We took a 2 week trip to see my parents in May, and it was horrible to the point where we almost dished out a couple hundred dollars to buy new plane tickets so we could leave early. My mom got hysterical about us doing baby led weaning, and was convinced we were literally starving DD- on purpose- because we are health nuts obsessed with being thin. I tried talking to her about why we chose BLW, the benefits and so on, but it always ended with "people have been spoon feeding for centuries. I spoon fed you and you turned out just fine". It got to the point where whenever we weren't in the room and she was with DD, she would plonk her in the high chair and start spoon feeding away. I physically had to pry a spoon out of her hands. In the end she posted a really nasty public post about me on Facebook, which included the fact that we have chosen not to vaccinate for all of my family and friends to see.
Of course to top it all off, DD stopped eating solids on the trip, just wasn't interested at all which made our BLW seem like a huge failure in my parent's eyes. The only thing DD would eat was bread which I didn't really want her to have a lot of because we are trying to really ease her in to eating grains. We told my family this, but they did not listen and every chance they got they offered her bread and cookies. "She needs to eat something and your breast milk is not enough for her" is what they would say.
DD was hugely constipated the whole trip, I cried a few times, and both DH and I were constantly on our toes and hesitant to let anyone hold her. I tried to let go a bit, and it would've been one thing if she got a bit of dessert or something as a special treat, but this was 2 weeks of constant junk with little nutritional value going into her body.
We are going back in a month for 3 weeks and I am really scared. Scared that DD will stop eating solids again, scared that I will get into another fight with my mom. I don't know what to do about it and feel so upset that things have to be like this when we get together since we now only get to see each other 2 times a year. I tried so hard last time to avoid conflict by changing the subject or just stating that is our choice and that's it, but my parents are both so darn bossy that it didn't work. Any advice?