I'm just looking for fresh eyes on this so to speak. Ive been driving myself crazy looking at autism websites, symptoms, etc and don't know anything anymore it seems.
So my dd just turned 2 in May. She was (and is) a very happy, easy going baby from the start. Didn't sleep much as a baby, but that isnt unusual in our family. Great eater, etc. Sunny personality. At around 1, she started being very friendly and social, waving "hi", "bye". She interacted with friends, family and loved getting all the attention when we were out and about. She was behind on her gross motor skills, started walking at 19 mos. All on itself it didn't present as a red flag for me.
Around Easter (a little before) she got a very nasty stomach bug. For 2 weeks she was throwing up, diarrhea, etc. Lost massive weight. i did all I could to make sure she stayed hydrated. She came out of it, gained appetite and all weight back.
But... she's different now. At first I was just relieved to see her better. I figured she needed time to recover, mentally as well. I wasn't challenging her a lot, because I knew she's been through a lot. But she became withdrawn, apathetic almost. She's always been very attached to me, but now could be described as clingy. I carry her around a lot. She had words previously and it seemed she forgot most of them. She's regaining them now, as if she's learning them from scratch. If someone comes to say hello, she usually shrinks back in the stroller or just turns away. No waving anymore. I must mention that it is also not unusual for my kids to go through very shy phases, both her older siblings did as well.
There are other things. She is obsessed (to put mildly) with Thomas the tank engine. She was a big fan prior to her illness too. She would watch the videos all day if I let her (i don't). She only wants to look at Thomas books also. And play with the Thomas table we made for her. You get the idea. If it ain't Thomas, she ain't interested. I have to work pretty hard to get her to look and engage with me. She will but it seems to take more effort than necessary. If I get "in her face" so to speak, and ask her direct questions "you want juice?" She will answer "juice". Doesn't say yes or no, ever. If i don't get in her face, she is happy to be silent and stare off into space. She laughs at seemingly nothing sometimes. Basically she seems as if she floats in and out of our world, and if I or my husband work very hard she graces us with her presence. It wasn't like this with our other kids, who seemed to want our attention always, "look at this", "look what i did", etc. She doesn't show us anything. Doesn't point. If we're walking along and she sees a construction vehicle, she will say "truck". But is it for my benefit or just thinking out loud I can't tell. She is scared of vacuums and baths (before illness as well). Doesn't tantrum though ever, mostly just fusses if something doesn't go her way. Doesn't get distracted easily (or at all). that's all I can think of now, I realize it's a long post, thank you if you got through it!
She's on a waiting list for speech therapy and we are seeing her ped on june 21st. I just wanted to see if anybody had any thoughts like "definitely asd" or "maybe asd".... or what?