My daughter is 2.5 and in the fall will be joining her older brother in a mixed age Waldorf kindergarten. She will be going for full days (until 2:30) which means she will be taking her nap around 1:00 PM (at school). She is also doing a little bit of camp this summer with her brother, and since we're picking her up at 12:00, she is also having to nap at around 12:30- 1. Her normal routine is to nap around 11:00 in the morning (sometime even a little earlier), and then to bed around 7 pm. We are having the exact same issue with her that we had with our son when he was this age...by pushing the nap time to any time after 12, she is unable to fall asleep in the evening until almost 9! We never solved it with our son...instead we ended up "taking away" the nap at age 3, and his bedtime has remained steady at around 6:30-7. Has anyone had this problem and successfully solved it? I feel like the only person in the world whose toddler naps in the morning. I've read that right after lunch is the "best" time for a nap given our natural rhythms, and also that having too long of a stretch between nap and bedtime can cause early waking, which is an issue we have with her...but I just don't know what to do! Even if I keep the afternoon nap short, she simply cannot fall asleep in the evening. Our children have always been "parented" to sleep, so when this happens it means one of us is laying with her from 6:45- 9:00 every night. That is not really a sustainable routine for us! Please help!
Thank you so much for any advice!