my husband has always just used up his entire paycheck and then just ate beans (literally) until he got paid again.  That way of life is SO stressful to me, and so we've been really working to combine our strategies.  Thus far we haven't really been able to save anything, so adding a baby makes me worried.  And it's hard to talk finances since everyone always has so much emotional baggage tied to the way they handle money.  I hope your husband breaks out of his funk soon.

Penny-- this is our financial relationship too!!  It is super stressful for me, and to top it all off I have been supporting us for the past year while DH opened his own cafe (his dream).  We've been able to make it, but don't have much savings and I am starting to get a bit panicked at that thought.  I did use a big chunk of what savings we do have to pay off my student loan, because that was making me crazy and was one of the things I wanted to have done before we had a baby.  We're doing OK for all the major things in life (mortgage, utilities, food, car, etc), but what if there's a big unplanned expense like medical bills?  It's quite nerve wracking.   (sigh)

post #65 of 73

lakeruby right there with you. I used about 9-10 months of income to pay off DH loans because I wanted to be 'debt free' before the twins came-- but now we've had a bunch of unforeseen expenses and here we are again. . . broke and such bad timing- I'm really panicked. Not the best time to not be working for 3-4 months. 
 

post #66 of 73
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lakeruby right there with you. I used about 9-10 months of income to pay off DH loans because I wanted to be 'debt free' before the twins came-- but now we've had a bunch of unforeseen expenses and here we are again. . . broke and such bad timing- I'm really panicked. Not the best time to not be working for 3-4 months. 
 

I know!!  Ugh.  I'm really trying to find my inner zen about all of it.  I know that money comes and goes, but lately it just seems to be going :)   I try to remember that I have felt stressed about money before, and one way or another it will all work out.  It will!

 

Also, at my midwife appt today my blood pressure was up a bit, and I had trace amounts of protein in my urine.  REALLY hoping that I can get the BP to stay low.  Managing stress is going to be key for that to happen. We had our appt right after getting in an argument about $$ and our dog (who needs some dental surgery and to have a strange growth biopsied....UGH.  DH is not on board for expensive vet treatments, even though I am the one paying for them!  I think we are both worried about our sweet dog, but he is very anti-vet, due to some unfortunate experiences in the past...I, however, just could not live with myself if it turns out to be something and I didn't do anything about it. So, just adding it to the credit card bill...)

 

  In happier news, we are heading out on a 5 day vacation to North Carolina starting this weekend.  Yay!!  I will see ya'll back here after that.  

 

Hope everyone has a great weekend and beautiful next week.

post #67 of 73

Happy Weekend everyone!

 

LeAnn - good luck w/your monitoring.... how long do you have to do this for?

 

Penny - what is up w/the crazy comments??  Seriously!!

 

LizBiz - congrats on the great news!!!

 

LilyTiger - wonderful news about your brother, yay!!

 

Poppylove - nice that you have such a wonderful midwife!

 

Sol - glad to hear things are going well w/you and that you're getting lots done!

 

Boots - hmmmm, birth announcements....that's one thing I hadn't thought of yet, but a fun project that I'll be looking forward to!  Thanks for the tip!  Enjoy your visit w/your friend!

 

LakeRuby - good luck managing your BP and I hope your dog is ok!  Have a great time in NC!

 

Sorry to hear of the financial strains that many of you are experiencing.  It's such a common stress in so many households but yet a very big one.  Can really do a number on couples & families and cause so much anxiety and/or hardship, especially when you're now also going through this major life event such as having a baby!  I wish I could offer some constructive solutions, I've been through similar hardships so I know how stressful it can be.  Wishing the best outcomes for you all.....

post #68 of 73

I'm very excited! I decided just for the hell of it to go to the Highland games today! 

 

KILTS! Bagpipes! ! :D Its gonna be a blast!!! And my son will have a blast too! there's a petting zoo! 

 

Just what I need to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! lol! 

 

 

Ever since I found out little girl was head down, my anxiety? boom, down in the basement man. The depression is still there, HOWEVER, i got a letter from my GP- i had an ER visit at one point, and that was a whole "Charley Foxtrot" in and of itself, and it took them A MONTH to get my blood tests to my GP. Who then sent me a letter because I haven't had a chance to call him back... Apparently I am anemic. Which would explain the exhaustion, the dizziness, the headaches, the confusion, the lack of concentration. 

Put in a call to the midwives, hopefully I can get a hold of them Monday, bounce in there for a quick test to see what my levels are and do lunch w/ my MIL and my brand new baby niece on the same day!!! 

post #69 of 73

anyone have any light spotting ? I just had a small amount of blood come out when I peed (less then a size of a pea) but then it stopped..

post #70 of 73
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Originally Posted by ithappened View Post

anyone have any light spotting ? I just had a small amount of blood come out when I peed (less then a size of a pea) but then it stopped..

At this point, I would attribute it to mucus plug stuff - particularly with your twin situation. If you have any more that comes out or a bunch of mucus, I'd call your doc! Those babes might be coming early. :-)

post #71 of 73

thats sort of my assumption/hope too.. I guess that alpine hike I planned this week I will hold off on until after my doctor appointment thursday morning, as much as I'd love to give birth in the mountains- I don't really want to do it solo and with my dog as 'midwife' wink1.gif
 

post #72 of 73
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Originally Posted by ithappened View Post

thats sort of my assumption/hope too.. I guess that alpine hike I planned this week I will hold off on until after my doctor appointment thursday morning, as much as I'd love to give birth in the mountains- I don't really want to do it solo and with my dog as 'midwife' wink1.gif
 

 

Although that does sound exciting...

post #73 of 73

Ithappened - That definitely sounds like a step in the right direction. Although, if you haven't seen any mucus you could still have a couple of weeks to cook yet. Holding off in the hike is probably a good call either way, unless you really want to get things rolling. In which case, I'd reccomend a non-canine hiking buddy just in case. :D

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