My little girl is an amazing child - when she's not melting down, she's kind, insightful, creative, playful, and intelligent.
When she melts down, she does any combination of these things:
-spits at me and her brother
- spits on the ground
- hits/ kicks/ bites/ pinches/ pulls hair - me and her brother
-name calls (she called me stupid today for the first time - don't know why - we don't use the word on a daily basis)
-screams at the top of her lungs
They happen several times a week. And can last over an hour.
I've tried taking her in another room - encouraging her to use her words - take deep breaths - consequences (natural and, admittedly, punitive) - I need help. She refuses to try any self-calming techniques. Sometimes she tells me she likes the way she feels when she's hitting/melting down/ etc.
I'm at my wits end, and feel like an incapable parent.